one hangs out at his work and it has caused prolems in our relationship but he refuses to change any of it because of course he doesnt see a problem with it but it effects the way i feel i feel some dishonesty and has put a wedge inbetween the way i think i should feel
2007-09-04 03:10:37 · 15 answers · asked by jeannieboop 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Obviously, your husband has absolutely NO respect for you. Any filthy talk should be between the two of you. That type of behavior will lead to someone getting *****_ED!
All he's doing right now is testing the waters until he finds the right one to fall for it. Once that happens, he's even deeper into the debauchery he's been stirring.
Let that di-ckhead know in no uncertain terms he's risking your marriage.
2007-09-04 03:17:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
Usually when someone cheats, they aren't thinking. They are just acting. If someone is truly remorseful about cheating, and the betrayed spouse thinks that they can forgive them eventually, then yes, they can work it out. It takes effort from BOTH partners. It is extremely difficult at first, but as time goes on, every day gets a little easier. It might take years to fix the relationship, but if they love each other very much and the cheater is willing to do whatever it takes, then it may be able to work. This is the lowest point. It can only get better from here. They need to talk. They need to sit down together and agree to discuss with no shouting or interrupting. She needs to have her turn to talk and ask questions, and then he needs a chance to say whatever he wants as well. They both may cry, and that is perfectly okay. Cheating hurts both the betrayed spouse and the cheater. It hurts to make a mistake and hurt the person you love most in the whole world. It also hurts to have the person you love most in the whole world betray your trust. They need to acknowledge their individual feelings as well as each others. If she feels that she can never move past this, or he is not sorry and does not feel remorseful, then it's time for a divorce. Time is their friend in this situation. Take the time to talk about it. Take the time to carefully weigh the pros and cons of remaining in the relationship. She shouldn't make any quick, compulsive decisions of whether to stay or go. Having or being a cheating spouse is not an uncommon problem, unfortunately. A marriage counselor should be able to help.
2016-05-21 01:10:38 · answer #2 · answered by karolyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Flirting is one thing but talking dirty crosses what I'd consider the line. I'd say it's time for you to show him there are consequenses to his choice. Talk dirty to a man in front of him. Then look right into his eyes and ask how he loved that. When he gets upset tell him you didn't see a problem with it. Why does it bother him all the sudden that you're acting just like him. That probably isn't good advice but I don't know how else you get through to someone like that.
2007-09-04 03:24:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Frist thing is if he loved u then he shouldnt have any reason to talk to other women like that . Second this so disrespect and we all deserve that men and women but he has no respect for u if was me I would telll him Look either u stop talkin trash to other women or u going to be with them cause u not puttin up with that u dont deserve it . If thats what he wants he needs to tell u and let u go your way and him his . Life is too short to be playin games . If he wants to play games let him play with them but not with u . Alot of time when a man talks like this there is more behind it . good luck with this
2007-09-04 03:28:44 · answer #4 · answered by sweet_sassy_20071969 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just explain to your partner what happened. I have met a male friend before i met my guy. It's been a while since we have been in contact. There have been some financial accounts that i have to address. It's not intentional that the account took that long to address.
I'm working towards addressing financial gaps so today i have contacted him and others to let them know of my plan to do so. I hope that my guy does not think otherwise.
2007-09-04 03:43:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not have to live with this. This is no doubt hurting your self-esteem and causing you to feel worthless. No man is worth this. If you have told him how you feel and he still blatantly disregards your feelings, then you need to re-think this marriage. Is this the way you want to spend the rest of your life? We only live once, honey. Don't spend it miserable.
2007-09-04 03:26:04 · answer #6 · answered by Mel 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband had better not ever be talking dirty to any other woman but me. Your husband apparently has no respect for you and no self control. How would he feel if you were talking dirty with other men? Demand that he stop this non sense...or tell him that you will talk dirty to him..in the divorce papers.
BTW...couldn't come up with a better yahoo id?
2007-09-04 03:18:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
so sorry to hear that....if you have already talked to him and told him that you do NOT want him to do this and he still refuses to change there is nothing you yourself can do. Try as we might we can not change another's behavior. if you feel this marriage is worth saving i do know one that can help...His name is GOD and if you pray to him and ask Him to guide you in this situation I know He will.
2007-09-04 03:46:42 · answer #8 · answered by yvicks 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That kind of behaviour is intolerable! This guy has no respect for you whatsoever.....you need to kick this one to the curb!
2007-09-04 03:31:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he's cheating...he should be totally devoted to you as your husband! if he refuses to see the problem with it, give him an ultimatum, these ladies, or you...good luck! leave if he continues his crap...
2007-09-04 03:31:55 · answer #10 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋