Marriage wise, Egyptian men, would you marry an older woman? Egyptian women, would you marry a younger guy?
I'm asking Egyptians in particular cuz I know it is very ordinary in the West for men to marry older women.
However, in Egypt it is very untraditional, and it happens but rarely.
I know some might say nothing matters when it comes to love, or that it is not forbidden, and of course it's not.
Others might argue that Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) married Khadija and she was 15 yrs older than he was, but then that was Prophet Muhammad and that was Khadija, and we can never be like them...
Also, I'm not talking about men marrying older women to for some indecent purposes... u know what I mean ;)
My personal opinion, I really don't like it when a man marries an older woman, no matter how much older she is, a yr or 10. I always told myself and others that I'd not even marry a guy if he was a day younger than me. I would like to hear other opinions from both men and women
2007-09-04 01:52:09 · 19 answers · asked by Ruby 6 in Travel ➔ Africa & Middle East ➔ Egypt
Pharmacist: what a nice story u have here. I'm sure the only reason u change ur opinion is bcuz u actually fell for him. I understand how ur feeling, ur like, I love him now so everthing is ok. I don't know how I would've acted if I was put in a similar situation. But I doubt that I would've change my mind abt it though. My husband is 1 yr older to me, and I hoped for some1 a yr to 5 older to me or my age, and I got what I wanted :) for u, I say just go with ur heart then and good luck in ur future marriage ;)
glamourous- I totally agree with u. It does seem odd in our society when a woman is older than the man that's why they tend to hide it.
redwine- It's normal to marry an older man, but when it comes to a woman being older, btib2a dima3'i gazma adeeema. I just really dislike it lol
2007-09-04 06:22:37 · update #1
sherief- lol, ur funny
ur wrong, not all women are the same. not all young ladies are after money. and no, if i see a woman in her 30's or 40's I won't tell her abt u :P
2007-09-05 05:38:51 · update #2
Well... I have always been flexible with age, ever since i was a little girl, and by nature i am a person who enjoys the company of those my age or younger..i used to like spending time with girls or boys who were young..and i hated people's company ..who were much older than me, although supposedly as u grow up u learn to like their company more because you want to learn to be older like them....anyways..i was always a person who wanted to be young...so i was flexible...and then as the years went by i found that many younger guys actually fell for me...it wasnt necessarily the other way around..but i felt that if i was interested in them and their perosnalities, then i wouldn't have minded the age difference at all.....
and then recently i started to fall for someone who is very close to me...a very good friend of mine..but the only problem is the "Age" difference...ive never really felt comfortable enough with anyone to give them a chance..the way i did with that person...and i found it so ironice that after all these years ..when my heart is ready to accept someone and give it a go...that the only problem is "age"....what do u say to someone who tells you..."you are the most perfect person I've ever seen...you're all that I would want in a wife....we have the strongest connection and understanding possible between two...I will never find someone like you I take comfort in talking to....BUT..I CAN NEVER FALL IN LOVE with an OLDER GIRL."
it's sad I know..that when u find the perfect person ....stupid societal restrictions keep you apart in the end...
I personally believe that age is social construction we chose to put for ourselves...and the real truth lies the person's character...a real man is a real man bec he knows how to be...nto because he is 10 years older than girl...a real girl, bursting with passion, femininity and care, knows how to be one not because she is 10 yrs younger, but because she knows how to be a girl and show her weakness to her man..and he is a man because he knows how to enfold her and make her feel safe and secure.
It's all in the head. Everything is a projection of the concepts we create and let ourselves believe in ....and nothing not dictated by Allah in the Quran or the Sunna....is a rule that must not be broken.
That's what I think atleast...good luck to all :)
2007-09-04 23:02:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can't answer this personally as i am not Egyptian but when i was talking to my boyfriend who is Egyptian. We were discussing age differences and he thinks the man should be older than the woman he said he can accept maybe the women been 1 year older at a push 2 years older but any older he thinks it looks bad as if the man is only with the woman for her money.
This isn't a general Egyptian view as he has friends with older women it is just his personal view.
2007-09-04 11:45:13 · answer #2 · answered by Crazy girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ruby u know what ?
i have a problem cuz of this
my cusine is younger than me by one year
but actually we r in love
i know this may sound crazy but we really love each other
it's kinda comlicated situation that will take time to be explained
but i was totally against the relative marriage and that a woman must not marry a younger guy or even if they were at the same age
but now i dont know , i just want this rules to be destroyed ,
now i think , what's the wrong if a woman married younger guy? no problem
u might be laughing right now , cuz i changed my thoughts
i know it's stupid , but really no one can understand how harsh is it (when u just judge married ppl cuz of their age) , till he really experience it
i really wanna get married to him , but also i dont want that
we just joke about it all day when we r together , but i think the most important thing in marriage is to have the ability to understand each other , and to sacrifice for each other , also the respect element is the most important
i hope ppl will understand that
thanks alot
oh .. plz tell me ur opinion ok?
2007-09-04 10:03:24 · answer #3 · answered by Pharmacist 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
For me, i'd prefer an older guy, but not too old. I kinda bugs me when i see couples with a huge age gap between em. Guys also tend to take longer to mature than girls. And plus, in our society if a woman married a younger guy, they'll be known as the odd couple.. Thats my opinion on marriage, but I truly dont know who I might fall for!
2007-09-04 10:09:39 · answer #4 · answered by glamorous B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We can say here whatever we say but when it comes to attraction and personalities there are other results.
The traditional thing is the woman is younger or not older more than 1 or 2 years.
I go with the nontraditional people. Personalities and the nature of understanding between both is more important.
Edit : I forgot to tell you I liked the way you explained your question to get to the point and avoid traditional answers
2007-09-04 18:52:52 · answer #5 · answered by Wise Heart 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
love has no age barrier. Right throughout the world ppl are marrying young and old ..old and young.......whats the deal? My personal opinion ruby is .. the heart knows what the heart wants..and most of society of today has accepted that. As in the days of Muhammad PBUH...nothing has changed.....cousins marrying cousins , brothers marrying sister in laws...when cupid aims his arrow then no one can make that love feel any shame.....and it is the minority in society and their tunnel vision that feel the shame ...not the lovers...their life will be happy while those that look upon the age difference will live in misery........u say one day younger than u...OPEN UR EYES!!!! see the world as it is ....it has has never changed from the year dot!.........ONE life...ONE real love.....grab it while u have it.........
2007-09-06 03:30:20 · answer #6 · answered by yellow_rosegarden 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course I would prefer an older than me husband, but if there is much love and or other factors like mutual understanding I have no objection to marry a not too younger man.
2007-09-04 09:18:03 · answer #7 · answered by Balsam 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with marrying older woman.
I personally never imagined myself married to an older woman.
But...
If the woman I loved was older, I wouldn't really care.
My wife is only 2 weeks younger than me :):), so I was not specifically looking for a certain age difference.
A friend of mine specified minimum 5 years difference !!! he actually did achieved what he wanted. He was funny though.
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2007-09-04 09:02:00 · answer #8 · answered by Sultan Shalfat the Adventurer 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Asalam alaikum, I will only say that maybe we cant be like the prophet(saws) and Khadija(ra) but we are Supposed to try....its dangerous if we say, well the prohpet (saws) Always prayed 2 rakas before Fajr, but I can Never be like him so I wont?... Ok now that doesnt mean a man Should marry an older women, but if its good enough for the Best of creation(saws) then it Has to be good enough for us. But it doesnt have to be our preference. 43 year old married to a 25 year old. Salaams
2007-09-04 13:41:43 · answer #9 · answered by Adam 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I wish i can find older woman married me u know what ? and why ?
what i took from younger woman ?? only she need money for makeup she need money for new thing i hate that but older woman understand what married life mean and how treat her husband . ok so do not ask about that if you know woman between 30 to 40 tell her that i wanna marry her ok :-)
2007-09-05 11:08:39 · answer #10 · answered by Sherief Afifi Galal 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋