ive been with my girlfriend for a year and a half in a long distance relationship we use to talk all day and all nite but lately she starts not to answer my calls at nite and has a attitude sometimes when we do talk i dont know if shes cheating or not but i do know she gets high everynite but we just dont really talk like we use to cand lately ive been holding this relationship together and i wanna ask her to marry me but i dont know what to do im tired of crying and worrying why she doesnt pick up my phone calls like she normally does iis really hurting me inside but i love her to death what should i do
2007-09-03 17:59:51 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
if a girl is getting an attitude when you call dont think, hey! she wants me to propose. sounds like a bad idea.
she may not be cheating on you with a man, but sounds like she might have a drug problem. you said you're long distance--maybe you should drop in for a surprise visit to get some answers first hand.
2007-09-03 18:03:32 · answer #1 · answered by act_won 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, DO NOT ask this girl to marry you. It will not last.
Secondly, because this is a long distance relationship (and I know from whence I speak) it is really hard to judge what is going on, but if you have a suspicion then it's usually for a reason.
You say you know she's getting high every night. Why would you want someone with an addiction problem? Is she cheating? Very possibly.
If you are the only one holding the relationship together then it is time to let go because she already has. In her own way she is telling you it's over and you are not getting the hint.
It's time to cry a river and then get on with your life and find someone more deserving of you.
2007-09-03 18:09:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that there is reason for being wary and do be careful here. In my experience when it comes to relationship matters, a sudden change in one behaviour or pattern of doing things should call for closer examination. I do not mean that it is necessary that one party is doing unkind things but ti does warrant sme sort of explanation. I guess there is nothing you can do if she decides to go for another but whatever be her decision, she should be upfront with it. Relationship is made up and built upon but then there will be times when it should also be brought to an end. Living and going on the way you do, is not the best of things and rather than discovering later, might as well have it out in the open. Confront her and if she denies, get an explanation and you have common sense. if her explanantion does not stake up, give her up. But dont be rash, do it with a degree of circumspection. You cannot love some to death, if you have a suspicious mind and the other party is not responding with equal commitment. Take care and do what you have to - there is nothing more right than to be true to yourself and be kind with yourself.
2007-09-03 18:08:52 · answer #3 · answered by Huang W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First she needs to put down the drugs, because that is probably what is holding her attention a lot at night. As far as her cheating, well that may not be so. There is no way for anyone to know that for sure just by what you said. You need to tell her you love her and want to be with her, but you need to be able to know what she is doing at night and why she can't include you in her time even if only a few minutes a night a few times a week.
2007-09-03 18:06:27 · answer #4 · answered by Leigh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A long distance relationship is hard to maintain. Did you ask why all of a sudden this has chanced? Did you ask her what she does in the evenings? Maybe she just needs some space. What you two need to do is really talk.
. A good relationship is based on trust and communication and you both have to work on it together or it is just not going to work. Good luck.
2007-09-03 18:11:57 · answer #5 · answered by darlene z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lomg distance relationships rarely work. You really don't know what she is like day to day because you have never had to spend time talking to her when she was not in a good mood. Better visit and get to know her before asking her to spend the rest of her life with you.
2007-09-03 18:05:47 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever shes doing- anyone who gets high every night is NOT marriage material! Or anyone who doesn't respect you enough to answer your calls.
Wow, you sound like a nice devoted guy- you need to move on with someone who loves you, and the sooner you accept this and do it, the sooner you will feel truly happy again. Just stop ringing her and move on. What shes doing isn't at all normal.
2007-09-03 18:04:37 · answer #7 · answered by Renesme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask & tell her all of this. Maybe she is upset that you haven't asked her to marry you yet. Who knows the next time you get her on the phone don't yell or anything just talk very nice & find out what is going on.
2007-09-03 18:39:58 · answer #8 · answered by thepeacelover01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh i'm sorry - this sounds tough on you. i know this is going to hurt - if she is causing you this pain, why do you want to marry her? long distance is hard and very seldom works out, stop calling for a few days, if she still loves you then she will call, but if she doesn't, then you need to find the strength to move on - good luck
2007-09-03 18:05:56 · answer #9 · answered by Tyger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is getting high, that may be alot to do with it. Who has time for important conversations when you are high, but if you are already feeling upset, then you better start thinking seriously about her. It could be nothing, but who knows.
don't rush into marriage unless it feels 100% right. I know.
2007-09-03 18:06:04 · answer #10 · answered by memookie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋