My wife cheated on me while on deployment and she has settled in with her new man already. So i am actually feeling bad about going out with other women. She has clearly moved on even though we are only separated and not divorced yet. should that matter? i find it hard to move on. any advice, suggestions, comments, questions, etc...
2007-09-03 18:50:13 · 17 answers · asked by shyboy84 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
File for a divorce. Its probably going to be a No-fault divorce even tho she's already living with the guy. Talk to a member of JAG and they will help you. She's probably going to hold on to your marriage for insurance purpose and BHA. Take your time before getting settled again. Start going on casual dates when you are ready emotionally. Good luck and wish you well.
2007-09-03 19:03:35 · answer #1 · answered by lvchic_702 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No one divorced for less than a year should be turned loose on the public.
A newly divorced person finally enjoying their freedom can wreck havic with too many innocent victim's hearts because you will want to date every cute girl that comes along.
Take a good long rest before you go out and start dating again. Get your head on straight first and think things out well before you act so as to diminish the likelyhood of making the same mistake again with another ignorant cheating axs woman.
Best Wishes
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2007-09-04 02:00:54 · answer #2 · answered by Fade To Black 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
You are going through a lot of hurt and betrayal feelings.
Give yourself time to grieve.
Sometimes dating helps bring up the spirits.
There is no rule about when to date. She is gone so you really don't have to wait for the paper work.
I think it sucks that you served the country and she cheated.
I am so sorry.
Perhaps this has saved you from future pin with and from her in the future.
Hang in there
2007-09-04 03:09:46 · answer #3 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on too, and don't let your feelings interfere with your life.. Each day that passes is another day gone forever. She's moved on, and it's time you do too..And no, if your separated you can date. I think you may be hoping she'll see the light and come back if you're waiting..Casual date if you don't want to get serious yet. But don't let life pass you by.. It's too short as it is.. Good Luck.. Joanie :-)
2007-09-04 02:01:39 · answer #4 · answered by Joanie 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you serious?
No wonder your wife cheated on you.
Show a bit of gumption. Show that you're a man & stop feeling sorry for yourself. Get out & have a few flings - they don't have to be serious.
Just get a bit of dirty water off your chest!!
2007-09-04 02:11:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that you are still feeling down about the situation, but you need to at least try to get out and enjoy yourself. There is no need to punish yourself for her actions. Don't get serious too soon, however. You might end up attaching yourself to the wrong person for the wrong reasons.
2007-09-04 01:57:18 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
when you feel that you have moved on, that the pain is gone that is the right time to srtart dating. by that time you are being true to yourself. you won't be using other people to take the place of your x wife.
2007-09-04 04:43:43 · answer #7 · answered by shorty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The ink doesn't even have to be finished drying for it to be acceptable for you to begin dating. HOWEVER, you should only start dating when you feel emotionally and mentally ready for it. It may take some time and that is okay.
2007-09-04 02:08:22 · answer #8 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to be ready inside.Emotionaly it has to feel right.You have to be comfotable with the idea.It is not about the time.Some people feel free and start dating right and left.Some like you have morals and values and need more time.so if you don't feel good about it,give it more time.
2007-09-04 02:00:12 · answer #9 · answered by avavu 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
you should start dating as soon as you want too.. theres no time for when its right.. its when its right for you.. so if you see that one special person you would like to take out to dinner or dancing go for it.. good luck
2007-09-04 02:05:29 · answer #10 · answered by Kat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋