Guys I am asking this from the womans point of view. I am aware that you see it the other way around. But there are things that obviously the guy is responcible for and why doesn't he just step up to the plate and take the responciblity for it and change it himself if he is so unhappy?
2007-09-04 06:16:13 · 14 answers · asked by Praire Crone 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why do women in general want to generalize about men? *G*
2007-09-04 12:11:47 · answer #1 · answered by Boar's Heart 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women are, by nature, supposed to be the ones who hold their marriages together. Men DO have duties but when things go wrong the woman is always looked at like "Why couldn't you keep it together"? That is because women are the nurturers, the lovers, and the base in the relationship.
Some men just can't be tamed, but when it all falls apart the woman is the "failure". It's unfair, but you are exactly right.
2007-09-04 06:24:50 · answer #2 · answered by Tina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because it is women in general to whom they are married.
It's not a gender thing; it's a relationship thing. When it comes to blame, there are four categories. 1) People who blame others, 2) people who blame themsleves, 3) people who blame both, and 4) people who do not engage in blame.
People in general blame others. If it is a marital problem, the common thing to do is to blame the partner. For it is a lot easier to see what someone else does than to see what oneself does. It boils down to point of view. Therefore, if a man is married to a woman, there you have it; the woman gets blamed. If he were married to a man, the man would get blamed.
Any answer to this question that is gender based, misses the actual state of affairs.
The secret is to stop BLAME altogether.
2007-09-04 06:23:59 · answer #3 · answered by Theron Q. Ramacharaka Panchadasi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's human nature for one side to blame the other. The hardest thing in a relationship is to take responsibility and that goes for both the husband and the wife.
With maturity comes responsibility and some people just don't grow up.
2007-09-04 06:30:19 · answer #4 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because "those" men are trying to act like women.
Man should take responsibility only if he is a Man. However, women try to make man to act more like a woman. those men that give in and start acting like women will never accept any responsibility.
2007-09-04 06:46:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They don't want to deal with the problem, just hope it will go away. Why ? Wish I knew. Guess they take their marriage for granted, and don't see until its too late how much they love their wife and should have made more of an effort for the relationship.
2007-09-04 08:45:50 · answer #6 · answered by t24 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't speak for every guy, but my husband was an alcoholic and didn't want to face it.
In general, for men or women, it's easier to place the blame on someone else's shoulders than to own up to it.
2007-09-04 06:22:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes two to tango its not always the man nor is it always the woman. No parties need to change both parties should COMPROMISE in most cases
2007-09-04 06:26:20 · answer #8 · answered by sexiebum 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I can't say that this happens in every relationship but in my relationship the roles are reversed my BF stays at home does the cooking and cleanning and taking care of my son and I make the money... pay the bills ect... this works better for us
2007-09-04 06:28:56 · answer #9 · answered by oh_jo123 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't change because it is what you want not what he wants. You can't change other people. Why not take responsibility... probably because he feels attacked and that puts almost anyone on the defensive.
2007-09-04 06:23:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋