we both are in love fro the past 2 years. we cant leave each other. we have tried leaving each other..but we were unsuccessful in that.. i cant marry anyone else. i cant even think of anybody else. the boy's family is quite well off , educated. even my family is very well off and educated.but my parents are not agreeing at all. what shud i do..plz suggest me.
2007-09-03 20:02:38 · 14 answers · asked by neha a 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you both are Hindu by religion & adult (at least the bride 18 years& groom 21 years) then get married in an Arya Samaj Mandir in presence of witnesses preferably get some government gazetted officer to witnesses this marriage along with other adult witnesses. Why I suggested the name of the government gazetted official because such a person can be one of witness at the time of your marriage registration by the Marriage registrar under section 8 of the Hindu Marriage Act, 1955. If you are living in Delhi then the witness of this gazetted officer shall be enough for the registration of such marriage, but if you live in any other state in India then another witness may be required for the purpose of the registration. This registration can be done at the same district where your marriage took place on a very nominal payment with the marriage registrar who is the sub-registrar or the Tehsildar of the district. Yes the amount you spent this marriage solemnized by the Arya Samaj Mandir will cost you about Rs5000/- & you will be asked to give affidavit with regards to your age, marital status etc by the Arya Samaj Mandir, who will issue a marriage certificate with regard to this marriage that you will have to attach along with photographs of the marriage ceremonies at the time of the registration of this marriage. After you have got married & got this marriage registered go & meet your parents & tell this happy news to them, now whether they agree or not, the marriage between both of you will be legal & binding for all purposes. This the only way out for both of you by getting married by this inqalabi manner.
2007-09-03 21:55:29 · answer #1 · answered by vijay m Indian Lawyer 7 · 8⤊ 0⤋
you do what your heart says and of what you are convinced. I will not say do not listen to your parents and i will also not say listen to them. Its very important for you to be convinced and happy with what ever decision that you take. At the end of it all there is no guarantee for happiness in either of your decisions - whether you marry the guy you love or you marry the guy that your parents suggest. But you must be able to accept, face and live with whatever decision that you take for now. If things go well with your decision, you will be fine but in case your decision back fires you will not know what hit you and what next to do. At that time, the conviction with which you would have taken the decision now will help you cope with the situation. Hence, think well and think hard and consider all aspects before taking the decision. At the end of it all, its your life and you have to live and go through what ever that comes your way. Others (family and friends) will be there with you for support but you will be the only one to feel and go through all that happens with you.
Think hard and then take a decision. dont hurry with anything..... its the question of your life.
All the best!!!!!!
2007-09-04 01:13:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you two r old enough for a marriage i would suggest thinking r you two ready for marriage at this point in your life. remember that most marriages fail because of money issues so make sure you two r both financially stable in your lives like education wise and job wise. As for the parents if you two r old enough are absolutely sure you two r ready to get married there is a certain point where you have to live on your own and make your own decisions and parents cant control you both of you forever however hard they might try. Basically they cant stop you from getting married you guys don't have to run away though just explain to your parents that its going to happen weather they like it or not and it would be appreciated if they gave you guys their blessing but if not explain you two are adults and will live your lives according to how you see fit.If they are really crazy and threaten to disown her or something well that's something you two have to decided on if she is ready for the consequences that might occur. You two are adults and have to realize every decision has its consequences so be sure to always think logically about all issues because love alone is not enough unfortunately to have a healthy marriage. I hope I helped you and good luck.
2016-05-21 00:01:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are of atleast 18 years of age and your BF is of 21 years there are no legal impediments to your marriage, so long as all the other conditions of valid hindu marriage are fulfilled.
Follow the advice of Vijay M and get married at Arya Samaj, that way you will get your marriage registered and your marriage will be as per Hindu religion.
There is no reason why you cant marry your BF unless you are scared of your parents. If you get married, it will be a fiat accompli for your parents, they can either accept your marriage or disown you as their daughter, if either of these outcomes is acceptable to you then you can go ahed. Usually parents come around if you wait long enough but be prepared to live without your parents support and face the conseqences in case your marriage fails for any reason.
2007-09-04 03:00:18 · answer #4 · answered by Pramod R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you love him since 2 years. so you know everything about him. there is nothing new to know about him now. marriage is a commitment to live with him for a lifetime. after the marriage what is there in him that is going to interest you, other than the feeling that you have won over your parents and other resistances. once you are married the resistances would be gone. you will have nothing to push you and at the same time nothing new with the old guy. so better look before yu leap.
2007-09-04 01:35:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must not be from the United States.
If you are old enough.........just go get married. At least that is what people do in the USA.
Once you are an adult, you don't have to please your parents. Always respect them, but don't give your love up for your parents.
Move out of the country if you have to. It is very rare in the world now a days do parents have power over who marries who.
2007-09-03 20:13:20 · answer #6 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any how you convince your parents. Tell them firmly that you are going to marry the same boy. But do not spoil the future of any other boy for the will of your parents.
2007-09-03 20:19:53 · answer #7 · answered by Pranil 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur parents have to think about ur sisters and brothers as well.
but if boy's parents are well off and educated I think ur prents should accept it. If u marry him against ur parents wishes it may cause a pain to ur parents and ur husband may not get due recpect in here.
2007-09-04 10:10:52 · answer #8 · answered by shelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I really like CL California's answer. That's basically just what I was gonna say, too (probably except just assuming that you're not in the USA, although that does sound probable). Yeah, go with hers! It sounds good.
Mike
2007-09-03 20:15:52 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a usual problem but my friend just listen to your heart . u should set your own priorities. Do something and do fast dont demolish yourself in if and buts .
Life is a journey of experiences then why dont move on this journey with smile.
you have to have faith on yourself and life will follows you
2007-09-07 06:31:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋