I have been married for 10 years and I have 3 children. My husband "tells it like it is" at times and has upset people by doing it. Recently I have a friend that will only invite me and my kids places if my husband is at work, because she says she doesn't care for him. My husband is a great provider (I stay at home) and would do anything for me & the kids. I know he lacks patience and sometimes says things that he shouldn't say. I have talked to him and told him that his actions effect the family and that our kids are not getting invited places because of him. I love him...but what can I do when so many other people don't care for him?
2007-09-03 19:41:28 · 10 answers · asked by famof5 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
When I talk to him he does say he's sorry and that he'll try!!
2007-09-03 20:04:20 · update #1
He really is a great guy....just sometimes says things and needs to bite his tongue instead.
Yes, he has friends.
2007-09-03 20:06:18 · update #2
I dont blame people for not wanting to be around him. He sounds like an arrogant self righteous jerk.
You cant change anyone else, the friends or him but you can urge him to seek counseling and find out why he thinks he is better than everyone else and thinks its his job to straighten everyone out.
2007-09-03 19:49:44 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it seems he is good with you and kids and behaves well and you like him very much - but what abt ur kids - hv u ever told your kids that because of your father's behaviour you could not take them to any of your friends places - if not - don't t stuff all these things to their mind and make them anti-father. Better you make your friends understand that your husband behaves some times like that and he repents and cannot change it coz it became his habit. You may not be able to change his character at this stage just for the sake of your friends. You continue ur relationship with your friends and at the same time try to make yr husband understand about his doings whenever you get time that creates confusion in the minds of certain people. He may not change fully.
As you mentioned he has friends - that means he can be in such company where he is comfortable.
2007-09-03 21:04:21 · answer #2 · answered by BLOWHOT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just dont let your friends and your husband cross paths! Its okay that she invited you and the kids over when hes working!! If she didnt they would probably argue right in front of you and they kids and I know you dont want that!!! If he trys, he can change that about himself!! So good luck and everything will work out for the better!:)
2007-09-03 19:55:01 · answer #3 · answered by ♥♥Mommy to 2 Divas♥♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Based on the replies expressed her it seems that she will have to keep her husband and her friends separate. Her husband clearly need to see a professional about his narcissistic attitude. She should be grateful that she has such committed friends that still value her and her children`s friendship in spite of her husband`s actions. Wishing her all the best in this situation.
2015-11-05 10:03:44 · answer #4 · answered by Contrarian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you'll just have to understand that you can't change him and find a way to spend time with friends without him.
Harsh Maybe . . . I'm Sorry . . . . but if you have already tried to talk to him and nothings changed it's not going to.
Does he have any friends?????????
I truly wish I had a better answer!!!!!!!
He needs professional help if he's really as bad as you describe!
2007-09-03 20:01:34 · answer #5 · answered by Nick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My fiance was married to a woman whom everyone disliked and well, you get it, he's my fiance! It gets realy old, and you and your kids will remain fairly unpopular. I too had a spouse that wasn't too popular and everyone told me that I compensated for him and that they invited us in spite of him. Just hope that you can carry the whole load socially if you want to be "popular".
2007-09-03 19:50:49 · answer #6 · answered by LuckyEddie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is not going to change, but ask him to seek help to find out why he is so bitter and self righteous. Respect your friends wishes and only attend their functions when he is other wise engaged.
2007-09-03 19:54:23 · answer #7 · answered by onyx1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They don't have to like your husband. But if you want to do things with your friends, you'll have to do them alone. Unless he wants to change his attitude, you'll be sitting at home for a long time.
2007-09-03 19:52:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOTHING--go with your friends if you are asked if he is working and stop making excuses for your main man--you married him. if he annoys people, they are free to exclude him from invites. He won't change.
2007-09-03 19:51:37 · answer #9 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he's not gonna change. You'll have to honor your friend's request to not be around him or find new friends. But they might not like him either.
2007-09-03 19:49:42 · answer #10 · answered by winkcat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋