2007-09-04 02:11:55 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would get professional help.
2007-09-04 02:15:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I asked myself that same question once. It was the hardest thing I ever had to do to keep going. I thought about suicide regularly. And then I thought about our child. I made it through by the force of my will. I had no friends, no family, and nowhere to live. I was 3 months pregnant when he died and got kicked out of the house. For the first few years, my body was alive but my feelings were wrapped in ice. It wasn't until I was ready to start living again that I did. I am now in a very happy relationship with the most wonderful man. It has been 10 years and I still think about him, but the memories fade and now I don't always cry. Just take each day one step at a time and eventually you will start to live again and not just exist.
Yes it takes time, yes it is hard, yes it will change you forever. I learned that the old saying what doesn't kill you makes you stronger was very true.
2007-09-04 10:08:09 · answer #2 · answered by Storm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorry for your loss.
Remember most what that person wanted out of life for you. You wouldn't be making this person happy if you were stagnet in your life would you? This person wished you happiness, love and fulfillment of life. That is what you need to focus on. It takes time, and it will get easier. Just remember all that was good about your life, make a simple dedication in something that you do everyday, to remember your loved one. Celebrate the life of this person, live the life you were living while this person was still living. The reason you miss them, is because of all the special things that you shared, keep doing those things, but also find new things to do. If you enjoyed a favorite coffee shoppe and book reading find a new one, and go there. If you enjoyed walks in the park, find a new park, and keep doing it. Remembering that the person who loved you, would want all that your life can be.
It is never easy, but remember what you buried was that persons body, their spirit is still alive, and in a much better place than this now. Remember the love, the good times, and carry on. Find new hobbies, new interests and find new things to focus on. THAT is what your loved one would want, not for you to be miserable. Yes you can seek professional help, even medicate with an antidepressant, but in the end, it is up to you to decide to move on and find the fulfillment with your life remembering the love and sharing that with others.
Good Luck to you and God Bless!!
2007-09-04 09:27:05 · answer #3 · answered by Austins Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure the person that you loved, also loved you and would definitely want you to move on with your life. It wouldn't be fair to him/her if you didn't continue living life.
I've lost many loved ones and for a while it seems like you can can't move forward, but you will. Someday not too far in the future you will remember this person and a smile will come to face not tears.
Allow yourself to grieve, but remember to take care of yourself. Stay close to people who care about you and lean on them for support. In time it will get easier.
2007-09-04 09:27:03 · answer #4 · answered by Sooz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By reminding yourself that you are still alive, and the person you loved that passed wouldn't want you to live out the rest of your life alone.
It will take time. Give yourself time to grieve. Take it day by day. Moving on doesn't mean you loved that person any less, and it doesn't mean you still don't love them, but life is for the living. You will see them again when it is your time to cross over, but until then, you should try to enjoy the time you have left here on this Earth. It isn't a betrayal to love again. In fact it is an honor to that person. It's because of the love you shared with them that enables you to love again.
2007-09-04 09:25:16 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all lose people that we love. Its important to remember the good things and the not so good things that made you love this person in the first place. As time goes on the pain should lessen, some might linger even after years, but it can't consume your life, otherwise the person that's gone can't rest and you live in a vacumm without continuing on your won life's path.
2007-09-04 10:11:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anne D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By remembering them.
One day at a time.
Remembering the good and bad times and what you learned from each other.
By not taking your life for granted living today and making it the best you can today.
By crying, screaming , hitting the walls what ever you have to do to get it all out. If I was their I would let you even let you hit me then I would give you a hug.
But most of all be happy that you got to spend the time with them that you did, no matter how unfair it seems right now, everything happens for a reason, even if we don't understand it.
2007-09-04 09:41:50 · answer #7 · answered by Emptiness 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Agnes.. When someone you love dies, your love doesn't have to die with them. I wouldn't even call it moving on, its a part of you that you don't want to lose. Have the strength to make it a part of who you are, know that you can keep that love inside and revisit it whenever you want to. Crying is OK. Pick yourself up and tell yourself that even though that person is no longer here in body they will always be here in spirit.
2007-09-04 09:21:21 · answer #8 · answered by Cheri >^.^< 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you believe in God, ask him daily for his help, you'll get it. I know the pain of losing someone you love. In my case, it was my parents. My mom and I were best friends. Part of me died with her. Remember all the love you shared and let that give you strength. Fill your life with friends, family and activities. You are not being disloyal for going on in the best way that you can. He would want you to if he really loved you too. God bless you.
2007-09-04 09:28:52 · answer #9 · answered by kbear 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi my sympathy goes to you.
You have to grieve and talk to someone... not neccesarily a professional ( in my perspective ), just somebody who would be willing to lend an ear to you. It took me three years, I took it day by day. Whenever you remember this person, just cry it out and remember the good days. But you have to move on as well, live life to the fullest.
2007-09-04 10:07:42 · answer #10 · answered by mochagurly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
10 yrs ago i asked myself the same question when my wife died,it is very hard to move on, but with time it does get easier, most people dont understand the feeling you are going through, for me it was the worst thing to have to deal with, that i have ever had to do, my heart goes out to you, and i wish you the best of luck, it just takes time
2007-09-04 09:49:05 · answer #11 · answered by charlesjerrell 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋