I've been married for just over 4 years now.
We have a son who just turned 3 and I started a new job closer to home that also makes more money.
Well, this weekend she went out and didn't come home till 5 a.m.
I grilled her all day Sunday on where she was, etc.
Finally yesterday she told me that she's been cheating on me for about a year and she was moving out by October 1st..
I went through this in my first marriage, but we were also so young. Now I'm in my 30's and have a child with her.
Oh, man... how can people be so damn cruel?
2007-09-04 02:08:14 · 9 answers · asked by Kari 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do your best to hold your head up high and move on from this. Obviously, she was not the woman for you. No matter how much it hurts, always be grateful that you found out when you did and that you didn't have to spend the rest of your life with someone who didn't cherish you. You'll find a woman one day who will give you what you need and you'll look back on all of this as water under the bridge. What doesn't kill us, makes us stronger. Remember that. Learn from this and set your standards higher next time. Find someone who's worthy of you. It will make all the difference in the world.
2007-09-04 02:19:21 · answer #1 · answered by Mel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is cruel. I've been through a lot of cruel situations in my life too. My first husband cheated on me and after 23 yrs of marriage, left me to marry another women. He never wanted me to work, and now I had to find a job and try very hard to survive. At times I had to work 2 and 3 jobs at a time. But I made it. You will too. It's a shame that after only 4 years this happened to you, but believe me, you'll be better off without her. A cheating spouse is one of the worst things that can happen to anyone in my opinion. No one deserves to be humiliated and disrespected like that. So, chin up. In time, you'll be ok. Love your son and stay as close to him as possible. Get custody if you can. His mother doesn't sound like a good role model. My prayers are with you.
2007-09-04 09:23:55 · answer #2 · answered by kbear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your heartbreak is too fresh to be objective. People are cruel, that is a fact. Do whatever you have to do to keep a level head for your sons sake. If it were meant to be it would be. You need to know your strong and can get thru this. Your older now and can see things for what they are, not what you want them to be. It will be OK, you will see.
2007-09-04 09:16:15 · answer #3 · answered by Cheri >^.^< 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have an issue picking the wrong women. You are going for the cheating kind. Most of the women donlt cheat. Maybe you are just too concerned about looks. First time it's bad luck, second time it's your fault. Seriously, try to go for the good kind.
Good luck.
2007-09-04 11:17:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I'm so sorry she cheated on you someday she will regret and she will find out that she wont find any guy like u someday.She is cruel i hate people cheating thats just not fair and its sad Just let her be theres heaps of fish in the sea.
2007-09-04 09:14:24 · answer #5 · answered by Zexyana 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take my advice, find a nice girl with morals and file a custody for your son.
2007-09-04 09:16:14 · answer #6 · answered by sikat_ang_pinoy 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
so basically she lived off of you until this other man was ready to take her in... doesnt sound like your losing very much dear. obviously you deserve better than that. she did it to you, shell do it to him too
2007-09-04 09:27:31 · answer #7 · answered by ★SuGar and SpiCe★ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her she's wrong about that moving out date. Put her out now.
2007-09-04 09:15:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Maybe its the woman you choose....Not trying to take any blame from her...because she is surely at fault. But from here on out I'd be taking a look at myself and why I seem to be with woman who do this to me.
2007-09-04 09:14:02 · answer #9 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋