2007-09-04 04:18:07 · 29 answers · asked by stel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It starts to sound like some B-ull_sh-it after a while. It should be used sparingly to insure is has meaning.
2007-09-04 04:22:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well we don't because things change with how women treat men after a year or so.I am not saying that they don't deserve to be treated worse then when the relationship starts,but it is a fact and when there is no reason that the guy can see then he just clams up.It is a guy thing and that is why love can be so damn infuriating for women.I am saying this because most guys say it is what happens,and they will tell guys these things, but keep it from women as they don't want lectures in how uncaring they are.
2007-09-04 11:34:15 · answer #2 · answered by sameasyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men prefer to only say it rarely - on very special occasions, to prove it's something very special.
Some men simply have difficulty saying it - doesn't mean they don't love you, just means they find it difficult to verbalise. But they do show it to you, so you know they love you.
Some men have no problem saying it.
Here's a suggestion - instead of wondering why they won't say it, look at all the ways they show it. Actions speak far louder than words, and often are just as sweet, if not sweeter, than the words themselves.
Men are different in their reactions, but similar in their needs. Be sure to let them know how much you appreciate all they do for you and your family - whether you say it or show it, be sure to give them that appreciation. You'll be very happy you did.
Best Wishes.
2007-09-04 11:30:01 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Ariana 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is according to the circumstances. If the man is dating a woman, he may feel he loves her but be fearful that his words will show committment; which he is not ready for. If he is married and does not say these words, well, he needs to do so. My husband tells me he loves me at least 4 times a day, as I do him. We show appreciation to each other and are not afraid to voice our feelings.
I know that when I was single, I would tell a man - look, this does not mean I want marriage or a deep committment, right now, but I must say how I feel and I do love you. We seem better to voice our emotions without thinking it is meaning we want marriage or anything; it is our feelings; men seem to think of it as words that may 'trap them'. Don't know why; maybe the men can tell us.
2007-09-04 11:24:44 · answer #4 · answered by pussycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wrong. Overgeneralization demeans people. If you look for a man who says "I love you" often, you will find one. They're everywhere. I could just as easily say (if I wanted to be negative and hurtful) "Why do all women think they know what to look for in a man when they're clueless about what a real man is?". It pains me to even write that.
The fact is, lots of people go through a phase in their life when they aren't looking for what's best for them. I did, too. Then I got a spine and some gumption and was honest with myself. It took until age 30 for me, but it's different for everyone. Then I was ready for a real relationship. My wife will never complain that I don't show her I love her, in addition to telling her, at any time.
Good luck!
2007-09-04 11:27:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a woman and I don't like saying it very often, either. I think because it is way overused to the point that it is really meaningless. So the times when it gets said really do come from the heart. I prefer to tell people what I appreciate about them specifically instead. Such as "I really enjoy spending time with you", or "I love your sense of humor" or "thank you for always being so kind", etc. That's what we really mean to say when we say "i love you" anyway.
2007-09-04 11:24:55 · answer #6 · answered by meagain 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
mmmmm thats not necessarily true. My husband says I love you way more than i do, but i love him just as much. I am pretty secure and so is he so that isn't an issue for us. I live in the south and I have come to find out the southerners can talk to someone five times in five minutes, and each time they tell that same person they love them before they hang up?? Thats crazy overkill, and how could that be truly from the heart. Saying it too much is just that, too much!
2007-09-04 11:25:23 · answer #7 · answered by Maria 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a good thing for them not to say if they don't mean it. It really causes alot of damage when men say it and take it back or don't mean it. That happened to me twice! To me, the woman should not say it first. It lets the guy know how much you are into them before knowing how they feel. That is a great way to get hurt!
2007-09-04 11:23:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is differant and I don't really believe that it is a man vs woman thing cause my husband says he loves me all the time. I will add though that I don't think saying it more/or less means anything. If someone really loves you then you'll know it and if you feel that your mate doesn't say it enough for your enjoyment then just say it first and he or she will follow.
2007-09-04 11:34:30 · answer #9 · answered by ☆♥•´`•.¸ ;-) •´`•.¸ ♥☆ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people say it (men or women) and some other dont (men or women). If you focus this ONLY by gender, the question looses the case, and begins to become a sexual LEGEND.
2007-09-04 11:26:25 · answer #10 · answered by Simple Mind 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally told my wife I love her everyday. She was the one who did not say it until I told her. She only said it since I said it, like she felt obligated. It think it depends on the person's affection level. I am a very affectionate person and shared my feelings all the time. My wife on the other hand is not an affectionate person. She rarely would share her feelings, unless the feeling was anger or disappointment.
2007-09-04 11:30:01 · answer #11 · answered by funkytwnt 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋