Ill try to make this clear.. I didnt know this guy at all. I just knew his name and thats all he knew about me. But we went on a date.. and on our date he told me some really deep stuff about his family. Like that his brother had a baby die and his dad died and that his brother fell away from the chruch andthat his brother will not talk to him anymore becasue hes very religous.. just stuff like that why would he do that...? I've never had a guy tell me stuff like that on the first date.
2007-09-03 18:17:13 · 36 answers · asked by kamie 2 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I loved that he did it. I just wanna know why so soon. I know we all have issuse but I dont blurt them out on a first meeting.
2007-09-03 18:41:07 · update #1
He needed someone to talk with; he trusted you enough to bare part of his soul, and probably figured your date was a one-time thing.
2007-09-03 18:21:45 · answer #1 · answered by Always Curious 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I can see three possibilities:
1 It may be that he really likes you - hey that's cool a few more dates you may like him too.
2 He's just had some sort of trauma or shock that has made him think about deep and personal issues and you were there - also cool.
3 He's just like that and opens up easily. Not normal for a young guy but we're all different so you might as well see where it goes.
2007-09-03 18:24:08 · answer #2 · answered by Joe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi Kamie,
I'm not sure what to tell you. In my dating career, I've had women tell me really deep things reminiscent of the things you told me up above, and then I've dated other women who were singularly reticent about their past. As for me, I tend to go for a more balanced approach, although I tend to listen much more than I talk. I'm pretty bad at making small talk.
I doubt that this guy is a danger to you, and maybe he might be interesting. Did he ask you out again? If he does, and the guy is okay in other respects and you like him, then go out with him and see what happens. Maybe he found you to be a sympathetic and patient listener.
James
2007-09-03 18:36:59 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is all wrapped up in his little sad world ,
A rounded person would have ask about you, your interests and listened 5 times more than they talked,
He thinks of bad experiences and losers do this more than normal.
He will never be interesting as your first experience was not good.
He carries baggage to weighty to be helped with.
You don't need his baggage.
Love, laugh and live is who you seek and deserve.
2007-09-03 18:28:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is the way some people relieve stress. They tell their problems to a stranger. They really don't care what the stranger thinks because they are a stranger and will probably never see them again. They just need to let their problems out.
2007-09-03 18:23:34 · answer #5 · answered by J T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You became a cheap shrink, someone annonymous to talk about personal things too. It's never a good thing to do, but don't look down on the guy to harshly, he obviously needed to get some stuff out.
2007-09-03 18:22:16 · answer #6 · answered by Gary V 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably felt like you were a person he could confide in for some odd reason??? Now the whole Yahoo Answers community knows his secrets! I doubt he would appreciate that.
2007-09-03 18:23:39 · answer #7 · answered by 'ol wise oracle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that's deep, but yeah it sounds like he really needed someone to open up to. So you either came across as an honest caring person, or he really desperately needed to get it all out.
So what the heck do you discuss on a 2nd date? o_O
2007-09-03 18:23:24 · answer #8 · answered by Shadow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maby even though he had no idea what kinda person you are he found comfort in you and needed to talk to someone. I know that it is kinda strange but just try to see if you maby want to be with him or just let him know that you cant talk about that kinda stuff.
2007-09-03 18:24:12 · answer #9 · answered by NONAME 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually when someone tells you all of that at once he is either BS' ing you or is truly in need of counseling. I would only believe half of it. He seems to looking for some undeserved compassion. Proceed with caution
2007-09-03 18:24:10 · answer #10 · answered by coachotis 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋