i was tring to have sex with my husband(its our first night of marriage)..suddenly it hurt very much, very much and very much..i felt his peenies within half inch of my vagina, but it hurt like anything! i pulled him and my whole body was shaking with pain...so my hubby said, its okay, leave for today...it hurt a lottttt....then,, i found i m bleeding..its red fresh blood...now, its bleeding still, but very slowly...is that my hymen? m i no more virgin? next time when i will do sex, it wont hurt anymore? i am very much scared about that feeling...it hurt me a lot..do u think, next time it wont hurt me that much if its my hymen? am i virgin?
2007-09-04 07:25:24 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
You're officially not a virgin, even if he didn't get all the way in. It's normal to be bleeding and nothing to be alarmed about.
It sounds like you have a gentle and understanding husband. It will probably hurt the next few times, but not as bad as this first attempt.
You may want to try some lube to make it easier (lube = a product specifically designed for sexual lubrication, to be used on the vaginal opening). You can find it in the women's health section and also where condoms are sold. Make sure you get a basic lube. Avoid any that say 'warming' or 'tingling'.
2007-09-04 07:36:33 · answer #1 · answered by christnp 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u got hurt for the first time having sex than it was very natural. Most of the couples never had sex at first night because of this similar problem. Next time when you again have sex, it will also hurt you but not like before. It will hurt you 5 or 6 times after that you can enjoy your personal life with your hubby without any problem. This bleeding is showing you that you was a virgin before so your hubby should be more happy.
2007-09-04 08:53:14 · answer #2 · answered by Dream Lover 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not a virgin anymore but unfortunately that doesn't mean it won't hurt the next time or even the time after. Sex can be quite uncomfortable even downright painful the first few times ( sometimes the first severl times ) give yourself some time to heal at least a few days and try again, try it with a water based lube like ky jelly or astroglide and it might be a little more comfortable. It'll get better with time... Can you believe teen girls are rushing into this? I always feel like they just don't get how much it can actually hurt and isn't fun at all when you first start
2007-09-04 07:35:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Use some SERIOUS lubrication, and try it with YOU on top. This way you can control depth and speed of penetration.
As for the bleeding, it sounds like maybe it was a tear in the hymen...it might not be so bad next time...Just be relaxed because being tense will make the muscles fight the penetration and it will hurt no matter what.
2007-09-04 07:38:50 · answer #4 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First time I had sex it hurt like OMG awfull I bled a little and then the second time I bled a lot around prob the 3rd 4th time it shouldnt hurt . U could still be a virgin If he didnt go all the way in it could of just streched the hymen
2007-09-04 15:11:03 · answer #5 · answered by sann 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first time you have sex, there is some tissue inside your vagina that when penetrated for the first time bleeds, it's called your Hyman. It should not bleed a lot now that you have had sex. People also use the term popping the cherry.
2016-04-03 03:15:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes that was your Hyman and you are no longer a virgin. It is perfectly normal. We all go through much the same thing the first time. You are lucky to have a husband who understands !!! Just relax next time !!! It gets better and better !!!
2007-09-04 07:38:29 · answer #7 · answered by Diana 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not a virgin anymore. maybe next time it wont be as hurt as the first one. try to use lubricant.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hymen
2007-09-04 09:07:28 · answer #8 · answered by Kid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best advice that i got was to use lubricated condoms or other lubrication such as ky for the 1st couple of times don't worry it gets better with time but for me the 1st couple of times were not enjoyable at all...
2007-09-04 07:33:20 · answer #9 · answered by sweet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ky jelly baby and just go with the flow. enjoy. and relax it helps the penetration not to hurt. relax ur hips and breath normal. good luck and enjoy.
2007-09-04 10:53:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋