I went from 145 (pre-preg) which was already too much( I am 26 and I was 135 in college) to 165 LBS. My husband, although I don't believe him says that he actually prefers what I call my new thunder thighs. Should I do this sexy performance for him or wait until I have less flab :-) ??
He's a great husband. Has not complained at all about my new weight or shown any signs of dissatisfaction. But in my opinion, when it comes to being sexy fat is fat . What do you think?
2007-09-04 04:29:55 · 14 answers · asked by learning...learning...pro 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2007-09-04 04:50:59 · answer #1 · answered by yvicks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he hasnt complained at all about the weight gain then give him the awesome strip tease show of his life!
waiting to do this or have sex when you are thinner wont get you or him any sex for months. do the dance and enjoy yourself. you burn calories via sex too.
*dont be chained to pounds either. if you do you will be in bondage to numbers. be a sizr you are healthy at and pleased with. dont try to be what you were in college. no one cares what you weigh unless you cant get thru a door and break chairs. if that is happening then it is time for help at an obesity clinic and at 165 you are FAR from fat being a health hazard.
strip and be happy.
2007-09-04 04:55:55 · answer #2 · answered by dahnnna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you comfortable doing a strip tease/lap dance for him?
If you are comfortable with your own weight, and he is still attracted to you, by all means - Go For It!
I've had 5 kids over the years, and I have added weight to my body. Yet my husband tells me I'm sexy, can't keep his hands off me. And it's not just something he says, he really means it.
If you feel your husband really means it (and we women know these things) then give him that special night - show him just how lucky he is, not to have a woman "like" you, but to have the woman that IS you!
Best Wishes!
2007-09-04 05:01:31 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Ariana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you are actually a dancer...I don't mean exotic dancer, but some kind of actual dance training, I don't recommend it. Had a girlfriend do it for me once. It was like watching 1st year tap dance recital in lingerie. Uncomfortable for the guy, not sure what to say or do if it is bad.
Now if you took 15 years of dance growing up and could really make something of it....could be interesting.
Otherwise the babies sent to the in-laws and surprise lingerie are better. Try this one.....
www.lingerieatlarge.com/plus-size-lingerie.asp?idproduct=609
2007-09-04 04:45:46 · answer #4 · answered by bigitalyguy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go for it girl. He obviously thinks you are a sexy mama. Don't allow the weight gain to get in the way of both of your pleasure. I've been heavier, thinner and either way, the hubby always found me desireable, as I have him. You can always lose weight, but it is much more than having the perfect body that attracts your man to you. Enjoy!
2007-09-04 04:43:46 · answer #5 · answered by pussycat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you feel comfortable then he'll love it. If you don't feel comfortable than that may affect your performance. This is the one time I'd say its "All About you".
I too put on some extra jiggle in my wiggle and haven't been able to get it off yet. My guy doesn't seem to mind...but that isn't the point for me...it does bother ME. Therefore makes me self conscience. So all I can do is apologize because I let it affect me so.
2007-09-04 04:39:59 · answer #6 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is happy with you, then go for it, though the key to pulling on e of these of is self conifedence, you might want to wait till you lose a bit of weight.
I have no problem with being a bit bigger, than I was in highschool, I'd rather look like a n ormal woman than some stick :)
2007-09-04 04:38:52 · answer #7 · answered by his wife 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, while i can sympathize with your situation, and your opinion about it, you have to consider his point as well. i mean, he is obviously not turned off by the weight gain, so i suppose he wouldn't mind the strip tease. of course, you being comfortable with it is important too. if you're not comfortable and relaxed, it wont be nearly as much fun for either of you.
as for what sexy is, sexy is a state of mind. if you feel sexy, then you're sexy. and since your husband is obviously game for it, the ball's in your court. good luck, and have fun!
2007-09-04 04:34:07 · answer #8 · answered by begeeman13 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree fat is fat and is not the least bit sexy. They all say they like us better a little heavy. I lost 25 pounds and my husband always loved my look but its so obvious he is totally crazy about the thin me. He loves you and knows you are being cautious about your weight so I would go ahead with it.
2007-09-04 04:40:59 · answer #9 · answered by Maria 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
by now, you should know he loves you for you, not your thighs :) do the dance- men love women who are secure! Then, after you lose the weight, buy a new outfit and give him another dance! ;)
2007-09-04 04:34:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋