2007-09-04 00:43:41 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm sure they already know
2007-09-04 00:46:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
If you really are a failure, you don't have to tell anyone. Instead of having a pity party, why don't you set some goals to change things and make a list of what it takes to get from where you are to where you want to be - then make those things happen one at a time. We all have failures in life but don't let that define us. Like that Chinese proverb that goes something like "if you get knocked down 79 times just make sure you stand up 80." -- Millionaires and successful people don't succeed on the first try and many have a string of failures. You have to be proactive in life to have the life you want.
Failure is only the opportunity to begin again more initelligently. (Henry Ford)
We learn wisdom from failure much more than from success. We often discover what we will do, by finding out what we will not do. And probably he who never made a mistake never made a discovery. (Samuel Smiles)
Most people make a common mistake...by thinking of failure as the enemy of success...You've got to put failure to work for you...Go ahead and make mistakes. Make all you can. Because remember that's where you'll find success - on the other side of failure. (Thomas Watson of IBM)
What would you attempt to do if you know you could not fail? (Dr. Robert Schuller)
2007-09-04 00:59:57 · answer #2 · answered by L Y 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most people fail from time to time, but the idea that a person IS a failure is based on false premises and limited thinking. Life is experimental in nature and experimentation involves failure. But from those failures come insights that eventually lead to successes. Neither exists without the other.
Labeling yourself as a failure is often a sign of depression and a precursor to suicidal urges. Few, if any, can find the way out of such depression without help, but depression often saps the ability to seek such help effectively. Explain to your wife what's happened, what it's doing to you, and ask her to help you find treatment.
Your wife and kids won't be concerned with your success or failure as much as the are about you. They will not abandon you, but will love and nurture you until you are strong again.
2007-09-04 01:05:00 · answer #3 · answered by nightserf 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Run, do not walk, to get some help from a counselor. You need more help than Yahoo answers. You are not a failure and I don't even know you. You have a wife and kids - that right there makes you a success - now go find other things you are good at - you can do it! Good luck!
2007-09-04 00:50:15 · answer #4 · answered by vegasrob89118 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Think for a minuite, do your kids and wife have all their basic needs? You could be just holding yourself to too high of a standard. Give yourself some credit, instead of telling them you have failed why don't you take a night class and try to better your education so you can make a better life for them. get a second part time job to pay the rent. Whatever you do for them will speak leaps and bounds more than just telling them that you are a failure.
2007-09-04 00:49:31 · answer #5 · answered by Ancient Warrior DogueDe Bordeaux 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
YOU DON"T...if you are having a rough time and feel like a failure you never share that with your kids. YOu can talk to your wife in private and tell her that you feel like a failure and why. You would be surprised at the support and confidence boost she will give you. But kids look up to daddy and no matter what they won't see you as a failure. Don't ruin it for your kids.
2007-09-04 00:47:17 · answer #6 · answered by chris d 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
First of all, your wife should understand or at least listen to anything you have to say, especially about something that sounds so serious. I suggest leaving your kids out of it; they're completely innocent (as far as I know...)
Why do you feel as though you are a failure? Do you think it's your family's fault? Evaluate yourself, and get some counseling. If not, have a good long talk with your wife.
I really hope you get through your depression and feel better. There are a lot of bad, horrible things that can happen in life, but there is always a way out of it. You've just got to be patient. Easier said than done, but please try to trust me. And put trust in yourself, alright? :)
Good luck, sweets.
2007-09-04 00:49:52 · answer #7 · answered by Stephy B. 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't!! You take everything you got and make it right because this is your family! You get back on track and keep your commitment and appreciate everything you've got! They love you and need you and you are important to them and they have all of their emotions counting on you because out of everyone else they have the true love for you. Everyone and anything else can not mean as much for them as you...and you belong to them and they belong to you through all the bad and all the good.Don't let anyone or anything take that away from you because if you do nothing will ever be right again. You can make life be whatever you want it to be and don't allow anything to knock that down! You go back to the begining and start over and recommit to them in your heart and mind and leave what is weighing you down behind you. They are your true reason and hope for sucess and the back bone for helping you to be the man you become. What you do and make of yourself in this life will be the legacy you leave behind and remembered and loved for and that was your reason for living.It is all in you to over come any obstacles that are in your way so you tap into that source of your higher power and draw on it and be proud of yourself and all good things will come from it. You take care and know that as long as you are alive and breathing you can make that difference to stand tall and never allow failure to take over your life.
2007-09-04 01:28:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF your wife and kids really respect love you they wouldnt think your a failure they would probally think your haveing few problems in your life not a failure!!! DO NOT PUT YOURSELF DOWN life is too short now pick yourself up dust yourself down and do what you normally do but better
2007-09-04 00:49:59 · answer #9 · answered by sexiebum 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you think you are a failure then you have failed not just your wife and kid but yourself aswell. you see, no body is a failure unless he or she decides to quit. life is a continous battle, sometimes you fall, but it is when you get up that you win these battle. so always believe in yourself and never give up!! good luck!
2007-09-04 00:52:56 · answer #10 · answered by Erick J 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they don't care. Maybe they have unconditional love for you and will accept you for who you are. If you are a failure, only you can change that, so get off the computer and start changing you life.
2007-09-04 00:50:30 · answer #11 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋