Me and My wife are both dual Military with three girls. One together and the other two from previous Marriage with ex and old boyfriend on gef behalf. Anyhow she is deployed to Kuwait and ahs filed for divorce from there because I told her that I bought a motorcycle a week after she left for deployment and wrecked it not even a month later. Is that a legitimate reason for divorce? And then she adds to it that I'm not there for her emotionally whaen she feels she needs me most. I Love My wife and I dont want the divorce but she's determined and like I mentioned, she filed from Kuwait and I recieved the papers in the mail and filed my response. On top of that she willfully accepted orders to Hawaii without considering me or the effect it's going to have on the kids. I dont know what to think. Everytime we talk via email or on the phone, she ask me if I'm taking care of buisness as far as being gone by the time she returns in November. I staying in California. How will Custody work also?
2007-09-03 18:39:15 · 7 answers · asked by nortondo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The motorcycle may have been the catalyst for divorce, but not the reason. You have deeper issues, she hinted as much to you when she said that you are not there for her emotionally. Maybe she has fallen for someone else.. working in the military in Kuwait would encourage many deep and meaningful conversations with her peers, which could lead to 'shared bond' feelings. I would imagine being in Kuwait is very stressful, she may be somewhat depressed about her situation and it would be easy to form an attachment to someone who is there to comfort her when she needs it.
If she feels unable to talk about the breakdown of your marriage, ask her to write down her feelings and reasons... it is far easier to verbalise those on paper without interruptions. Do the same, you might be surprised by how much it helps you emotionally.
Good luck.
2007-09-03 20:05:57 · answer #1 · answered by Aussie mum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your information is scarce so it's difficult to make any kind of judgement. If she filed from Kuwait, then she has obviously been thinking about it for a while. She probably didn't want to confront you with it. Is there a reason for that? You need to be honest with yourself and examine your relationship from her perspective. I don't know if there is still a chance for your marriage, but if it comes down to divorce then the children from previous relationships will be with their respective parent, while your mutual child will have to be litigated over.
2007-09-03 20:16:36 · answer #2 · answered by missmuffin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People nowadays divorce for the simplest reasons. I don't know if theres another man, but i can tell you that there is something else, she's not your girlfriend that got with you because you were the closest man to her, she is your wife and you guys married because you guys loved each other so for her to right out of the blue, drop this on you tells me there is something else, plus you have kids, d@mn, from a kid who grew up with one parent in the home due to divorce, please try your best to not to put your kids through something like this.
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With her always moving around probably the kids are going to stay with you and she will see them when she is in town, but that all depends what the kids tell there law guardian ( child lawyer) who will represent them in the divorce court, but with the kids all ready living with you and the wife breaking up a "happy home" it looks like they will be with you because you have already proved yourself responsible by raising them while she is was in Kuwait.
Get a good lawyer, a public defender couldn't give a d@mn about you or your children.
2007-09-03 18:51:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it doesn't take much to end a marriage, sometimes it happens for the most simple reasons, but most of the time it is indeed caused by someone else in the relationship. she sounds as if she really doesn't care anymore and theres not much one can do to change it sometimes we just have to accept it and go on with life. if someone has made up their mind theres really no use in trying to change it. i think it has alot more to do with there being another than the motorcycle.
2007-09-03 22:59:23 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a possibility but not necessarily. She might just think that you are irresponsible. You heard that song by R Kelly " when a woman is fed up, there aint nothing you can do a bout it"?
2007-09-03 18:46:37 · answer #5 · answered by Lenworth E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
by law. no it isnt pal she seeing a man and using thi to lie to you about the truth on her self my opion?
2007-09-03 18:45:11 · answer #6 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Military will do that to you.
2007-09-03 18:43:22 · answer #7 · answered by Bu Tran 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋