specifically one is catholic and one is lutheran. thanks for your input.
2007-09-04 04:06:03 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we both respect each other religion already. I was only concerned about conflicts. thanks for your input
2007-09-04 04:50:39 · update #1
My mom is Catholic and my dad is Lutheran and they have been married for 46 years. One word - RESPECT! You can continue to worship they way you are - different churches and accept it without pressure, go to a non-denominational Christian church or educate one another openly on your denomination. You may see more similarities than differences. Both are Christian religions, just different denominations. There isn't a lot of differences. Maybe talk to your priest and pastor together and make a choice.
2007-09-04 04:34:37 · answer #1 · answered by OndyC4X 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most basic key to this dilemna is mutual respect. If both people find their faith important enough to practice, then they both need to show respect for the other and consideration if they need the time to worship. It needs to be clear from the beginning that they will not see eye to eye on these things, and they should just agree to disagree. As a result, it needs to be clear that one person should not be forced to convert to the other person's faith. If through the course of time one person finds that they like aspects of the other's faith, and want to explore it, then that is a different matter. It is then the person's individual choice, not one imposed on him or her by a partner.
The underlying problem is that many faiths show lack of tolerance for different beliefs (i.e. "your faith is not a true religion, and you are going to Hell if you do not believe in what I do"). If you are of this mindset, then you need to assess how important the relationship is to you, because it will only breed contempt. If you can curb this belief about other faiths, then all will be okay. You cannot have a healthy relationship in an environment of hostility about belief.
If children are involved, this can become a tense situation. Again mutual respect needs to be the cornerstone, and each parent needs to be able to give the children equal exposure to their respective beliefs. Any kind of insulting or criticism of the other's faith needs to be kept silent, particularly in this case. This is the way the children will learn respect. If there are comments to the children behind the other parent's back, that is unacceptable and show them a poor example of respect.
You can agree to disagree about pretty much anything, religion included, if both people like each other and there is an atmosphere of respect between them.
2007-09-04 11:24:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, married couples should have taken care of this problem before they were married. These two religons are not all that different and at least you both believe in God, that's a good start.
2007-09-04 11:13:43 · answer #3 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on! Martin Luther left the Catholic church because of the bribes and payoff's. They both are the same religion with some very small differences. So one goes to Mass on Saturday and the other one on Sunday big deal!
If you can't handle that, both of you become Wicca's! One of them just won Mega Millions!
2007-09-04 11:10:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you both respect each others' beliefs even though you don't share them, it shouldn't be a problem.
You should, however, discuss the religious upbringing of any children you plan to have BEFORE they come along.
2007-09-04 11:59:51 · answer #5 · answered by Nandina (Bunny Slipper Goddess) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The key is respect.
2007-09-04 11:11:42 · answer #6 · answered by why ask 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What would be the conflict? They both worship one God.
2007-09-04 11:10:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You respect each other. As long as you have Jesus in your heart does it really matter?
2007-09-04 11:12:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋