I've already told him in very clear ways I want out, but due to his deep Christian beliefs, he doesn't believe in divorce.
The townhouse in which we live is included in my pay, so he should leave, plus he couldn't afford it on his own. It's a 3-bdrm (as I have two children), so he wouldn't need that kind of room.
I don't believe in making things ugly or hard in a break-up. How would you get him to leave? Thank you in advance.
2007-09-04 03:35:14 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ladylady, the two children are mine (his step) and we've been married for five years.
2007-09-04 03:43:30 · update #1
A few of asked why I want out. Would you stay in a marriage where the last time you had sex was on Christmas Eve? It's now Sept. 4! Also, there are a lot of areas where we don't agree. I am miserable, as I suspect so is he.
Also, I suspect he is gay.
Yes, I agree with the ones who said some people use religion as an excuse.
2007-09-04 03:55:33 · update #2
Well if you really want him out, then you can't be agreeable at the same time. If his position is that he doesn't believe in divorce and won't leave, you may have to get nasty to get him out. Divorce isn't always a great thing to go through (in fact it's usually one of the worst times in a persons life). Feelings are going to get hurt and dreams are going to be shattered.
2007-09-04 03:43:41 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want out of this marriage sooo bad? You said he is a big christian believer, so I am assuming that there was no cheating. Most men would walk out, leave, and never turn back. Your husband wants to keep the family together! Maybe you should rethink the divorce and work on your marriage, for the kids as well. Good luck and I wish you the best.
2007-09-04 10:47:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Either he has to leave on his own or you have to wait until the divorce is final. Since he doesn't want the divorce that means you have to file for it. Once the divorce is final and you are awarded the residence based on the nature of it he'll have no choice but to leave. Divorce is hard and there is no way around that. I'd bet money that his not wanting a divorce has less to do with his religious values than it does his emotional stability. He is afraid of divorce. It leave way too many unknowns. Religion is often used as a cover for many actions.
2007-09-04 10:49:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First tell him that you need him to move out for a while, need space, if he refuses move out your self, He will realize you are serious, I know you said you wanted the house but what do you want more? House or a life? He will realize that he can't afford the house. then Go to the lawyer and file for divorce, Sit him down and tell him it is over, don't stay in a marriage you don't want, live your life. it won't be easy, and you will have second thoughts but if this is what you need it will be worth it in the end. Strong religious beliefs can make a person difficult, because they always use God as an excuse, but this is your life. Live it. Your not going to go to hell if you divorce sumone.
2007-09-04 10:47:52 · answer #4 · answered by ashley v 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's going to be hard but sometimes the best thing to do is you leave so he gets the hint otherwise he won't. Take the kids and go to your mothers until he leaves. Then tell him the house is yours. No matter how hard you try to keep this nice they will end up ugly. It's hard. I'm going through the same situation I left. And I have never been happier⺠Good luck take care of yourself and think about what is best not only for you but your beautiful children as well agian good luckâº
2007-09-04 10:46:12 · answer #5 · answered by bris 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you will have to serve him with divorce papers and change the locks on the doors. However, in your state the law may state that you are each entitled to 50% of everything. You really need to consult a competent divorce attorney. He or She can advise you the best way to proceed. I'm sorry it has come to this. The best to all of you.
2007-09-04 10:42:58 · answer #6 · answered by Brent 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to consult an attorney because the laws regarding this are different in every state. Here in Ohio, you would sue him for divorce. This means you ask the court to grant you one even though he doesn't want it. And when you file for the divorce, you put it in the motion that you want him removed from YOUR home immediately. Good luck!
2007-09-04 10:55:51 · answer #7 · answered by meagain 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its going to be ugly when he doesn't agree. Only way is to file for divorce and ask for more than what you want. Once the divorce is finalized and you get the home...you call the sheriff to come remove him from the property.
I'm sure its a lot more entailed than this
2007-09-04 10:42:01 · answer #8 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get a lawyer file and it will proceed whether he likes it or not. IF you want him out due not loving him anymore or whatever you have your reasons. Cheating need not be the only reason for divorce. sometimes people just grow apart.
Good Luck!
2007-09-04 10:47:14 · answer #9 · answered by umannjo 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I take it the 2 kids are not his? How long have you been married? I see well, he is right. Marriage is for better or worse. And cheating on one part or the other is the only reason for divorce. I am sorry you are unhappy and want out. Have you tried marriage counseling?
2007-09-04 10:40:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋