I've been with my girlfriend for over 4 years already. We are both over 24. I promised myself I would never have sex (through any kind). My girlfriend is getting frustrated with me. But I think sex is very perverted and stuff. I do kiss her (and foreplay) and everything but I would not have sex ever. Do you think she will leave me for not having sex?
2007-09-04 04:55:16 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
yes i do. especially if she's getting frustrated. but, maybe you'll feel better about it after you consider marrying her. but, if you're not going to even consider having sex, then i think you should let this woman go. continue to be friends with her, but let her have the freedom to be with someone else intimately if she so chooses to do so.
God Bless.
2007-09-04 05:01:57 · answer #1 · answered by EM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What?? she has been with you for 4 years and no sex?? Sorry I would have left a long time ago. Sex is a very important part of an intimate relationship. If you think sex is perverted maybe something happened to you when you were young or something to make you feel this way. You should get some counseling for sure!!!! You didn't state it but it sounds like you are saying no sex EVER?? Is that true or are you wanting to be married first. If you truely mean no sex ever, you REALLY need to seek professional help b/c something is definately wrong.
2007-09-04 12:02:42 · answer #2 · answered by misbotta 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you post this multiple times? Once was sufficient (multiple postings are a violation anyway) and it's your choice not to have sex, although you need to find a woman who feels as you do.
There's nothing "perverted and stuff" about sex. Humans are designed to do it, just as are all other mammals...the difference being humans are also designed to enjoy it, and not just use it for procreation.
Will she leave you? I would...but that's just me. Sex is part of a healthy normal relationship and I personally would not choose to be in a romantic relationship with someone, but not have it. You need to discuss this with your girlfriend and see how she feels...it may be time to go your separate ways, and save more heartache later.
2007-09-04 12:00:26 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't seem natural. It sounds like you might have a deeper issue reguarding your feelings about sex. I would suggest speaking with a professional to learn more about why you consider normal sex to be "perverted" I do believe your girlfriend will leave you if you aren't willing to take the relationship to a deeper level.
2007-09-04 12:06:26 · answer #4 · answered by nomad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i cant answer a question for someone else but i can tell you my opinion and that is if she is getting fustrated with you now then maybe yes. i think you should talk to her and let her know that you do not want to ever have sex if you have already told her this then sit down and talk to her about it again she maybe not ok with this because maybe she would like to have sex with you ar have a biological child at some point in which would be diffcult with out having the sex
2007-09-04 12:02:50 · answer #5 · answered by Angela 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she's frustrated for sure... sex is not perverted... let go of it and open up to the idea. There is a very good possibility she will find somebody else who would like to explore sexually... so sh could leave you for not having sex... yes...
2007-09-04 12:01:32 · answer #6 · answered by Back W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would!
Why do you think it is perverted and stuff? I think you should seek some help as that is not what it is.
Sex with a loved one is one of the most wonderful things that can ever happen to you.
2007-09-04 11:59:51 · answer #7 · answered by MissE 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you must find out why you feel that way about sex. either you are a homosexual or you could be repressing a childhood memory of maybe being molested. something had to have happened somewhere in your life that makes you feel this way, and yes i think your girl will leave you for someone that will enjoy having sex with her.
2007-09-04 12:00:19 · answer #8 · answered by rhodeislandbornandraised 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why do you think sex is perverted, whoever placed that thought in your head, and how old were you when it was placed there. Just curious.
2007-09-04 12:01:47 · answer #9 · answered by peachiepie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have issues that need to be dealt with if you think sex is perverted. You need to seek help.
2007-09-04 12:00:03 · answer #10 · answered by kim t 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋