Men! I need your help, Im going insane trying to figure out how the male brain works! Can you be faithful ??

Question

Can you (men) be completley happy with just one woman. I am a young married woman, who suspects but hasnt confirmed partners infidelity. He seems to love me ( I am very pretty), but he shows all the symptoms of someone who wants to have affairs. CAN YOU LOVE YOUR PARTNER AND STILL WANT SEX WITH OTHERS?? or IF YOU WANT SEX WITH OTHERS DOES IT MEAN YOUR PARTNER ISNT GOOD ENOUGH????

Answer 1

You need to understand and realize that despite mankinds intelligence, we're all still animals with basic animal instincts. So to answer your question, your man will ALWAYS fantasize about having sex with other women whether he admits it or not! Does this mean he doesn't love you or want to be with you? Of course not! But men like variety! So if you catch him checking out another woman at the mall, or if he hides a dirty mag under the nightstand, and if he gets aroused while watching porn with you, then don't freak out! It's always the women that snoop, accuse, and ball bust that end up being the victim. It's the women with class, sophistication, sexiness, and CONFIDENCE that get what they want!

Answer 2

It is not unusual to love one woman but yearn for sex with another.

You need to understand that for a man, sex can happily exist without love or deep affection. This is why so many married men with lovers always go back to their wives.

It doesn't mean that you aren't good enough, just that he doesn't feel that you meet his needs in one area or another. Whether those needs are real or imagined it doesn't matter. Perception is reality.

You mentioned you are "very pretty", it sounds like maybe you are a little insecure in the relationship, and in turn this may make you come across as 'needy' to your partner. He could feel stifled, or think that you're possesive, or jealous? And this is why he gives the impression of 'looking' elsewhere.

To cut to the chase, men in general are driven by their penises, if he does want an affair then there is something wrong with your sex life, however good you think it may be. You need to sit down and find out exactly what his needs and concerns are, with some straight talking. Good Luck.

Answer 3

Can men be happy with just one partner, Yes... But you should think of a relationship as a business you own, the more you put into it the more you get out of it, as things change you have to change if theres a new business in town how do you keep your customer coming back?

Can you love your partner and want to have sex with others, Yes.... Every man , even when having sex with a woman, is thinking about another woman. Or thinking about you but role playng in his head, putting you in a school girl outfit or picking you up from a bar..... (These are also things you can try to spice up your sexual relationship)

Can you love your partner and have sex with others, Yes.... But if its cheating than your hurting the person you love, so you must not love them. But some relationships (open relationship) Do share other partners, they dont have feelings for them , and they love each other, but they see sex as a fealing of pleasure not love making.

If you want sex with others does it mean your partners not good enough. No... It means that , the sex has become routine, maybe not often enough. Some people once in a relationship dont try anymore, no forplay, no excitment. Some people after marrage feel trapped, some people found that new sexual partners added varity to life and now thats gone.

Basicaly , talk to your partner, try stuff in adventurous places, toys, dirty talk, being caught, dancing at a night club in a strainge city. Things that atrracted you to together in the first place. If you to have gained weight or something of that nature, start to wok out, it will bring the drive back.

Good luck , just talk.

Answer 4

A man can be monogamous. A man can also love a woman and still have meaningless sex with others, and just because he does it doesn't necessarily mean that his partner isn't good enough. Most people place a very high connection between sex and love (because that is usually what we are taught), but in reality it isn't that way. If everyone is perfectly honest with themselves, no matter how much you love your partner, we have all thought about other people. Some of us act on it while others don't. That is simply the difference. There is no deeper meaning to it, and no real philosophy other than it happens.

Answer 5

The best way(s) to keep a man from having sex outside the relationship is to be sure he has lots of sex, Hot, exciting sex.
Maintain or even improve your appearance as much as absolutely possible.
Men would like to screw most any woman who looks good, but that does not necessarily mean they will.

In answer to another of your issues, For men sex and love have little to do with one another.

The most prevalent problem with married women is that once they get their ring and the marriage license, that libido drops off and they care far less about their appearance.

If you want to keep him faithful, give him a lot of any kind of sex he wants ( none of the "Not tonight dear" crap" and keep your appearance at it's best, No getting fat!
And don't nag and b!tch.

If you follow the above suggestions ,you will have done all you can, and it in most cases will be enough.

Answer 6

First, relax you think better and make better decisions when you are calm. Men can be faithful. We will never know how the male brain works. But, you can come close to how your husband's does. First, of all being faithful is a decision. You can be married and find other people attractive and not cheat. If your husband wants to have sex with other people that does not mean that you are not good enough. It means that he has a problem with self-control or commitment. First of all, you must confirm that he is cheating and then move on from there. If in fact he is cheating, see if he will go to counseling to see if your problems can be worked out. If, he does not want to go then you have an even bigger problem. Ask him to be completely honest with you; but brace yourself because you may like his answers. Then you must be completely honest with yourself and him. Relationships are work, but they do not have to be toil. Good Luck. Stay healthy.

Answer 7

depending upon the situation, if men are under the thumb from the very beginning, (conditioning) there is less chance of them seeking out other women, at the most, they will only look at other women (sometimes men). Aswell as animals such as dogs being able to smell fear and anxiety, there is a chance that in his subconscious, he is picking something up from you such as suspicion and despair. Keep it cool, calm, and collective. Try not to let him sense that you feel there is something else going on. Instead, keep an eye on the little blighter, i.e. smell him every chance you get when he has been away from you for a certain amount of time. Sounds mad I know, but I am sure you have heard of someone smelling of sex. I do hope all of your suspicions are false, and that you both live the rest of your lives together.

Answer 8

The problem is the conflict between our "nature" and society. Our nature is predicated on 10 million years of evolution where the ability to reproduce dictated survival of the species. That is, the male that was able to have and hold the most females passed on his genes. The weak died. But then came religion, and society, and equal rights. The concept of monogamy is relatively recent, perhaps less than 3000 years. Even so, we are rational and can choosing what we want to be, including choose honor and love.

The difference is between those that are mature and disciplined and those that are still childish and want everything. Your partner may not yet be a mature, disciplined partner... only time will tell.

Answer 9

Men can be faithful, but still like the chase or more to the point, know they are still attractive to the opposite sex. When you go out and put on make up and nice clothes, you are making yourself attractive to others. A man looks at you and you have no intention of getting off with him. But your both briefly satisfied in the knowledge that "you@ve still got it.

Answer 10

It all depends on how you, the woman keeps the interest of your man as you have done from the beginning. In other words, what attracted your mate to you. Many women do not continue to interest their mate to them after they are together. Since the interest is less, other women seem more of a challenge and if there is flirting notion given by the other woman, the guy will usually respond. Only those guys who have decided to stay with one is usually a one woman guy. But as they say, "if the door to opportunity is opened" with no restrictions, guys will usually walk in. Ultimately, its all up to you.