My husband is not pleasing me in bed at all, for the past month our sex life has been so bad. We never had this problem I love my husband very much; I know he is not having an affair because we spend every minute of the day together. We own a bar and we work together, shop together, we do everything together, I think that is the problem that we spend to much time with each other but my husband said no that isn't it. But his mind just is not in the bedroom. He has turned into an awful lover. What should I do? I don't want to hurt his feelings.
2007-09-03 20:41:00 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sounds to me like you two need a small vacation. Sometimes that can help you look at things from a different perspective.
We all change as we get older, so it would probably help if you could tell him what would please you rather than letting him guess. Most guys really want to please their partners and so do most women. The answer to your question is to develop a sense of adventure and talk about what you'd like to do. Present it like a fantasy and see where it goes from there.
2007-09-03 20:48:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're sure to get some good advice on here but whatever it is you do....do it FAST. You should never assume anything. It could be physical, too much work, boredom with your usual sex, an affair, anything. Talk a lot and take things slowly.
What is "awful" lover anyway? Do you mean he is no longer attentive to you? Too rough? Ignores you? Too quick? No interest? This could certainly be a clue.
2007-09-04 03:53:26 · answer #2 · answered by the_kidfrost 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be one of several things. the two that I would check on is #1 prostrate problems, and the other is stress. If he is not stressed out, then he should see the doctor asap and have his protrate checked. The earlier the better if that is the problem!!! My ex waited a good while before getting help and it took a long time for him to get better. the doctor said that if he had gone in sooner, it would not have been so difficult.
2007-09-04 03:52:08 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to buy urself a vibrating toy to keep you warm on those cold nights! It's not the same but it sure is fun!!
2007-09-04 03:51:04 · answer #4 · answered by *star chick* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for a vacation for sometime. Visit your parents & stay they for sometime at least a week or two.He will surely miss you & when you come back...........I guess you know what will come next...
2007-09-04 04:00:41 · answer #5 · answered by Lullu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him some space. He will recover soon.
2007-09-04 03:48:42 · answer #6 · answered by OC 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell him he needs to do better.
2007-09-04 03:56:13 · answer #7 · answered by Max 77 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋