Whats wrong with me?

Question

It feels like everything around me isn't...right? If that makes sense. I can't hold a conversation with people I used to be really close to. I have no interest in things I used to enjoy. I can't stand being at home, but I have no where to go.
I feel like I'm missing something major in my life, but I have no idea what it is. I don't really know what to do. I just want to feel like myself again.

Answer 1

When you feel like the world's turned its back on you, turn around. Maybe YOU'VE turned your back on the world...I don't remember where I read that line, but it helps me put my life into perspective. Everyone at some point or another feels isolated and alone, and its those instances that exentuate whatever voids we may have inside us.

I don't think you've lost yourself, exactly. No one ever really knows who they are. Part of living is trying to figure that out...

I can't tell you what would inject the vim back into your life because I don't really know the circumstances of your existence. Only you can figure out the missing pieces.

But don't be afraid to engage in the same old routine. Now that you're aware something isn't quite right, you might see new forms of satisfaction emerge from the old. Go out with the same old friends...Try to steer your same old conversations in a different direction. When I wake up numb to the world, seeing people usually helps.

My mentor once told me that I'm too smart for my own good. On the surface it sounded like a compliment. What he meant, however, was that I think too much. I would analyze and deconstruct everything going on in my life to the smallest detail. But that never got me anywhere...At the end of the day I felt fractured and purposeless.

Don't forget, everyone has missing pieces...But if you try to relax and enjoy what you already have, then eventually all of them will fall into place.

Hang in there...be patient. It'll all make sense to you as time marches on...

Answer 2

What major events happened in your life that made you feel this way? Did you graduate last year? I was sad for about 3 years after I graduated from high school. Why not take a course or something, that would help you get out of the house and associate with people around you. Go to an art Gallery or something. Go for walks, get a job or do something so you aren't in your house all the time. I don't know how old you are or your situation at home. Try something new everyday.

If you are seriously having problems I suggest seeing a psychologist, you may have some anxiety or stress going on somewhere.

Answer 3

you seriously described exactly how I feel. I used to be so loud and optimistic and talk to anyone. Now I find myself "observing" others and having no attachment or interest in anyone around me. Life lost its meaning and now only has a surface with no depth. I'm not sure what to do myself. Time will heal I tell myself but it just hurts so bad in the meantime and I stay to strong to let myself cry so I guess it makes the feeling even more empty.

Answer 4

I used to feel exactly the same way. I ended up getting new friends, and trying to explore more things so I could find something that I would think was interesting. But first I listened to a lot of music. I found a couple bands that really made me feel better and then I was able to get out of that "slump." Recently I started slipping back into that feeling, but I was able to keep myself out of it.

Answer 5

This was me 6 months ago when I too felt empty and like I had no purpose in life anymore.
After talking to my concerned friend I went to my doctor, and she diagnosed depression in a mild form.
Some months down the track I feel better - not 100% yet, but I feel my life is getting back on track now.
With a little medication, loads of therapy with my gf's (talking !!) my outlook on life has changed for the better, and I am once again doing things for myself which I haven't done all year.
The sooner you seek help the quicker you will bounce back. It does take courage and time, but don't let yourself fall into a deep dark place coz it will consume you.....
Good luck and email me if you need a chat....

Answer 6

I think you are depressed and you should seek professional help. Set up an appointment to start seeing a therapist to talk about what is bothering you.

I was feeling the same way and when I talked to my doctor, she asked me if I wanted to see a therapist to talk about what was Ifeeling, and what was going on in my life, and why I wasn't feeling like myself. I told my doctor that it wouldn't hurt to talk to this other professional.

Try to talk to a family member about problems.The therapist can help you figure out why you are not yourself again, and he or she may prescribe some medicine for your symptoms. Do you believe in God? If so, pray to him and go back to church, this will help lead you in the right direction!

Maybe, your job is not very fulfilling and you are not mentally and physically challenged, this may be why you are feeling this way.

Answer 7

wow, ive been seeing this problem a lot lately, or maybe i just hang out on the internet too much lately, haha.
i havent heard of what people do to fix the problem. really im in the same boat except for i like staying home right now. to me i feel like im going threw a transition. putting all my past experiences into perspective, and personally i like to do that on my lonsome. i think the main thing to do is to try new things. things that youve always wanted to do, or just never found the time to do. since you seem to want to get away from home...join a gym, or a yoga class, i dont know what your into, a baseball league or something, just something new. and also something social so that you can meet new people.

Answer 8

May be you need a goal. Set a goal and work on it. Another thing choose a new hobby like golf, tennis, base ball etc.,

Second aspect is may be you are codependent on other people. Check this book
Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself By Melody. Beattie

Third thing start new friendships. Have fun.

Answer 9

Have you considered talking with a doctor about these feelings? They'd be much better equiped to give a diagnoses and method for treatment than some of these people on Yahoo! What you're describing could be clinical depression and/or a social anxiety discorder, but get yourself into a professional to be certain. These kinds of things can be successfully treated, but only if you seek help for it.

Answer 10

Maybe you're just changing. Go outside, try doing new things, and find something that you enjoy doing! I think that maybe you and you're friends are just beginning to have interests in different things, so having a conversation with them just isn't that interesting for you or them anymore.