I have been with my boyfriend for almost 6 months. I always know what I want. It doesn't take me forever to realize it. I have talked to him about marriage and he says "in the future, you need to finish school.... " and so on. I'm kind of old fashioned. Don't get me wrong, I partied in HS until I got sick of parties, party friends, drugs...... etc. I know I love him and I want to do things the right way. We're doing things backwards. We live together (beautifull apartment), have sex and we're not married. I want to get married but I don't want to make him feel forced. One more downside........ahhhh....... I'm 18 and he's 27.
I don't believe age has anything to do with anything. And please don't be like " OH.... you're so young, live your life". I don't want to date a lot of people. I want to be with one person. I don't want to try on guys like frickin jeans. If you can give me some good advice I apreciate it, but if you don't.........ahhh... don't waste your & my time.
2007-09-03 18:35:50 · 17 answers · asked by Girlie Girl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You sound alot like me and my husband.I was 18 and he was 28. I partied big time through school and then when I graduated I felt like I had grown enough,and we were in love enough to get married. We ended up waiting and I learned that is a lot more maturing ahead in the few years it takes to go to collage. your boyfriend probably knows this already and doesn't want you to be denied this time in your life. it will be really hard to go go to collage after you get married and have kids, so do it now...the rest cant wait and your love if true will still be there...it was for me ..we are still together a wonderful 12 years later..
2007-09-04 03:05:10 · answer #1 · answered by xmasbliss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you take your birth control pills!!!
Do you trust your boyfriend? He actually is right with this one. Wait until you finish school. He will still only be 31 (My 1st child was born when I was 33) and don't have kids until after you are married. You are young and while you don't have to try on guys, you don't have to tie the knot so soon either. You have a lot of growing to do before you should get married and college is the place to do it. It will help get the finances straight before you take the plunge.
2007-09-03 19:46:15 · answer #2 · answered by baseballdad69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel. I think it is a good idea that you do finish school first. I would date a little longer, just to make sure that the two of you are compatible. After some more time has passed, go ahead and get married if you both still feel the same way.
2007-09-03 18:58:20 · answer #3 · answered by mimi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What makes you think that you will know good or bad advise when given? You are only 18...seems you only want advise from people that will side with you...but honey...you are way too young to be tied down with someone who is 27. I really don't think he wants to marry you anyways. Why should he? Why buy the cow when the milk is free? Bet you have heard that before right? He is right however...you should finish school....who knows maybe he will marry you then.
2007-09-03 18:47:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're right. You are doing things backwards. You've already created a problem for yourself because he feels no rush to marry you since he is already getting all the benefits. He is right, though, that you should finish school, and start your career, before considering marriage so you will never have to say "If only...."
2007-09-03 19:49:28 · answer #5 · answered by missmuffin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not interested in marriage or he would have married you. Men won't go for the vows unless they want to.
If they can get everything they would without the vows then why would they make the commitment? he's getting free sex, free house cleaning and cooking...all the benefits of a wife without the commitment.
You sold yourself short. You are worth more than that.
I don't know any woman who is happy with a man she has coerced into marrying her anyway...it just doesn't work. Men want to be the pursuer.
I hope you do finish school...go on to college or trade school and not be in such a rush...I know, people tell you that. but it's true....
best of luck to you.
2007-09-03 19:33:30 · answer #6 · answered by Kathy S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
age is only an issue if it becomes an issue between you two.people need to commit and not just live together that actually cheapens your relationship.set him down and tell him how you feel if he loves you he will marry you.when i married my first husband i was 18 and he was almost 33.i had been just his friend for a few months and we lived together for a month and i proposed.i knew he loved me and i loved him so i wanted a husband and a family,i did not want to have a baby outside of marriage.we were married 24 years and 5 beautiful children together.follow your heart and good luck.
2007-09-03 18:56:15 · answer #7 · answered by dixie58 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 21:34:00 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look, what matters is what the both of you want together.so finish school. that's still good advice. you can do it and STILL be together. he's supporting you in making a better life for yourself and for the both of you.
i didn't party until i got out of high school. you went through your time and you are ready to be a serious grown-up. nothing wrong with that. what matters is how happy you go to bed with the one you are with and how happy you are when you wake up. all the stuff in between....is just a day in your life.
2007-09-03 18:50:14 · answer #9 · answered by Isabella S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your bf just want you to dream also for your self. Have your own career and prove something to yourself. He didn't mean anything when he told you that "in the near future". He just want you to finish school for your own good also. Maybe after you finish your schooling then he will be the one to propose you to marry him
2007-09-03 18:49:26 · answer #10 · answered by arlene_reigne 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋