help? it hurts !!?

Question

the first time i had sex it hurt so much when he was trying to put it in and it didnt even go in that much .. y does it hurt?

Answer 1

If, you're still a virgin & your hymen is intact, it would hurt to break it & you might bleed some. Otherwise, you weren't ready & not lubricated. Use some KY jelly next time & find out for yourself, what you like (explore your body).
I hope you're old enough to have sex & be sure to use protection.

Answer 2

This is normal because if you have never used a tampon or had anything inserted inside of you such as at a doctor's exam, your partner is actually breaking the small piece of protective skin called a hymen when he enters your body.
It will not only hurt the first time as many women think. It will hurt for a month or so, if you are having somewhat regular sex as your body adjust to accepting something inside of it.
Eventually it does stop hurting and then actually feels good.
I hope you are old enough to be having sex, you sound very young to not know why it hurts. If you are young, please wait until you are older.
God Bless you.

Answer 3

Pain or discomfort during the first time a woman has vaginal sex have three common reasons: the inexperience or lack of attentiveness of her partner, the fact that she may be too young and her body isn't ready, and the stretching open of her hymen.

Many women are afraid of the pain that they worry they will have when their hymen is stretched open during the first time they have vaginal intercourse with a man. The hymen is a thin membrane that stretches across a woman's vaginal opening. Menstrual fluids pass through an opening in the hymen during a woman's period. However, many women are born without a hymen, some have very little hymenal tissue, and the hymens of others are stretched open during sports or other activities, such as horseback and bicycle riding. All of these factors influence whether or not initial vaginal intercourse is painful or uncomfortable for a woman.

Women who have hymenal tissue obstructing the opening to the vagina can prepare for their first intercourse by slowly stretching the hymen open with a clean finger. In rare cases, women who have very thick hymens may need to seek medical assistance to remove the obstruction.

Another common cause of pain or discomfort during vaginal intercourse — whether or not it's the first time — has to do with the amount of time the couple spends in foreplay (sexual activity before penile-vaginal sex). As a woman becomes sexually aroused, more blood flows into her genitals (this is also true for men). For a woman, this increased blood flow allows her vaginal canal to lengthen and widen. It also stimulates the production of vaginal lubrication. All these changes allow insertive sex to be more comfortable. Unfortunately, many women have vaginal intercourse before their bodies are fully aroused because their partners aren't paying attention, don't know what they're doing, or are in too much of a hurry.

Men tend to become sexually aroused more quickly than women. So, often they insert the penis before a woman's body has had time to become fully aroused. If the guy is aware of the difference in arousal speed, then he may be more willing to take his time during foreplay. This lets the vagina become sufficiently lubricated and for the woman's body to become ready for vaginal intercourse. Unfortunately, when people are first having sex, they tend to be impatient, clumsy, and self-conscious — which is why people's first experiences aren't always the greatest.

The most important key is communication. Let your partner know what is comfortable and what is not comfortable. Encourage him to take his time. Let him know that women need a longer period of stimulation than men to become fully aroused. If partners take their time, are attentive to one another's pleasure, and they communicate, there can be very little discomfort and sex can be very pleasant — even the first time.

For young women whose bodies are not ready, however, no amount of communication or foreplay will make vaginal intercourse comfortable or fun, which is another reason why so many girls wait until they're older.

Answer 4

Yes it hurts lots, you may have to try it a few times before you are able to really get into.
When it finally does, I don´t know for other women, but I felt my insides were being open, it hurts it really does, but after this, you will really enjoy it.
You may think, what is thsi all about? it is f**** painful, but after it gets better and better you´ll see.
I hope you´re not too young to be having sex.

Good luck! ;D

Answer 5

It will hurt the first time until your hymen breaks, if he's big that will cause more pain but it gets alot better.

Answer 6

Cos you were probably a bit nervous which would make you tense up and make it difficult to enter you. If he went in far enough he may also have broken your hymen which would also hurt.

Answer 7

this is totally normal, i remember with my first it really really hurt, it's becasue it was your first it happens with everyone, i'm sure someone will come along in a minutie and answer medically, but remember it does get better, your normal and stay safe (always use comdoms - you can get them for free at your local family planning clinic)

Answer 8

youre probably to anxious , try using a lubricant ( both you and your partner )

Answer 9

You shouldn't be having sex if you're not married.

Answer 10

it does hurt.It's because ur hymen got turn when u did it d first time.Subsequent ones won't really hurt.But please be careful and use d condom.