my sister who i am really close to has recently seperated from her husband (she has two young children) and is contemplating divorce yet she has already been on dates with three men whom she met on the internet. i feel really upset by this, what can i do?
2007-09-04 02:55:00 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Nothing. It's her life, so it's up to her who, when, and why she decides to date. You can offer her your $0.02 if you want to, but it's all up to her.
2007-09-04 03:01:38 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
By the time someone takes the step of leaving a spouse, they've frequently done all their grieving for the relationship already. Three months isn't an unreasonable length of time to wait, if you consider the sleepless nights your sister may have put in when she lived with her husband.
On the other hand, a person is prone to make some pretty stupid mistakes when he/she comes out of a long relationship. Sometimes the freedom goes to a person's head and they're prone to reckless decisions and risky behavior. Because your sister is the mother of two young children, she needs to stay grounded and keep their safety and well-being in mind.
There isn't much you can do about your sister other than expressing your opinion. This could be just a phase she's going through, but if she seems to be pulling a Britney, keep a watchful eye on the living conditions of her children. They are the most vulnerable people in this situation.
2007-09-04 03:15:34 · answer #2 · answered by Cydara 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is nothing you can do. My sister left her husband two years ago. There was no explaination for it so I assumed she was having an affair with a close friend at work. She denied it and two years later I now know that is the reason she left him. My sister was my best friend but she changed so much for the worse. We have not talked in over 2 years now and I miss her. Now she is dating a boy 11 years younger than her and she pawns her son off on amyone she can so she can party with him and his friends.
So you can choose to keep your mouth shut and deal with it or you can speak out as I did and ruin the relationship with your sister. While I would not change how I have handled it, I do miss her.
2007-09-04 04:44:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What could she do if it were you? If she's contemplating divorce she has to know if anything or anyone else would make her happier or significantly change her life. Dating my be a way to discover the possibilities. Her Husband may be doing the same thing and you don't know it. I sympathize with you and understand but you can't do a thing about it. Let the game play itself out and support her in every way you can. It isn't possible to divorce your sister.
2007-09-04 03:06:00 · answer #4 · answered by Robert P 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not much you can do as far as her choices go. She is looking for a rebound. She will fail to deal with her baggage and she will take it into all new relationships. Her then B/F will hate her ex because of all the negative things she'll convey during this highly stressful time. Down the road when he's always talking crap about the ex and she's just trying to maintain a smooth relationship because of the kids she might then realize what a huge mistake she made. And that is just one situation where rushing into relationships causes problems. But again, as for you, all you can do is try to point out the logical and hope she listens.
2007-09-04 03:05:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
per danger reminding her of her dedication that she has to their toddler. She might lose the only situation it is still an actual area of her husband...i'm no longer feeling nicely, so i could no longer be explaining it the way that it needs to be defined...i might tell her to make an appointment along with her midwife or OB/GYN, they can supply her drugs which will help her cope/consume/sleep it is secure for the being pregnant. she will't pass on lots longer earlier she collapses and could finally end up interior the wellness facility. She needs scientific intervention NOW! My coronary heart is going out to her! EDIT: per danger you should write her a letter and positioned it below her door explaining those issues to her. counting on your state the you may or won't be waiting to communicate directly to her Dr. in the adventure that your sister is non secular you should get the pastor over there to communicate to her...or something alongside those lines.
2016-10-09 22:30:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mind your own business. People must make their own way and as a sister or a friend your job is to let them live their lives...be there to celebrate when things are good and be there to help pick up the pieces when the sh!t hits the fan and be there to kick some @ss when needed.
Passing judgment doesn't make you a sister nor a friend. It makes you spiteful. You can always voice your opinions, but be sure they know that, no matter what they choose you will be there for them.
2007-09-04 03:14:43 · answer #7 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree with most answers - you really can't do much. BUT... I disagree that you should respect her decision, that's your opinion, or that you should stay out of it. You have a right to say how you feel to your own sister. Because someones your sister doesn't mean to respect or support doing something wrong. Also, at least one answer stated "there must be a good reason that she left him..." You didn't say who left who... another woman that thinks men are always wrong, quite pathetic really.
A separation is not a license to date or sow your oats. It's a step to re-evaluate your marriage. You should let her know how you feel, but you can't force her to act responsibly.
2007-09-04 03:14:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nothing! It's really none of your business! Your job is to respect your sister's decisions... there's bound to be a reason she left her husband...Just make sure that her children are safe! You don't have to approve of what your sister does with her life, you are not her mother! You are her sister and she probably really needs your love and support at this point in her life!
2007-09-04 03:02:46 · answer #9 · answered by Linda S 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Even though she is your sister, you can't be too proud of a woman who would desert her husband and two small children to go off with somebody she met on the internet, which it looks like she is planning to do.
You can't do much of anything if she is so selfish that she will not even listen to the voice of reason. If I were advising her husband I know exactly what I would tell him,...... good riddance to bad rubbish. Let her go, and you get on with your life. If this is the kind of woman you married, you don't need her. If it wouldn't be happening right now, it almost certainly would happen sometime, so it's better to get it over while you are still young enough to begin again, eventually with a woman who has some sense of real love and loyalty.
2007-09-04 03:13:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
support her - seperating is hard and if she has already moved to the next level of going on dates -good for her. I think that you should be happy for her and support her in her new life. Meeting people on the internet tho? hmmm that is a risky thing to do.
2007-09-04 05:50:48 · answer #11 · answered by redneckgirl 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋