My boyfriend, ever since we met 6 yrs ago (i was 16 he was 28) has hidden porn from me. i've tried tellin him recently that theres no need to hide it from me.as sometimes...i dont mind watchin a bit of it with my man.we have watched it together before i dont mind. i'm just a bit curious if it can become an obsession, as im worried every time i go out or leave the room he's on a porn site.looking at other women instead of enjoying our sex life together,maybe he's bored of me? i've had our daughter who's five,have managed to keep my body in good shape,i'm not un attractive,so whats the problem? i love im so much,maybe i'm just paranoied but will tis ever dissapear will he get bored of porn? most women i speak to would refuse to have any of that stuff in there house or on ther computers,i don't seem to have conrol over it im a bit confused?
2007-09-04 02:37:34 · 9 answers · asked by nikki 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It can become not only obsessive but destructive.
It is evidence of a lack of inner resources.
Why would a fully balanced person need it?
2007-09-04 09:35:39 · answer #1 · answered by alan h 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Most men only try to hise it when they are not "allowed" to watch/look at porn. It sounds like you are pretty open about it. Are you certain he is hiding it from you? It is easy to get your imagination overworked and think that things are going on that aren't. I am not saying that he might not be watchign porn when you go out to do things. Does he watch porn every day? Does he masturbate several times a day? Those signs might point to an obsession, but if he looks at it a few times a week I do not think that qualifies as an obsession.
2007-09-04 03:52:13 · answer #2 · answered by Storm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you nonetheless with this guy? If i will even call him that. sure, an off-the-cuff, occasional activity in porn by using adult males isn't something unusual, yet this guy has an obsession, which i think i do no longer ought to aid you already know. That certainty that this bum sits at domicile all day in case you're out working to pay for the hardware and electricity he desires for his obsession strikes me as in basic terms unhappy. he's no longer purely doing this to himself...he's doing it to you, besides. His obsession with that's heavily risky. and you do no longer deserve this. You did no longer point out teenagers, so i will anticipate there are none. If no longer, that's good. %. up and circulate away him. as quickly as you are able to. You deserve an more desirable guy, person who's going to coach you some appreciate on your devotion and complicated paintings. And, to no longer be flippant, yet maybe this guy can no longer "carry out" as a results of fact he's in basic terms too wiped out from what he's doing all day. by using how, heavily, spending as plenty time finding at this crap as he's can heavily desensitize a guy for a genuine sexual relationship. He knows that the fantasies he's viewing on his laptop (and that's what they are...fantasies...they are no longer fact) are no longer something he's going to get from you or the different woman. And his place of glory on a sexual criminal's checklist won't be able to assist you on your existence the two. i'm no longer able to have faith you have no longer already packed your bags.
2016-10-17 22:03:23 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it can become an obsession but that doesnt mean it will. And I dont think it means that he is not interested in you. I look at porn all the time, but i would always rather have the real thing. or better yet have the real thing while watching porn and doing the stuff they do. nice...
2007-09-04 02:44:26 · answer #4 · answered by Flying Spagetti Monster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women who say they would never have it in thier house have just never come across their husbands sacred stash. I hate to say it hun but almost all males once hitting puberty have a collection of photos of favorite ahem, " girlfriends". They are no threat to the love he feels for you...it just kind of keeps the pump primed, and yes, that is what you are there for and you probably rock his world, but guys sometimes really like to masterbate, uninterrupted with really wild a**ed fantasies some of which cannot be shared with us...so leave him be, and be glad that your man is being honest with you about it and realize that those other little biddies out there who say they wouldnt tolerate it are being decieved. You have no idea the lengths that guys go to in order to keep thier porn hidden. :) Its as bad as a d*mn alcoholic...so keep your chin up, nothings wrong with you or your guy.-Rachel.
2007-09-04 06:06:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go through the 'History' on the web browser, unless he clears private data after every use... which is a sure fire sign..
Other wise turn the parent net watch thingo ON on Norton Anti-Virus... see whether he does!!
I think it can become an obsession... hmmm
Well maybe its his way of surpressing any feelings to cheat on you cause he would never want to hurt you but he can't ignore his constant 'urge'
2007-09-04 02:47:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has probably always looked at porn and probably always will, some guys are like this.
We should not take it personally it makes no difference if you are still attractive or not men will always need other women in their lives, its just something you have to come to terms with.
If you confront him he will just get defensive and lie and hide it even more.
Accept it, you know it exists just get on with your life!
2007-09-04 05:01:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he starts looking at child porn you can't really say anything can you?, considering you were a child with a near 30 year old geezer
by the way I look at porn because I have the internet, you should get with a caveman since they do not watch porn
2007-09-05 07:31:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may be addicted
2007-09-04 02:59:30 · answer #9 · answered by tezz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋