we where messin around on my carpet, and i pinched his but and pretended to bite him ( i nibbled his arm a lil )
so he grabed my fist and jamed it in my mouth and i started to cry and wimper...(couldnt exactly talk) and he made my fist hit me like three times...
it drew blood and split my lip... i dont think he was playing because he saw me crying and i know he heard the wimpers... i dont even want to go near him right now...hes never done anything like this before...
what should i do?
2007-09-03 19:20:46 · 26 answers · asked by codie rose 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When you ruff play someone is going to get hurt almost every time.
and that's what he will say if you call the police, and thy may not do anything about it.
I'll say this he was pretty slick to hit you with your own hand.
If it will make you feel better I think hes an @sshole.
DON'T PLAY WITH HIM ANY MORE.
2007-09-03 19:55:03 · answer #1 · answered by just me. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"we where messin around on my carpet, and i pinched his but and pretended to bite him ( i nibbled his arm a lil )"
"...hes never done anything like this before"
We tend to make excuses for people who treat us in the most unacceptable ways. YOU are NOT to blame. You said you were messing around/playing? His reaction was not a playful one! He saw that you were hurt and did not stop? Did he apologize? NO remorse is a warning sign that he has a violent side that has been lying in wait and can be sparked at just about anytime. You should go to the emercency room or doctor so that you injury is documented. I am not suggesting that you involve the police but having a "paper" trail of sorts maybe of help if things take a turn for the worse.
Stay away from him for now and when he calms down try talking to him about and let him know in a firm manner that you will not allow him to abuse you. Afraid of doing it alone have a close relative be there for support! And please tell someone, a family member or a friend, so that they can offer support when you needed.
If it happens again, GET OUT! Too many women die trying to hold on to relationships that are not worth it!!! Just my $0.02! Best wishes to you,
Mackenzie
2007-09-04 02:48:54 · answer #2 · answered by Mackenzie Walsh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a bully and very immature as a man, to say the least! This is unacceptable behavior from anyone! If he did not appreciate the nibble from you then he should have gotten up and told you so instead of totally overreacting and ABUSING YOU! This is not playing around sweetie this is abuse! He grabs your fist and jams it in your mouth and if he was joking around he would have stopped right there and laughed it off but he decided to take it further by allowing himself to use your fist to hit you several times! This is a RED FLAG and you need to stand up for yourself. You do not have to yell, or insult but you must do something to make sure he knows he did wrong and needs help because he will do this time and time again and use excuses to cover up his bullying behavior! I would never play around with this type of person. They are dangerous. I would not stay married very long to a bully such as your husband. There is nothing wrong with playing around and teasing one another without the man going overboard even if the nibble was a little harder than usual. He should be a gentleman and never behave in such a way! Scary!
2007-09-04 03:15:39 · answer #3 · answered by none 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe U should tell him that U r surprised that he was so aggressive and that U r upset w/ how U r afraid of him right now. that U do not want any1 to think the wrong thing about how U were fooling around but U r unsure if he just got carried away or was being mean. then listen to his answer. if he is really sorry then go from there. if he is a jerk & says U r a baby then U know what to do from there. good luck. if it turns out he is a jerk, wait till he goes 2 sleep b4 U take a stick 2 him ...then get out. self defense.
2007-09-04 02:39:40 · answer #4 · answered by mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have done something then, like kicking and screaming, or calling the cops when he let you up. I am not telling you to hurt your guy, but if my man did this he would wake up late in the morning with a severe concussion (from being hit with a hard object repeatedly) and a nice little note telling him where he can get off. You are a strong proud woman do not stand for this!!! Leave him and press charges, no one that loves you would hurt you like that.
2007-09-04 02:31:57 · answer #5 · answered by shannanm2783 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure if drugs or alcohol was involved but you need to sit down with your husband and "redefine" what appropriate behavior you will and will not tolerate from him.
Sounds like your actions were harmless but his were totally over the line. Nor does it sound like this was the first time he's gotten a little overly aggressive...Either make him understand what he's doing is wrong and will not be tolerated by your or I suggest you getting out of the home.
2007-09-04 02:37:22 · answer #6 · answered by chowboss74 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call 911, if you don't want to go to that drastic of measure leave the house and take the kids (if you have any) and go to a womens shelter or a family members house if you feel comfortable with them and they won't make things worse. Be safe. That's the beginning of abuse.
2007-09-06 00:47:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you been married? If you are "newlyweds" then I would be very wary of his future behavior.
It is possible that what happened was an accident....mistakenly getting carried away....but if something like that ever happens again, don't put up with it. That would be abuse, and it will only get worse. Should any type of abuse happen again, call the police.
2007-09-04 02:58:57 · answer #8 · answered by missmuffin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the Police, Have him arrested, Press charges and put him in Jail, Get an order of protection and then get a lawyer and get the fastest divorce you possibly can.
2007-09-04 02:36:20 · answer #9 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously he lost his control. Just seek some professional help like counselors or just go to the police but do not trust him and do not stay. He can hurt you again. It is clear that something is wrong with him like a big stress or anything but I advice you not to stay to find out.
Best luck
2007-09-04 02:30:59 · answer #10 · answered by Ardelia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋