is she cheating or wanting to have a threesome? She is telling me about men that is coming on to her and then the other nite she told me that she had a fantaisy about her me and another man?
2007-09-04 04:30:25 · 34 answers · asked by Tim w 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have done this before with my man only because he wasn't giving me enough attention. I think she is trying to show you that other men find her attractive because she is questioning whether you do or not. If you will tell her she's pretty every once in a while this will go away. When I feel like my man is giving me no attention I will bring up everytime a man looks at me. Trust me - it will work. She doesn't want a 3some - just some excitement from YOU. She clearly just wants some attention from you. She is not cheating
** If you don't give her enough attention this could lead to cheating - women want to feel needed and be complimented - if she keeps not getting it from you, then she might jump at the chance to be with someone that starts giving her the attention that she is wanting from you - Here's an idea - surprise her with a small gift tonight and tell her it's just because she's beautiful and that you love her and feel lucky to have her - it will work wonders!***
2007-09-04 04:35:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Next time she brings it up, sit down and have a serious talk about it. Ask her point blank what she wants. Could be she's simply looking for ways to spice things up in your bedroom. If there is no "specific guy" she's interested in, but has a fantasy about a 3-some, there are ways to live out those fantasies ... visit your local adult toy store together and browse. Ideas will come to you.
However if she's looking for a 3-some involving a specific man, you should both look into counseling. Something is going on with her and with the marriage - enough that she's willing to risk putting her marriage on the line. This is kind of like her "cry for help" asking you to help "fix" whatever problems there may be.
Best Wishes
2007-09-04 04:52:27 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Ariana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to find out is to ask. However, prepare yourself for her answer. If you are a one woman type of man, DO NOT have a threesome. It will not save your relationship. You can not control what she wants or how she feels; but you do have control of yourself. You have to live with yourself and your decisions and when the rubber meets the road you must like who you are when you look in the mirror. Faithfulness, honor and commitment are decisions not feelings; have a open and honest talk with her and then make the best decisions for both of you. Stay healthy.
2007-09-04 04:56:57 · answer #3 · answered by Queen-T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i would say that if you're married, i hope she's not "cheating" - that would be bad. but, if you're dating - you might start to worry b/c she shouldn't be too terribly interested in other men, especially if you two haven't been "stuck" together for years and years.
on a positive note: she may just be a freak, and would like to explore kinky things. i would go ahead and ask her how she feels about a threesome. how to set the mood to ask the question: go get some flicks; call her over for a movie-night, and go from there. the flick should put you both in a pretty easy-going mood. and then just ask her would she do some of the things that you two see on the flick.
good luck.
2007-09-04 04:38:35 · answer #4 · answered by EM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People will ask everyone they know about there opinion on this. Yet the one person they should ask, they don't. There are many fantasies out there. When you bring them to reality they may not be what they/you think they would be. Remember what you do, can never be taken back. Women or men do not need to talk about the people that come on to them. It is there choice to tell them they are not interested out of respect to the person they are involved with. So, sit down with her and air it out........Good luck!!
2007-09-04 04:46:50 · answer #5 · answered by Cinnamon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess I'm a little old fashioned here, but I am a firm believer in just being with one person. The second you bring another person into the picture, you're going to be asking for trouble. If she's having dreams of another person with you, she's not cheating...yet.
2007-09-04 04:35:19 · answer #6 · answered by Beth 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is telling you about her fantasies then no she isn't cheating. Ask her if she wants a threesome and if you aren't down with it then just tell her so.
2007-09-04 04:35:31 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her what her fantasy would be, and do not get pissed off if she says she wants a second guy in the mix. It could be your oporitunity to have that threesome you've always dreamed of having.
2007-09-04 04:35:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i say dump her. if shes having a fantaisy about you and another man and you think you think she wants a 3some then if you whant to share her with another man then do you but if i was you i would dump her cuzi dont whant you 2 get hurt
2007-09-04 04:45:12 · answer #9 · answered by peaches t 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey, don't be a minute man, take your time and have a plan, you got to get her off as much as you can, or she will fantasies about another man. Good Luck.
2007-09-04 04:52:34 · answer #10 · answered by Gardner? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋