My gf of 2 years had started talking to this guy on myspace and I asked her about and eventually she told me that they had been interested in each other. What blows my mind is he doesn't seem like her type at all. We were so in love and I brought this "idea" up even more and we broke up(she dumped me). She said that she got nervous thinking about us moving in together and she thought I would change my mind about her later down the road. She had never even met this guy and now she has...and said "things are good thus far" with him. She moved me to number 2 on her myspace list and him to number 1...so I moved some girl to number 1. She told me to talk to that girl if I was feeling down and I asked her why and she was like, "well you moved her to number 1 and that was immature." But she did that to me! And then she said "Well we're both each other's number 2 now...." I guess I can't get her back somehow? She lost her mind.
2007-09-04 05:21:49 · 10 answers · asked by Mint Car 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I have no friends, social anxiety, and I'm very lonely.
2007-09-04 05:22:07 · update #1
She was such a nice girl, I don't understand. That's why I was so comfortable with her...unlike with other people. Should I not drive over to her house today and try to talk to her? We have talked back and forth over email about stuff like, "I'm still here for you" etc.
2007-09-04 05:34:19 · update #2
I'm really sorry that your relationship broke apart but I think it would of happened anyway.
All I can really say it that it might be time to move on :)
Good luck x
2007-09-04 05:25:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Inform her that you are no longer together, so why would she be listed as a top friend. She is no longer number one in your life. Tell her you actually thought it was mature of yourself to not delete her, even though you were tempted. Then just politely just delete her. An Internet relationship where the two barely new each other is usally very intense and built on alot of illusion and fantasy, probally destined to fall apart. Just get over it though. If its ment to be she'll be back but DON'T wait around because it never happens most of the time.
2007-09-04 12:38:29 · answer #2 · answered by david b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her go. If she could not come to you and tell you about this, and you had to find out on myspace, she is not a keeper.
The time is now for working on you. To build your self confidence and work with a doctor/therapist on you anxiety issues. Do not trap yourself into a small box when there is a big wonderful world and life waiting to be had for you out here!! Join some fun classes and a support group. You can and must do this. Otherwise when you get to 30's and 40's you will realize the time you wasted. DO IT!
2007-09-04 12:28:25 · answer #3 · answered by yowhatsup2day 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This supports my theory about myspace being the devil....anyway, it does sound as if your former girlfriend was being unreasonable, and I don't know whether it was just a one-time instance, or if she behaves like that regularly. But, it sounds as though she just wanted to have an excuse to break up and/or wants to provoke you, in the way that girls do (not as blatant as when a male does it). Just forget about her, she seems like a source of undue stress and frustration, and you can find someone better who is possibly more rational and tolerable.
2007-09-04 12:29:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she just needs some space? i was going out with my boyfriend for a year and four months and it freaked me out a little that we were so serious. i went on a break, and hookedup with someone else and after that i realized that i really loved him. maybe you should just see other people in order to see that you belong together.
also, she probably did the myspace thing to upset you. next time, don't go down to her level and then it will upset HER when she realizes that you "dont care" trust me. i've played the myspace game too much myself.
2007-09-04 12:27:53 · answer #5 · answered by AlauB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, how would you consider if your girlfriend is not that guy's type? secondly, you are in lack of communication wif her, thats how she got nervous..maybe in deed you are not her true type...well, what childlish is that she cares more about that guy than you by now, so of coz she moved him to no.1, and you just did the same act to her as an revenge becos she knows she is still your number 1
2007-09-04 12:48:28 · answer #6 · answered by chengnam_us 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's sad that where you stand on someone's "friend list" on Myspace can affect your self-esteem so badly, but I know exactly how you feel.
My solution was to stop using Myspace all together. It's really juvenile and it really serves no purpose at all.
2007-09-04 12:26:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's new !
This kind of drama has been staged millions
of times throughout the history of mankind.
Don't ever blame others, blame yourself if you
can't get a number 1. Be wise, and get on with
life smilling.
2007-09-04 12:34:35 · answer #8 · answered by nomad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay you need to care for number 1 first YOU!!! get help for your social anixity and everything else you need some balls and confidence!
Get them then worry about the girl!
Trust me! more girls will flock and maybe this one will come back!
2007-09-04 13:06:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Recognize the beautiful person YOU are. Autonomy is power. Love yourself, doll, you don't need another person to validate you or your life.
you can do it
2007-09-04 12:32:53 · answer #10 · answered by reynwater 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋