your husband/Bf jaking off? I woke up about 5:30am to alot of movement that seemed like he was jaking himself off, then he wiped up and went to sleep?! My back was toward him so I'm not sure, but the movement was from the lower area and shaking...then wiping! What else am I to belive? I wrote him a note in his luch asking him whats up with last night, so we'll see. But how would you react?
Our sex is really great but I've had my period and then for the last 4 days we've been arguing.
2007-09-04 03:05:54 · 18 answers · asked by Marge 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Girl, I'm with you. It would feel a bit weird. The absolutely best thing to do is talk to him about it, tell him how you feel and any insecurities it brings out. I think it might make him feel a bit weird that you know about it. If it happens again just roll over and ask if he would like some help, but he very sexy about it, wouldn't want him to feel like your being or feeling negative about it. PS I agree with Wooderson's answer, he gives a lot of insight.
2007-09-04 04:16:57 · answer #1 · answered by so called goody goody 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sex and masturbation are different. Waking you up to take care of it requires that he engage in activities that please you. There are two involved, and unless your just going to lay there and let him get off quickly and roll back over and go to sleep, then it's going to involve time and effort on his part. Masturbation is easy -- it's 5:30am, you want to take 2-5 minutes to rub one out and get back to sleep - done.
Do you ever just give him quick release sometimes? If you don't - if you are a woman who always needs to get an O every time, then he's stuck in the dilemma of either taking 1/2 hour or an hour to warm you up and finish you off, or just suffering through without it.
What he may be reluctant to ask from you is for you to just give him a morning bj every now and again......
2007-09-04 10:31:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I can understand it if you are on your period. Some men can only go one day with out.
It becomes a problem when he is jacking off at the computer, or after you have sex when he thinks you are asleep, or when he even tries to do you when you are asleep.
What they don't know is it makes women feel like we are not good enough no matter what we do or how well we do it.
2007-09-04 10:26:10 · answer #3 · answered by Emptiness 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
From a guys point of view. sometimes men get horny and just take care of it themselves rather that wake up the wife at 5 am for sex. Maybe he was just being considerate of you and letting you sleep. I bet if he woke you up and asked for sex you would have said no because you were still fighting and you have your period and its too early in the morning.. your poor husband cant win can he?
2007-09-04 10:16:52 · answer #4 · answered by sumfin 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Ask him to make sure he cleans it all up, or if you're disgusted by it ask that he go to the bathroom instead. If you've been fighting I would assume he didn't want to wake you up in the middle of the night after an argument to have sex.
2007-09-04 10:41:48 · answer #5 · answered by Manny 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he probly just needs to releave him self. he has been having great sex with u but like u said u stoped due to ur period and arguing. it is normal for this. if u do not like him doing it or u find that it makes u feel like u are not pleasing him. what u should do is talk to him and tell him how it makes u feel and ask him if u can help him in anyway. what i mean by that is u could still pleasure each other while u are on ur period. he could rub u while kissing and feeling u and u could always do oral pleasure. Me and my wife got in to it about this because guys just like sex and this is what we did to fix it and we are still happily married and still have a great time in bed even when she is on her peirod.
2007-09-04 10:24:19 · answer #6 · answered by schultzie2000 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
EVERYONE DOES IT!! it's nothing personal, Sometimes people just get wound up and its just easier to take care of it yourself. Nothing to do with you don't embarrass the man drop it and leave it alone, your not his mom, hes a grown man, if you have a great sex live then why worry, GET OVER IT!!
2007-09-04 10:39:39 · answer #7 · answered by ashley v 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Mastubation is completely normal...especially in the morning hours... I've been married for 14 years and if I don't give my husband sex in the morning, he takes care of it himself. We have a great sex life, but he still masturbates... it's no big deal and I wouldn't worry about it. It's no reflection on you or your relationship... it is what it is...
2007-09-04 10:15:31 · answer #8 · answered by Linda S 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I'd get over there and help him out or go back to sleep depending on how tired I was or what time I had to get up. No big deal.
2007-09-04 10:54:07 · answer #9 · answered by oracleofohio 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
girl that is so normal, good to see he stayed home, and didn't get up and go get pleasured with someone else. u said it urself, periods been on. only time i would've been offended by masturbation is if i had offered him sex, he turned it down, then turned around and masturbated. stop arguing and go make love to ur hubby
2007-09-04 11:35:37 · answer #10 · answered by yvicks 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋