my best friend and i were so close. we were like twins. but now she has gone off with a group of girls that smoke and always get into trouble and get bad grades. i am really smart and i dont want to be bad. she wont talk to me anymore and she is talking about me to everyone at my school. everyones turning against me. i told the counsellor and principal but they cant help. please help me and answer!
2007-09-03 20:55:08 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
This is sad, but unfortunately that's the way life goes.
2007-09-03 20:58:23 · answer #1 · answered by japiecrox 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hello carrkids,
So what are your counsellor and principal there for? Surely thats their job, especially your counsellor.
If this girl is spreading malicious and untrue rumours about you and turning other against you, it is their duty to step in and take action. This is tantamount to bullying.
I wish I had 5 minutes with your counsellor. I would read him/her the riot act.
As for as your 'friend' is concerned, I feel you are well rid of her. I reckon she has been influenced by her new so called friends. Hopefully she will come to her senses and realise that they are no good for her and also realise how much she is hurting you.
Try to concentrate on your work and continue getting high grades.
Can you discuss it with your parents? Perhaps they can get you principal & counsellor to act.
Or go back to the counsellor and tell him/her that you want and need something done about it as you are feeling bullied and if nothing is done you are afraid your grades will suffer.
Students can be really cruel to other students sometimes and that is why your counsellor is there to help and protect those in need.
I do wish you the best of luck and hope that this problem soon gets resolved.
John
(Poseidon)
2007-09-03 21:19:22 · answer #2 · answered by Poseidon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what anyone can say that will help, you have been betrayed by someone you held dear and that sucks. Anyone who really knows you wont listen to her tales and I suggest you do the same, if anyone comes up to you to ask you if something is true then depending on what they ask either laugh it off and say that's funny or say something like honestly can you see me doing that then laugh.
She is more than likely upset that you are strong enough and smart enough not to get involved with people like that and she isn't. So don't come down to her level, no name calling no spreading your own tales don't give her the satisfaction. I know it is hard but you have a good head on your shoulders, get on with your life and let her get on with hers, talk to the friends you do have and give no attention to any dumb remarks she or her so called friends say. It will in time calm down and people will forget.
Stay smart, good luck.
2007-09-07 00:08:53 · answer #3 · answered by karen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find new friends, and forget about her, ignore her.show her she's not affecting you with her actions.she'll fall out with her new 'friends' soon-its always like that. or go talk to her-show her who's boss,demand to know why she is trying to turn everyone against you. good for you for being smart-dont lose it cos you'll regret it. dont give it all up for her. seeing as the counsellor and the principal cant help-either talk to her alone like i just said-or talk to her and her parents.
2007-09-03 23:51:14 · answer #4 · answered by karen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact is that you will go through several sets of friends in your lifetime as you grow older. This is perhaps one of those times and you will need to adjust to it. It is in the short term perhaps somewhat painful, however you will find that it is just the natural course of things.
You will need to learn to ignore her comments about you to others. Her opinion is really no more valid than anyone else's thoughts, do not sink into an exchange with her, but rather (even if isolated) show who you are by your example. You do not need this girl or anyone else and what she says can only hurt you if you allow it to do so.
My Very Best To You.. It will be perhaps a tough road, but you will be stronger for having traveled it.
Good Luck!
~
2007-09-03 21:04:15 · answer #5 · answered by fitzovich 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I had a best Friend through out school and she did the same as what yours is doing now i dont see her and i dont care because i work in a Solicitors and they are all bums!!! and im engaged and expecting a baby!! you will feel low its so hard to do but do not get dragged down with them it isnt worth it at all!!!!Good Luck Stay Strong
2007-09-04 02:34:04 · answer #6 · answered by LilAngel18 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her talk you don't need friends like her and school is not a social event you are there to learn! Move on don't let her bring you down... this would just mean trouble, and your smarter than that! Smoking & drinking are not good, worry about yourself not her its not worth it.... think about it is this what you want! No! Life is not far, and there are no makeovers, do what you have to do to be who you are, don't screw your self up just because, she was your friend! people are alwys going to talk, anyone who really knows you will know better....
2007-09-04 04:31:53 · answer #7 · answered by Beautiful Bee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your better off with out her, you are smarter , stay the way you are, dont get yourself into trouble just to be like the rest of them, you will have the last laugh when you leave school with a good education behind you and you can get a good job, not like all them as they will become a load of drop outs with no grades. i know its hard the way they are treating you, ive been there in the past, but you can beat this and come out on top.
2007-09-03 21:33:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget her the people who matter the most know you, so whatever she says wont matter she will turn into a loser and let her if thats what she wants you cant make her be a good student and not get into trouble she will have to learn on her own she obviously dont care about you when you get older and have a wonderful job and life, when hers is all messed up with problems she will realize what she missed out on.
2007-09-03 21:02:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, this sounds exactly like the plot of that film "Thirteen".
When you are an adult you will realise that non of this really matters.
Find some new friends and don't let them know it is bothering you.
You get pathetic people, a bit like RACHEL R above, in all walks of life. They just need to be ignored as they are like mosquitos. If you give them blood, they always come back for more.
2007-09-03 21:01:41 · answer #10 · answered by abluebobcat 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
in my school are many groups of girls ......and sorry but some of them are just biches .....probably they are cool and ur best friend wanna be cool to .....try to find ather friend .....just wait a wille ur best friend will come back caz no one rezist long time in a kind of this group anyway stop crying this inst good and if u will be cool and if u dont care about what everyone say they will stop trust my i was in ur situation to and now i have many friends and i dont care about the ppl i dont like anyway if ur birthday is close u can invite her .....probably she will come .....if she dont that mean that u need another best friend sorry hope this help u
2007-09-03 22:32:43 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋