Normally I am such a goodl girl. I am on the Dean's list. I am a great friend...and generally a good person.I am losing control. I thought i was in love (eventhough I am only 20.) I realize maybe now I am not. I got in a fight with my bf...and he didn't talk to me for 3 days. So I went to a party with my sister She stayed Sober, and promised if i drank she would watch out for me. I have never been drunk up until this point in my life. I was in such a bad mood...i had a bad bad week at college...my BF was not talking to me..and i was realizing i just wanted to change a lot of things in my life. I am tired of being the Boring girl who never makes mistakes. So I got drunk..and ended up making out with the guy i hung out with all day. I don't regret making out with him (it was cheating,but it pretty much over with my bf). I agreed with the guy I made out with to just be friends i didn't think that we would really ever see eachother again. Now I can't stop thinking about him.. What do I do?
2007-09-04 05:20:50 · 7 answers · asked by don'tlookatme 1 in Social Science ➔ Other - Social Science
Maybe you can't stop thinking about him because he is the first person you did something with that is out of the ordinary for you. He is probably a "rebound" from your bf, too. Don't try to start another relationship right at the end of one. Go on dates & have fun but allow yourself to heal from this break up so you enter into another relationship as healthy as possible without any chips on your shoulder. Best wishes
2007-09-04 06:45:57 · answer #1 · answered by curiousgeorge 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You may be the boring good girl but you still need to grow up and face your 'mistake'. Now that you've made your 'mistake' and messed up, you desire what you didn't know you had.
You could apologize to BF, but that doesn't change the fact that you cheated on him (Did you miss that whole Rachel/Ross thing on "Friends"?) even though you were on a 'break'.
The better thing to do is to give yourself some time and space to forgive yourself for making a mistake. Hopefully you learned the hard lesson. Forgive yourself even if BF never does. And then sit down and really evaluate that relationship you had with BF. If you were so willing to cheat on him, maybe it wasn't a secure relationship to begin with. I'm not saying he wasn't "the One", I'm saying your relationship with him lacked strength somewhere, and snapped at the first storm of trouble.
Give yourself and him a couple of months (not days, months) to cool down and figure things out. Once you've apologized, it's up to him to decide to forgive you. You may get lucky and find he has it in his heart to do so. If not, chalk it up to a hard lesson learned and move on. You said you wanted to make changes in your life, and this is a big one. Now is your chance to put yourself together as a fallible human being. Now is the time to figure out those weak spots in your former relationship and work on making them stronger in your next one.
But try to forgive yourself. You are not the only person in the world who has made this 'mistake', believe me. But also be sure to give yourself some time and space between you and the next relationship to recuperate and cope.
Good luck.
2007-09-04 13:27:53 · answer #2 · answered by enn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call him. Boyfriends are made in such ways unfortunatley.
2007-09-04 12:27:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to concentrate on your education and for get the drama with the bf.
2007-09-04 12:31:11 · answer #4 · answered by Granny 1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give yourself a break.
2007-09-04 13:49:58 · answer #5 · answered by Ce moi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Curious George has it right on!
Good answer, good answer. :)
2007-09-04 15:41:59 · answer #6 · answered by saloon girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't think
2007-09-04 12:34:46 · answer #7 · answered by Rana 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋