Okay so about three weeks ago I moved from Kansas to Texas. I had a good life there, everything was going good for me. I had a perfect boyfriend and friends that were always there for me...blah blah you get the point. So anyway. Now I'm here. By myself. And it really sucks. It seems like I am stuck on my old life because I am not really making any new friends and I only talk to my old friends. I only think about my old life..basically I am not living in the present, I'm living in the past. My boyfriend has pretty much replaced me with another girl and I am having a hard time dealing with it. Any suggestions on this whole issue..as in how to make friends..how to move on..personal experiences..etc.
2007-09-03 18:54:27 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I am 16 and didn't have a choice in the matter. It was because of my dad's job.
2007-09-03 19:19:27 · update #1
I like the quotes, they help =] any good quotes you guys have that fit the situation?
2007-09-03 19:21:15 · update #2
Aw, honey...sounds so sad. I just moved from Texas to West Virginia. 1800 miles away from home! I don't know how old you are, but sound like a teenager...thats just the hardest time. Hang in there, sweetie. My son who is 16 had a really hard time leaving all his friends. My 14 year old daughter was excited but scared at the same time. My 12 year old daughter was telling everyone she wasn't moving! She had the hardest time of all. As soon as we got here, we started going to a really contemporary church with a really active youth group. Thats my best suggestion, get in a church with a youth group that has lots of kids who will be in your new school. Try to join some sports or some sort of groups to help you meet new kids. It's hard to leave the old friends behind, but try not to spend too much time with them online or on the phone (it makes me cry each time I talk to my grandma who I miss to pieces, and I'm 38!) just doing so will make you stay homesick rather than trying to get established in your new place. Hang in there, and give it some time. I'm sorry about your boyfriend!
2007-09-03 19:05:12 · answer #1 · answered by Kathy S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change is not easy. Obviously you moved for a reason. Of course he replaced you, you left your comfort zone to go to a new place. It is your choice to make the effort to meet new people. You will never forget your other friends, but they are not with you. Make a effort to meet at least one new person. From that another will come into the picture and eventually a new guy in your life..Yes it is scary, but you can do it...One of my favorite quotes is..".You can't change yesterday, You can dream for tomorrow, but live for today."
2007-09-03 19:05:31 · answer #2 · answered by Cinnamon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok stupid question, but why did you move away from something that seemed so right for you? Did you have any choice in the matter, and can you change things by moving back?
If not, make a positive change and move on with your life.
Though things may seem hard right now, things will get better.
And let's face it, in the scheme of things, in the bigger picture, it's not really that bad is it!
2007-09-03 19:01:12 · answer #3 · answered by mamabear_45 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dwelling on the past will only make it hurt even more. Open up, introduce yourself to people at school or you will not have new friends soon. Ask some school mates to show you around town. Have a more positive outlook on your recent move, it should be a chance to meet new people.
2007-09-03 19:41:43 · answer #4 · answered by vruiz16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes some time to adjust to living in an unfamiliar place. Just give yourself a couple more months, and things will start to come together. Make an effort to meet new people and make friends in your workplace or school.
2007-09-03 18:59:37 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
“When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us.”
-Alexander Graham Bell
Whatever you do, never give up!
2007-09-03 18:59:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋