well i got married last april..we were together for 3 years but we broke up a month ago becasue he confessed that he cheated...so hes been here since he was 3 with no papers so i married him to do him the favor and get his papers...we did not live together..no kids...but it was a "serious" relationship...we were still exclusive or so i thought...so he says he's sorry ..wants me back u know the story...so yep now i dont wana give him the papers but my mom says thats evil and it will come back to me..karma...blah blah blah...wat do u guys think??
2007-09-03 18:08:38 · 30 answers · asked by lore 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes im talking about immigtation papers...usa...
2007-09-03 18:18:02 · update #1
yes im talking about immigration papers..usa..
2007-09-03 18:18:38 · update #2
well, i don't believe in karma. but i say what is done is done. let him have his papers. withholding them will not make him a honest man..
your marriage sounds like one of convenience anyway. sorry or not, there doesn't seem to be any love or respect between you. so i say give him the papers and send him on his way.
2007-09-03 18:18:37 · answer #1 · answered by shyanne 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm sure you married him because you loved the man and naturally would like to help him out. If you are telling me that you are no longer together, it should be up to the immigration wether he gets his papers or not. Fixed marriages are illegal and to tell you the truth the immigration are so much tighter now especially petitions by marriage. You also have to think about yourself, if you lie to the immigration, you might end up being in trouble yourself. Don't cancel the petition but file for a divorce and for his immigration interview, he would just have to say that it didn't work out and would love to stay here in the U.S. If he has good records, he most likely will get his greencard or atleast a work permit.
2007-09-04 01:29:09 · answer #2 · answered by ods 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's evil. Marriage is supposed to be about love and being "faithful", and if he can't do that then he can just pack up and go back and treat the women in his own country like that. Sorry if that sounds harsh, but women are way too forgiving of men, and if he did it once, he will more than likely do it again. What I think is evil is for him to think he can just use marriage as an excuse to get his papers. Maybe next time he will think about that. Nope, don't give him those papers.
2007-09-04 01:17:34 · answer #3 · answered by Leigh 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't know a thing about immigration laws but i think that all he can get by marrying you is a green card and don't know how he was able to stay "since he was 3".
That aside, logic tells me that if he married you only to attain some kind of citizenship status, and he bailed on the marriage and you are not taking him back, then no, whatever he would have gained by being married he has lost with his fidelity. I'm with you, sister.
2007-09-04 01:23:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He knew what was at risk when he did the harm. Not only the papers but more importamtly your heart. If you give him the papers its saying its ok to hurt you. Yes, there is always karma-but did you do anything to deserve to be cheated on? If not, it cant come back on you.
2007-09-04 01:17:01 · answer #5 · answered by missymae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you in the US? What papers are you talking about? Do you mean he's an illegal immigrant and he's wanting to become legal? Getting married does not make a person legal. So, again, what papers are you talking about?
2007-09-04 01:15:47 · answer #6 · answered by kp 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your Mom is mostly right, but you are not evil just hurt. Whether you take him back or not give him his papers, do you really want to see him deported? If so don't give him his papers it's up to you. But it will come back to bite you in the behind. Two wrongs don't make a right. What you give you will get in return & he will pay for what he did to you sooner or later.
2007-09-04 01:19:04 · answer #7 · answered by thepeacelover01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sound like you have to do what is right in your heart, i know
that you are hurt for what he did, but two wrong dont make it
right. if you truly want out of the marrige then get him the divorce and move on. as for him if he been here since he
was 3 then he should have gotten the paper before now.
and since you did not live together then really all you owe
him is the papers for the divorce but talk to your lawyer
and see what your actions really are.
2007-09-04 01:18:36 · answer #8 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you both made a screwed up mess of things. You don't marry someone just so they can get their "papers." In the first place, it's illegal to marry just so someone can stay in the country. In the second place, you both sound too immature to be in a serious relationship. And in the third place, I don't see this as a "serious" relationship. It sounds more like a game.
I think you need to end it and get your life together.
2007-09-04 01:17:27 · answer #9 · answered by JD 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he has not gotten them yet then no don't give them to him.....but the only way is to completely end it with him.....If your not willing to break if off with him totally then you need to give them to him unless you are going to completely eliminate him from your life. IF you decide to go ahead with it then you need to be solely together not this cheating back and forth thing not that you have cheated but I see it so often that because one has cheated the other thinks its OK to cheat just remember two wrongs don't make a right because once the second wrong happens it just becomes a vicious circle with cheating going back and forth to make the score even.
2007-09-04 01:16:03 · answer #10 · answered by i love my dog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋