As stated in my previous question : I'm 27,have had OCD since I was 4 and have been in a relationship with an amazing guy for 3 years who recently proposed.I'm on medication and in therapy and while every aspect of our relationship is almost perfect our sex life leaves a lot to be desired.Since just about everything makes me feel dirty ,we only have sex every 2 weeks if he's lucky.I don't want to deprive him of anything but he says he loves me as I am and wants to marry me.Could you imagine spending the rest of your life with a woman like this?I want to say I'll marry him because I love him more than anything but I think I might be asking for too much here.
2007-09-04 04:27:15 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If i loved a women, i wouldn't mind having sex with her once every 2 weeks. I wouldn't even mind at all. I'll just make that one night a week worth the wait. Go marry the fellow, he loves you, you love him, no marriage is perfect, its how you get along with the problems, solve or adapt to the problems that define a great marriage.
2007-09-11 20:08:51 · answer #1 · answered by DIIV 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Brianna, with reference to this question and the one before, I truly sympathise with your condition and predicament. Quite simply though, JJ obviously loves you, he's stuck around with what you see as a major problem, which to him may be something totally different. You ask if we would marry someone who is only prepared to have sexonce evry 2 wks, well, I'm a bit older than you at 42, and although I was with my faincee for almost 14 years, we were lucky to have sex twice ayear if on a good year. I had suffered a sever head injury and my sex drive went from the clouds to the floor, she also has a very high sex drive. I am also father to 9 kids so its not like i dont know how to work it. JJ sounds like a decent lad, who knows about your condition and doesn't really care, he loves you, so stop being so defensive and live a little, if it works, it works. If it dont work at least you will have given it a try. We can't spend our live's asking ourselves, "what if", you will end up missing out on loads of things that way. Give the lad a chance and yourself too.
Go for it girly, and enjoy yourself, I wish you both all the love and luck in the world, just be patient.
2007-09-12 11:04:18 · answer #2 · answered by robertsutherland1@btinternet.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's already told you he wants to be with you.
Just make every effort to find some kind of therapy or medication that reduces this impact.
It would seem to me that if you can manage to get through it once every 2 weeks, then it's only a matter of time before a doctor can help you get to the point where you can be comfortable in an intimate setting every day if that's what you choose.
2007-09-04 12:28:44 · answer #3 · answered by Roland'sMommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He loves you and you love him that's all that matters sex is not everything. It is a way to show love but there are other ways. If you can see your self with him in 10 or even 20 years then marry him. Follow your heart don't let the OCD get in you way, hes not.
2007-09-11 12:14:38 · answer #4 · answered by tammynashton 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure it is not more than OCD that is keeping you from getting busy? Maybe you two should go to some type of sex counseling that will open your eyes to new and exciting ideas about how to overcome the OCD things in the bedroom.
2007-09-11 17:52:58 · answer #5 · answered by dmoore2518 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What he says and what he will eventually feel like are probably going to be different. You have to decide what you will do if he changes his mind and wants it more often.
Personally I don't think that you can have a marriage without sex and the intimate bond you form with it and "every 2 weeks if he is lucky" would not do it for me.
Good luck.
2007-09-04 12:13:49 · answer #6 · answered by rogerrogmo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He loves you and wants to marry you knowing your condition. What more do you want? Stay with the therapy and medication and with the grace of God, you will have a wonderful marriage. Sounds to me like you've got a wonderful man to begin with. If he wasn't happy with you, he wouldn't have asked to marry you. Good luck.
2007-09-10 14:06:15 · answer #7 · answered by kystarlyte_kystarlight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, why are you messing this up for yourself? He say that he can live with it, but you are the one that is questioning it. Now if you leave him, he finds someone else and marry them, you will be totally hurt and bitter. If you know that you have a problem, then you should work to do better. I would say, if this is a great relationship, then don't pass it up.
2007-09-10 03:38:36 · answer #8 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. A healthy sexual relationship is part of a healthy marriage. It would be hard for me to be faith full to my wife without a good sex life with her. I wish you the best, and I pray that you have some good sex.
2007-09-11 21:40:51 · answer #9 · answered by Rass Cal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he has already told you the answer to your question. He loves you and wants you. Sex isnt the most important thing and worrying about it will only make you less active. I think you should talk to him about it then get on with your lives together.
2007-09-04 11:33:23 · answer #10 · answered by msqtech 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋