my mom and dad are devorced but my mom is from michigan(they meet in california) so my moms moving back and getting married so i have till 2008 to decide to stay here with my dad or go with my mom to michagan and i like them both the same.what do you think I sould do???
2007-09-04 01:32:43 · 23 answers · asked by m 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you have a choice do what's best for you......your parents seem to be doing what's best for them.
2007-09-04 01:37:28 · answer #1 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough decision for you to make. You did not say how old you were... in some states, the Court will allow a child age 12 or older to choose their managing conservator.... I think that you need to make a list of the reasons for staying in california and the reasons for moving to michigan. Figure out what's best for you. I'm sure it will be tough leaving friends behind, just as I'm sure it will be even tougher to be so far away from your mom.... you might also talk to a counselor at school or a pastor or rabbi.... This is a big decision for an adult, much less a child! Good Luck!
2007-09-04 01:39:34 · answer #2 · answered by Linda S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear that you are put in this position of having to choose...it must be very hard on you. If you are happy now with your dad, I would probably stay with him and visit your mom as much as you can. It might be more difficult for you to move in with your mom because you would not only have to adjust to a new location and school and leave your friends behind, but you would also have to adjust to living with her new husband as well. Ultimately, it's up to you. Think everything through, and then make a decision based on what you feel is best for you. Discuss it with your mom and dad, too.
2007-09-04 01:44:18 · answer #3 · answered by G.V. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry , you feel the need to pick, maybe you should let both your parents see this actually message, and it will break their heads together, you didn't say how old you were, not that it matters. Divorce's can be rather messy at any age. In my own experience you will have the life of Reilly till they split as they will both be fighting for your support, so take advantage of it while you can, but don't let it influence your decision. You say you like them both the same, I think you meant love, but I understand what you meant. M; as a boy it would be beneficial to go with either parents, as you must know that your dad is capable of looking after himself, but if you are a girl then your place is with your mum, she will need your support more and they both know you love them.
I wish you good luck but let them see your question so they know what your dealing with, tell them there are 3 in this relationship.
2007-09-04 01:46:50 · answer #4 · answered by robertsutherland1@btinternet.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to make up your own mind about this - no one can tell you what to do, and you still have a while to think about it.
Weigh the differences between the school you are in now & a new school, leaving your old friends and making new ones, leaving a warm climate to a place where winters can be brutal (sorry had to put that one in there - you may like winter). If they are letting you make the choice then these are some of the things to consider.
2007-09-04 01:40:41 · answer #5 · answered by Lucy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unless youv'e met your mum's ' soon to be wed hubby ' ( which will then become your stepfather ) you might be safer to stay with dad --- simply because --- if ' stepdad ' doesn't ' measure up' --- then you will have moved --- only to feel bitter to everyone .
if you are still at school and have good close friends where you are --- i think you should stay --- at least for a while ; because the ' boot ' could be just as easily be on the other foot ; if and when , dad decides to bring home a potential ' stepmother '
you are in a difficult situation --- but trust your judgement !! good luck .
2007-09-04 01:48:51 · answer #6 · answered by bill g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is very difficult on the kids..........I went through it with all 6 of my sweethearts. A child needs to be with the parent that can offer more stable living conditions. They need support from both parents in what should be done. (hopefully both parents can work together) You need stability, love and caring, and your friends. You have a big decision to make. Confide in your parents and let them know how you feel. Hopefully, they will take some of the burden off your shoulders.
2007-09-04 01:47:10 · answer #7 · answered by kathleen_martin8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can answer this question except you. No one knows the situation better than you. Its not a matter of who you are closer to or making one feel better than the other or what not. Its gotta come down to your mom is deciding to move away. She feels that going back home and getting married to this new guy is the best thing for her. Is that the best thing for you is what you need to decide for yourself.
2007-09-04 01:40:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know God? This is something that you should pray about. Nobody is going to be able to help you with this one. If you've accepted Jesus Christ as your personal savior and believe that he is the Lord, just ask him and he will tell you. This is such a hard decision, since you don't know own future or what your parents will do in the future. I'll be praying for you.
2007-09-04 01:41:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what makes you happy, You can always go and visit the other one. Talk to your parents and tell them how you feel about the whole situation because in the end its the child that ends up being the one that gets hurt. Good Luck to you and I hope it all works out!
2007-09-04 01:40:19 · answer #10 · answered by nichole l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well usually this is handled by spending part of the year with one parent and part with the other. Usually choosing to stay in the school system they know... with friends.
Good Luck
2007-09-04 01:39:14 · answer #11 · answered by umannjo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋