Right, my boyfriend of two years has just left me for another girl! I am still in shock, however I always could never find fault with him in any way, he was perfect in every way. But clearly now I see he is cruel. I loved him with all my heart, so so much. I still love him but if he did decide he wanted ME back I don't think I could after this. He got me through the death of my mum 2 years back and I got him through his problems I won't go into. We've been through so much together and had such great times together too and he has thrown it away. I know he can't have loved me to do this, but my question is, is it possible to ever love any one as much again? I can't imagine anyone who could ever mean as much to me as he did...thanks
2007-09-04 05:42:57 · 44 answers · asked by . 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My answer to that is a big YES!
You just need to give yourself time to heal yourself from the pain that your having. It is tough. But when the time comes that you're over the things that happened, slowly you will see yourself loving someone again. It will be different in one way or another but one thing is for sure, the next time that you'll let yourself get into a relationship, you'll be wiser and better. And the love that you'll feel inside you will be much greater.
Just give yourself time to heal for the meantime. :)
2007-09-04 05:53:56 · answer #1 · answered by marcoboi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you think it's possible that the relationship has lasted it's natural course and there's no real need to get too upset. You say you have been through alot...could this be the problem? When you look at each other does it bring back a lot of the hard times? It's a real bummer when a partner finds someone else so quickly, you feel that they are being hurtful or just uncaring. You'll find somebody else and the experience you've had will be extremely helpful to you....look forward to meeting that new guy....what do you think he'll look like?
The love you have shared with this ex - boyfriend is not wasted, don't think of it like that, relationships come in all lengths ands sizes the shortest usually being the most fun. ( and if you have a dirty mind like myself you'll find this paticulaly amusing!!!) x
2007-09-05 03:47:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear that. It is always tough to get over a long relationship, especially when everything was great. Now to answer your question. Yes it is possible to love again, but there has to be some healing time. You will always, even though you may not want to hear this, hold a love for your ex-boyfriend. You too have shared moments in your lives that no one can go back and share over again.
That will not go away, but in order to overcome this past relationship you need to spend more time with yourself, before you enter into another relationship.
You need to try to understand what happened in the relationship to cause it to turn out this way. Whether it was something you did or didn't do, or something he may have done, or didn't do. This is a good time to let yourself breath and identify what it is you want in a relationship, and how you can better yourself to enter into a long lasting, healthy relationship.
The worst thing that you can do is to enter into another relationship without letting yourself heal. You'll find yourself bouncing around from person to person, not ever finding true love.
Oh yeah, remember to let him go. The only way you can do that is by forgiving him. Yes, what he did was foul, but don't let him make you bitter.
2007-09-04 06:01:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh hun, I really feel for you. I know that right now you must be feeling utterly alone and heartbroken, but even though it's a cliche, time is a great healer. I can tell you that is IS possible to love someone as much again and it IS possible to find someone that won;t hurt you.
I believe we all go through heartache at some point in our lives, it makes us stronger and more experienced people. These things in life are thrown at us and we have to deal with them and move on.
I know you see your ex as perfect, well he wasn't, he left you for someone else. Please don't go back to him if he asks you (I've been there, done that and got the T shirt and emotional scars to prove it). You will go through a hard time over the next few months or so but please believe me, it will get easier. Go out with your friends and family and enjoy your life as a single person. Love will find you when you least expect it. I met my husband when I had just come out of a 5 year relationship, the last thing on my mind was love. We are now married with our first baby on the way.
Good luck and be strong, you'll get through this.
2007-09-04 05:57:22 · answer #4 · answered by Nickynackynoo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello there, Although it is possible for you to love again, It is also possible that after the seperation, for you to want to go back to your ex wife and children again. This happens all the time, because suddenly you realise what you had and it doesnt feel the same when your with someone else. Every relationship is different, it really depends on you, You could move on and find that the one you move on to is 100% better than your ex in soo many ways but it could happen that the one you move on to is worse than your ex. You cannot forget the person you were with for that long though, more so if you have children together. Best of Luck
2016-05-21 02:01:55 · answer #5 · answered by ema 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In time you will see this is the best thing that has ever happened coz ther will someone else that you will love even more and you will wonder why you were ever bothered about him. I know right now it is heartbreaking but doll yourself up and go out and flirt with some boys and show him what he's missing but don't ever go back coz if you let him get away with it once he'll do it again. Think of it as a new beginning with all those men out there, you can have a field day.
2007-09-04 07:06:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may seem that after getting your heart broken that you could never be in love again. That is not true. A person's heart has the capacity to love over & over again. You will, for the most part, always love that person. There is a difference between loving somebody & being in love with somebody. And don't go looking for love~it doesn't work that way. It will find it's way to you... Don't settle for the next person that comes along.. because even if that person is just a little better than your ex. It will seem that they are a world different/ better. Just let nature take it's course.... & remember~ if it's meant to be.. it will be... & take time for yourself to recover from your past relationship...it takes time but it will get easier... but remember if you feel that this is a low point for you~ there is nowhere to go but up...
2007-09-04 05:52:59 · answer #7 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my goodness, YES, and you may even find that the new guy you find and fall in love with is even more than what you had with this one. I know you can't imagine it right now, this is all still painful to you but time will take care of that and when you do find love again, you may look at this old bf in a totally different light. There's a lot of great guys out there and you'll find love again.
2007-09-08 18:43:01 · answer #8 · answered by celinallll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can and WILL love someone as much again. I still remember the first boyfriend I had and the man who replaced HIM and then the guy I went with after that - and so forth. There were so many surprising things to learn about each of them and so many things to be grateful for. But at each point, I couldn't see ahead and that's the point where you are now. Trust everything that has been said so far because it is absolutely true. You wil love and be loved deeply again!
2007-09-10 09:00:22 · answer #9 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are gonna look back at this thought one day and laugh. Not only can you love again, but you will know what you will except and what you will not except. You will know what to watch out for and never ever want to be with him again. Yeah... You are thinking that it's impossible not to ever want him. Heck no. After some time has pass and you are finished gathering all of your thoughts and your heart is healed, you will hate the personality in him. You do know that his actions have nothing to do with you don't you? That is just his personality. You can't change it and you can't love it out of him. So the best thing for you to do is give him his freedom.... freely !!!! Fix yourself up and hold your head up.
2007-09-09 20:47:01 · answer #10 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋