I'm a GRANDMOTHER now and only 35 years old!
I had my Daughter at 14, and she got pregnant and had her son at 14. I have had custody of him scene we got home from hospital he's now 8 and the one TRUE JOY of my life!
T work 2 jobs SAFEWAY, scenes I was 13 and COSTCO for last 12 years and sometimes I have to work 17 or 18 hour a day at least 2 days a week.
This past Friday I worked from 3am noon at Safeway, then 12:30 pm till 8 pm, when I got home 10 minutes later my grandson had not been feed, but that was okay because my grandson made dinner for me, what wrong with this picture?
He used the Toaster oven and made me a BLT, Perfectly he then pulled out a plastic pan and put my feet in it and got hot water for them to soak! Again I ask whats wrong with this picture?
My Mother who lives with me free of charge brought home a guy walked by and took the wonderful sandwich my GRANDSON made for me and gave it to the guy of the night.
Again whats wrong with this picture?
2007-09-03 21:44:22 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My Grandson protested and told mothers friend to give it back, well he just bit into it and said good sandwich, but I'll make it up to your "MOMMY" and give her something to chew on( no joking) after I'm done with grannie!
Lost it and through them both out by calling the police and having him removed from my home and when my mother left I changed the locks the next day!
My grandson (bless his heart) made another BLT and gave it to me, what I did not know was it was his, he was planning to eat it with me but after my mother man their was only one left.
My grandson ate nothing bit a banana for dinner, again whats wrong wit this picture?
He has such a generous soul I fearful that the putrid animals called my family (my daughter included) will take advantage of him what would you do to protect him?
A member already sexually abused him, he was 4, and is now in jail. He slept with me for 2 years after that out of fear, I have to protect him HOW?
He's my Pride and joy!
2007-09-03 21:44:42 · update #1
sorry wrong board but hell please help if you can answer it.
2007-09-03 21:49:41 · update #2
This is a serious issue.. Your grandson sounds like a fine young man. You might need to talk to you mother about the people she brings around your grandson.
2007-09-03 21:47:03 · answer #1 · answered by BigWashSr 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Ultra Violet, you've worked entirely too long and need to take some time off to take care of business. I know you're the only source of income in that household, but he should be your sole priority. Take some time and get your house in order. School starts soon so he'll be semi-safe there, then he should be in an after school program. Perhaps, if it's okay, provide him with a child care provider till you get home. Although you've been working long hours, you should cut back on your hours or get into another line of work that allows you to be home more to support him. As for your daughter, and I don't advocate violence, should be struck in the mouth with something hard! Cut them all off and move on. Give him a BIG hug! He deserves it.
2007-09-04 05:17:06 · answer #2 · answered by for7949 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any time we are are feeling we have to protect a child from someone, this is very serious! You may need to get legal help to keep him protected, and YOURSELF! However, if you are working two jobs, what kind of life does your grandson have? And why does he feel so responsible that he is cooking for you? It is a nice gesture from a 8 yr,. old boy, but I can't help but wonder where his childhood went? You keep asking what is wrong with this picture. What is wrong? a 8 yr. old boy in this situation in the first place!!!!!!!!! and being so responsible, when he should be outside playing with other kids.
2007-09-04 05:12:36 · answer #3 · answered by Ikeg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are dealing with a very serious issue. The first thing that you have to do is to weed out everyone in your life that is not positive. You have two responsibilities one with your grandson and the other one to yourself. If your daughter isn't going to be instrumental in his life she needs to get lost and work on repairing herself. Second instead of working two jobs try to see about working one fulltime job. I am so sorry that you are going through everything good luck and God Bless
2007-09-04 05:33:12 · answer #4 · answered by TELO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi! Leasa W,
I'm sorry to read this...You have been sacrificing for many many years, and God will bless you with great rewards in heaven for this...
I believe you should seek out a time this week if possible, to obtain restraining orders on all of these adults who are not welcome in your home any longer, inform your local police officers of what you are doing so they will be alerted...Change all the locks, put locks & dowls on all of the windows...
Do you have any neighbors who keep an eye on your grandson after school & while your working? I'm concerned for his well being & safety...The environment needs to be cleaned up, both physically & spiritually! Do you attend church with your grandson? Find a local community church or whatever you feel comfortable with, they will be of great encouragement & help to you both...He & you need this! Pray for God's grace, mercy & wisdom, He gives it freely...I'll be praying for you...Best wishes!
2007-09-04 05:06:26 · answer #5 · answered by Ultra Violet 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
get the people who can hurt your grandson out of your life, ask for help from the community, don't allow deadbeats to live with u, put people in your life that will be a good influence on your grandson. try to get a better job so u can work just one job.
2007-09-04 05:49:30 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your mother's guests cannot respect you and the persons who live under your roof they need to visit another home. This guy for instance should not be allowed back into the home because he is obviously ignorant and is a bad impression on your grandson.
2007-09-04 04:49:30 · answer #7 · answered by Crystal f 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to start cleaning out your house. Tell the people in that house that you are there and willing to raise your grandson in the right kind of home he deserves and anyone who doesn't fall in line needs to remove themselves from your house. If you have people living in your house free of charge I don't give a **** who they are they need to start following the rules of the house and set an good example for this poor boy who is being forced to grow up because no one in that house will.
Tell them to SHAPE UP OR SHIP OUT
2007-09-04 04:54:08 · answer #8 · answered by Ollie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Move, you work two jobs, get your own place. Move now.
You already know what if wrong with the picture. Your grandson is not in a safe place.
2007-09-04 08:17:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anne2 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, this is something I have never had to experience, and I
cant imagine it, I do have a few thoughts I'm not sure if they
will help since I'm not in your shoes and I don't know the details of your life. I'm assuming your mother is also not very old maybe 50-60. It sounds to me like your mother was never much of a mother and when you had your daughter at such a young age, you had to grow up very fast.. To me it sounds like you did, and you are trying to do the best you know how, with the little guidance you had as a child.
It's amazing how history repeats itself, (I'm only assuming a lot of things here, because I don't know your specific situation)
But I am also assuming as a young adult you also worked a lot to be able to provide for your daughter, there is nothing wrong with that we all have to do what we have to do. However Your grandson as already been abused by a family member and obviously your family inst much of a family (more like a pain in the A**).
My only suggestion to you is to change somethings you are doing.
#1 Its great you already took the first step to raise your grandson (instead of him ending up in foster care)
#2 you took that step as well to get your mother out of the home, sounds to me that she doesn't care to much about her daughter,granddaughter and great-grandson.
#3 Since you took the responsibility upon yourself to raise your grandson, thats what you need to do.We all need to work to provide for our family's, however It is more important to be around for a young child than it is to be able to buy things extra... Stop working so many hours, he's 8 yrs old he's in school for 6-8 hrs daily.. (thats a plus, not a lot of daycare expenses).. Where I live my sons school has a before and after school program. He goes to the before school program (which starts at 7am).. I do have to pay for it (just like a day care) but it is very inexpensive (since I did qualify for a reduced cost since I am low income) look into that. you can take him to school early and pick him up late if you have to. If you can work less hours you should, he will learn the value of having love more than the value of gas in a car or food on the table. Yes food on the table is a good thing but with a child (and even a grown adult) love and security is more valuable than anything that can ever be bought. and you don't need a second job to show him you love him and are willing to take care of him.
Bottom line he is at school when he is not with you, and when he gets home you can both have the rest of the night to hang out and strengthen the bond you and him have.
#4 DO NOT rely on anyone else to help you unless it is a very close friend that you can trust. (obviously the family is not trustworthy)
#5 if you need to... LEAVE.. Its hard enough to be a single parent, but to have to worry about family hurting your child is ridiculous. If anything leave the city or town you live in, heck leave the state if you have too. Just remember there is a fine line between keeping him safe and secluded from people (but definitely keep him away from family they are not good at all)
keep that boy safe and happy, he seems to be very helpful and a very loving child, as long as he is kept safe and he knows his grandmother loves him and is willing to show him love and do anything for him. He will one day grow up to be a MAN that will respect others around him and more than anything his wife and kids when he gets older. It seems to me that GOD gave you another chance to make this next generation the NEW one.. I will pray for you and your grandson, to be able to move on past all the negatively in your life's.. and Most of all I will pray that you are given the strength and courage to keep moving forward, and that your precious grandson grows up to be a great man that can be able to trust people, and to be able to forgive people that do bad things,even though he learned at a real young age that people are bad, and he needs to know that people aren't all bad.
Sorry this was so long, but its early in the morning and I had time to kill, Your story touched my heart and I really hope that you and your grandson/son are able to overcome all things that have been thrown at you especially at such young ages..
If you ever want to chat feel free to e-mail me.
God bless, and I really hope everything turns out for the good
2007-09-04 06:20:21 · answer #10 · answered by CHUTKA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋