Okay, My ex girlfriend. I like really really liked her alot. But we only went out for 1 week. She broke up with me because she said we didn't see each other enough. But the real reason her crush(which WAS my best friend) told me was that she broke up with me because she didn't like me enough to say "i love you". So about maybe a month later i started liking her alot again. But 2 days ago my freakin so called best friend asks her out. So his and my other best friend call my cell, and he leaves a message saying "I'm sorry but, Dude i hooked gabby and shaun up. They're very much in love. I'm sorry dude. No hard feelings." How should i feel about this? Mad? Sad? Angry? I even told my real best friend about it and he said that i should be mad. So how should i feel about this situation?
2007-09-04 00:35:23 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think you need to find better friends...
2007-09-04 00:44:21 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, your ex was obviously just trying to find an excuse to tell you she didn't want to be going out with you anymore, b/c she didn't want you to know the real reason. Seems like the two of them already had eyes for each other. Don't obsess over this girl, b/c she doesn't have the same feelings for you. Find someone that likes you for you and really has an interest in getting to know you better.
As far as your friend goes... seems like he gave no regard to how you felt about her... (regardless of how long you actually dated) it's not right. You have the right to be angry. You don't need a friend like that. You want a friend that actually cares about you and your feelings/interests.
There are many other fish in the sea... (friends and girlfriends)... find better ones!
2007-09-04 02:33:20 · answer #2 · answered by Luv2HelpYou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't for your friend to offer "No hard feelings." Only you could do that, as it is you who is entitled to hard feelings. The equivelent would be for someone to instruct another, "Thank me," or "Say you are sorry." By posing it as a question ("No hard feelings?") he is requesting you not to hold it against him, which you are well within your right to deny.
Unhappily, these things--losing both a friend and a girl at once, by way of them both hurting you incredulously--do happen, and there is, regretably, little to be done about it. Any, all, or none of the feelings you have suggested are correct. Allow yourself to feel, or not feel, as it is natural for you. Then, start over. Concentrate on your real best friend. And look forward to finding a girl who is much better for you.
2007-09-04 00:58:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chalk it up to experience....for one thing how can you be in love after dating for a week? True love is something that comes to be in time, weeks, months....not days. If she is that flighty, than your so called friend deserves her. Maybe he is doing you two favors right now. One is he is taking a flighty girl off of your hands and doing you the favor of being showed what she is really like. Two, he is showing you what kind of friend he isn't and giving you the oppurtunity of cutting him loose before you have wasted any more time on that friendship. Don't be angry or bitter, just chalk it up as a lesson learned and move on with your life. She and he are freeing up more of your time to find a more worthy friend and girlfriend.
2007-09-04 00:44:48 · answer #4 · answered by TC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How should you feel? Dude, she's your X, you have no claim or control of her. It's ok to be sad, that natural. But getting mad at people for doing what you want to do is petty and immature. It won't get "your" girlfriend back either. This won't be the first and only time you get dropped by a girl. LEARN from your mistakes and move on.
2007-09-04 00:47:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are tons of girls out there for you. And this one wasn't for you. You want someone who truly cares for you. And the "I love you" doesn't come instantly. It takes time.
It stinks that you are in the situation that you are in -that she liked your best friend and now they are together. You can approach the subjects with your friends how it hurt. I'd be mad for a bit, but like I said there are so many girls out there to meet.
2007-09-04 00:45:55 · answer #6 · answered by Lori B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's ok that u will feel mad, sad and angry because noone can tell you what you should or should not feel...but i think you should not blame them maybe your girlfriend is telling the truth that she don't love you anymore because u don't see each other a lot...communication is really important in the relationship...maybe because your bestfriend is the one always accompanying her.....find someone better than her...someone who will love you TRULY
2007-09-04 00:53:25 · answer #7 · answered by wennah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be mad about it . Look for a nice girl to date and stay away from the other one . She was not for you at all . Take it easy . Good luck
2007-09-04 00:41:49 · answer #8 · answered by silverearth1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess I'd be pretty mad all everybody, but you're probably better off. Those aren't the kind of "friends" you need.
2007-09-04 00:41:34 · answer #9 · answered by Judy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends like that who needs enemies?!
You have a right to be upset. I would find a new best friend and send this one walking. he showed no regard for how you felt about her at all. That is not a friend at all.
2007-09-04 00:44:30 · answer #10 · answered by Stefbear 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like teenage DRAMA... Get over it, she'll probably end up with some really slimy disease and who wants to live with that for the rest of their life... move on, get new friends and a new girl...
2007-09-04 00:54:36 · answer #11 · answered by jjonesacctony 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋