what does it mean when you don't like how your portrayed to people? & how can you deal with it if you don't

Question

like how your portrayed?

thankyou for such great answers

Answer 1

I have expierenced this same question. *sighs* The way I deal with it is "Let them say what they want, becuase they don't rule my life". I mean sometimes I do stuff accidently, and they think I'm a snob, you know? All i know is that you should not care how your protrayed, just believe in yourself.

Answer 2

People have their own ideas about anyone else - some are well received while others are not. It depends on who you are where you are from and under what circumstances the two should meet. Don't ever judge a book by its cover - try to see the inner person though many people obviously do not. Attraction is physical by means of getting closer to though it might just be the wrong thing to do. We were given mouths and voices in order to communicate with each other - there are plenty of folk who don't need such things..I am one who prefers the voice over anything else. Some voices are sincere..though again, its down to the perceiver to know this and get this info. If rejection is the aim then most likely they use body language techniques and you do not so therefore fall to the wayside. Is it snobbish or human? I prefer the casual approach and no tricks up my sleeve method. What you see is what you get attitude. Hope this helps. By the way, use of body language is not my forté and will not inspire me but rather make me divert into the wayside. It's un-trusting too, for the simple reason, if they use it on you they use it on everyone whatever the time of day good or bad and against you eventually.

Answer 3

If you don't like how your portrayed to others, then that means that you don' t like how others see you or view you. It can be due to your tone of voice, your appearance, your attitude, etc. Many factors influence others and their perception of people. If you don't like how others perceive you, then perhaps you could ask what it is exactly they don't like. Then you can work on changing those attributes. Perhaps you speak with a certain tone that demeans others, or you seem to be conceited, or other factors. You can only change these things if you can and are willing to change them.

Then again, some people are just jerks and don't like others based solely on their clothes, hair, shoes, social status, etc. These are things that people should not be judged on.

The only way others should be judged on appearance (ie. clothes, hair, shoes, etc) is if you are going to a job interview where appearance is a major factor.

Answer 4

It basically means, people see you from the outside and think of you in a certain way but they don't actually know you personally like how you behave at home or in other places so there are tendencies for some people to think of you in a good or bad way. One example is, let's say your co-workers thought you were a very mean and tough person by appearance, but never saw you outside of work like lets say at the mall or at home etc, they might think you are like that all the time. Truth of the matter is, let's say you are a very decent person but they wouldn't know that because they only see you in at work or very rarely.

Answer 5

It means the way people see you is not necessarily how you are. Say if you dressed in baggy jeans, and shirts with a bandanna-you might appear to some as a troublemaker. Even if they don't know you, its kind of stereotyping. Just be who you are and don't worry about anyone else. At least you have the satisfaction of knowing you are real.

Answer 6

I always felt, that many people, judge a book by it's cover...and that can cause problems for some people..but the way I see it, is I don't do that, and find and have found, many interesting people, that turned out to be millionaires, etc...and I never judged them by what they appeared to be...so if someone wants to misjudge me, it tells me a LOT about that person, and I usually steer clear

Answer 7

im the same, i act distant, cold, shy and unresponsive and come across like im a kid or stupid un-aware of my surroundings and that im not intelligent and i do this to people i know for over 4 months cause i cant let them in, and dont trust people and scared they wotn accept me as my pure self.

i dont know what to do, except maybe open up a bit more and see there reaction, i dont wanna push them away with my personality cause i require people cause im lonely.

Answer 8

This depends on how you're being potrayed. Change your behavior?