I'm looking for opinions from both sides of the fence. This question is not just pertaining to guys I'd date, I'm referring to men in general (friends, co-workers, etc.):
From my experiences socializing with guys, why is it that most of them are either
1. Intimidated that my knowledge of classic rock extends beyond the "staples" (i.e. Stairway, Layla, Comfortably Numb, Sympathy for the Devil, Bo Rhap...you get the idea),
OR
2. The fact that my knowledge isn't enormous to the point that I can't name all of the songs of your favourite underground & virtually unknown 70s prog-rock band when I meet you, and therefore I am not worth the time of day
I've also met guys who also have this idea that girls shouldn't even LIKE classic rock, but that's a whole different ball of wax.
Why do you think it's so difficult for them to just accept the fact that, yeah, I really like & respect classic rock beyond the norm, but it doesn't consume my ENTIRE life (just most of it!)
2007-09-04 04:32:39 · 22 answers · asked by [Kat] **tenement funster. 4 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Music ➔ Rock and Pop
Just wanted to clarify 2 facts further (just to make sure we're all on the same page):
I am in no way saying all guys are like that...I know you're all not (because if you were...well, I'd probably have no male friends to say the least!) So guys, don't think I'm attacking you all, because I'm not. I just don't know many guys (actually, any guys) who are cool with my music knowledge, so my question is simply based on that.
And two, this is not a question about why I can't seem to find a boyfriend (oh me, oh my...) I reread my question and it wasn't totally clear.
So, let's leave the boyfriend theories out of this, because that's not why I asked the question.
2007-09-04 17:29:46 · update #1
I am not sure if I agree with your argument here. I don't find it intimidating in the least. Why would that bother me? As for the being "unimpressed" part, that is somewhat subjective. I think anyone who has a deep love and appreciation of rock is wonderful. Since I already know that I exist and can't be that far from the beaten path, reason would dictate that there has to be more men out there who share a similar viewpoint. My gut feeling is it has more to do with the company you keep as opposed to a broad generalization of men. The real comical part of all this whole thing is you say the men are unhappy that you know too much AND too little about the classics. There's just no pleasing some people. I guess the real moral of the story is screw what the others might think of you and look to find individuals who will appreciate you for who you are.
2007-09-04 06:05:51 · answer #1 · answered by Rckets 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friends tell me I'm a nice refreshment from the girls who have an American Eagle IV in them. My appreciation of classic rock came from my mom and dad, so I will never be in the wrong with those who I most care about. I think it may be a mixture of both 1 and 2. People are 'intimidated' by us because they know that those who listen to our kind of music are more likely to question or challenge authority (I am not, however, saying that we all do this) and since the intimidation is there, they must find our weakness (not knowing that random prog rock band). I don't think we have a problem, I think we take some getting used to. But let's not generalize! Most guys are REALLy, truly, great guys who see past the AC/DC shirt and appreciate you for you. And as for intimidation? That's where I like to keep 'em.
:)
2007-09-04 06:47:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I love classic rock too,but I don't remember that I've ever met a guy who was intimidated or unimpressed with me 'cos of the fact that I listen to rock music or classic rock.Indeed,I would say that most of them were impressed by that fact.Indeed,there was a guy who started a conversation with me 'cos he liked my musical taste.
Don't know...I'd rather say that guys like it when a girl has 'good' musical taste.But what is 'good',right?Maybe I just spontaneously meet guys who like the kinda music I like so there's even an additional good in our relationship (any kind of relationship).
Also,I don't know where you live and what is the general musical taste there,and I guess it counts too.I live in Europe and I guess people here are quite into rock music or similar styles.As for the USA,it seems to me that people there are more into hip-hop,rap and r'n'b (maybe I'm wrong).So I guess this is why guys over here have no negative reactions if a girl likes classic rock or any kind of rock.
2007-09-05 04:24:02 · answer #3 · answered by Kincsike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wrong guys. For real. Nothing gets me dates like rock trivia. And, you know, cleavage. But not classic rock cleavage. That being said: guys who are intimidated by a girl with records? Yeesh. Are they also intimidated by the fact you wear pants? Drive a car? Vote? Who needs that. Guys who are big music snobs. Well, yeah, I've dated those. You can not bother, give them cheerful crap until they change the subject, or you can use it as a learning experience. Find out more about music through dating. I
2007-09-10 17:55:04 · answer #4 · answered by July 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know very few people male or female that do not like Classic Rock. It really is the music that people grew up with prior to MTV being around.
I would not a date a girl that was not into music! At least good stuff and classic rock is in that fold..
2007-09-04 10:47:21 · answer #5 · answered by hugh9269 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the group dynamic that you are surrounded by. I am like you......I love classic rock. I have a very knowledgeable background with it (started before I could walk....thanks dad). I have met and dated guys who thought it was amazing that I knew so much and had such a great appreciation for the music (and well, music in general). On the other hand, I've dated guys who just didn't get it and didn't like it (even though they were so-called classic rock junkies......yeah right, most only owned a Zeppelin T shirt and couldn't name ANY of their songs/albums besides Stairway).
Who cares what they think, like what you like. If you want to delve even deeper into the more obscure aspects of classic rock....go for it. You'll never know everything, but who cares. There are guys who'll like your knowledge, and more importantly you for who you are.
2007-09-04 05:01:47 · answer #6 · answered by Dani G 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-17 22:16:44 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like most classic rock. This guy at I know had his iPod and I was playing with it and played a song from Boston. I remember he looked at me shocked and said "You like them?" It was funny, but I think he was impressed by it. I guess lots of guys are suprised when a girl likes music besides pop and emo. ☺
2007-09-04 14:30:04 · answer #8 · answered by JoGirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's because you have intimidated them and they have a problem with the female gender knowing more about a male dominated subject than a male and they feel you have crossed the chroma zone line.
2007-09-11 06:58:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are with the wrong guys. I love it when anybody, much less a girl, can talk about rock and discuss the music and not how the band looks.
2007-09-04 04:45:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋