I'm been with my girlfriend for 5 months already. I have fallen in love with her. I want to tell her I love her but I am scared to. MAybe I should wait until she tells me she loves me first? I care so much about her. I think about her lots of times during the day. I think about having her in my arms, I think about how much I care for her and my feelings for her. I'm really scared of telling her that I love her.
2007-09-04 04:30:18 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
A lot depends upon your age. If you are young, still in HighSchool or College, then you should give it time. There is so much that can happen and people generally do not want to make commitments in relationships that will hinder their career paths.
In addition...... Saying "I Love You" is pretty strong language and may push her away as that is the beginning of "Commitment". Theres different ways and words to let her know how strong your feelings are for her.
If you and her are out of school and both in a career, then maybe you could talk with her about your feelings now.
2007-09-04 04:32:52 · answer #1 · answered by Bob 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Reminds me of my first love....
Well, as the guy, i think that you should tell her.
And if you really likes you, she wouldn't laugh or run away from you.
Since your question is How do I, maybe i could let you in on my first time.
Go to a place of natural beauty.
Beach (Preferbly on a not-so-crowded, evening atmosphere)
Hills (Make sure its a cool and dry temperature)
Grassy Offroads (Make sure to scout out the place, and if you see any ants nest, or snake pits, you should drop the idea completely)
Anyway, if none of these places are possible, then just one night after you send her home, walk her to the door.
Just gently take her into your arms, look into her eyes, and just tell her. Whisper it into her ear if you want, or if you feel that you'll die of blushing if you tell her, then just try and form it into a sentence like, "You know (Insert name here), i think i'm really falling in love with you". And then, wait for a reaction, please don't say anything else. Just shut up, and wait, a smile is good, she looks await shyly, its still good. If she pulls away, then, but i seriously doubt that will happen, not after 5 months anyway.
I don't know much about how much our cultural has changed, but i doubt a girl would say she loves you, unless you tell her first.
And don't be scared about telling her that you love her. There's nothing to fear in love, love is the ultimate surrender to a person. =)
2007-09-04 11:43:36 · answer #2 · answered by Jeremy Lee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont wait to tell her. You know everything you told us right here? Tell that to her. Love is love. It isnt a game or "if they go first then i will go next". maybe she is waiting for you to say all these things. Who knows but if you feel this way then tell her. There is no perfect time or place to say the words. They are powerful at anytime.
*Dont be scared--that is what is holding you back from knowing if she loves you the same way.
2007-09-04 11:34:36 · answer #3 · answered by dahnnna 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
gary, why are you scared?
that may mean something....
it makes me wonder how old you are.... b/c when you get a certain age, and you claim to "love" someone, you might be considering marriage to this person. and if that is the case, you can't be scared to tell the person that you want to spend the rest of your life with, that you love them...
so, if you're NOT thinking about marriage with this person, then maybe you should continue to hold your tongue, b/c - what if she doesn't "love" you back the way you "love" her??? are you going to stop seeing her? will she stop seeing you, b/c she thinks you're weird....
need to take some time to consider whether or not you intend to make this woman your wife - if you are, then don't be scared. but if not, then just continue to enjoy your time with her, and your thoughts of her, b/c if nothing else, she does make you feel good even when you're not with her :o) and that's always a good thing :o)
God Bless.
2007-09-04 11:52:21 · answer #4 · answered by EM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her... she will feel the same i bet.. she probably is waiting for you to tell her. I would maybe write her a letter is you are too shy... or get her something that tells her your feelings like a teddy that says i love you on it. See how she reacts. Most women would lve a guy like u.. be in touch with your emotions tell her you think of her all the time she will be so happy!!! :O)
2007-09-04 11:35:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just say it, you'll feel better. I just discovered that most of the time, the guy says it first! I think the girls don't because they're afraid they'll scare you (a guy) away. Give her a big hug and while you're holding her whisper it in her ear and see what she says. I bet she'll say she loves you too.
2007-09-04 11:46:17 · answer #6 · answered by spiffy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love her then tell her you love her. If you two are dating and it's a real relationship, then there's a very good chance shhe loves you too. Go right ahead and tell her a great girl would never change her opinion about you just because of that.
2007-09-04 11:36:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I just asked this question. Who should say it first....I think most women will wait for the man to say it to them. We don't want to "scare" a man off by saying those 3 words, and a lot of women think they will. I'm guessing she is waiting for those words to come out of your mouth. Just tell her :)
2007-09-04 11:36:41 · answer #8 · answered by You can do it!! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think everyone likes to know they are loved by someone; sure - tell her. Many women won't tell men they love them because they fear the mans reaction; she may just be waiting for you to say it.
2007-09-04 11:37:32 · answer #9 · answered by pussycat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her when the moment feels right, don't worry about who says it first. Don't expect her to reciprocate right away, and don't try to force her to say she loves you.
2007-09-04 11:39:50 · answer #10 · answered by Manny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋