Okay, I have a friend that I've been friends with for about 5 years. We were pretty cool and were good friends the first 2 years. Then she started hanging out with a bunch of people who turned out to be total dirtbags. We were in high school and I became friends with these people for a short time until I learned that they were talking behind my back and made up a rumour that I am a lesbian even tho I'm not. They made my senior year hell. Meanwhile they would talk **** both in front of me and behind my back with my "friend" sitting there unwilling to do anything about it. She "says" she talked to them but she has turned out to be a pathological liar.
She lies about almost everything, and most of it is stupid stuff not worth lying about. Not to mention she still talks to me, but only when she is not with her bf or these dirtbag friends she claimed she dumped. I am finding out more and more of her lies. Plus she makes no effort to keep in touch with me. I have always been a good friend
2007-09-03 17:49:40 · 6 answers · asked by Annie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
to her so she has no reason to do this to me.
She literally sat there while her friends talked s#!t about me and did not speak up, even tho she claimed to be my best friends.
I am finding that girls are very hard to trust these days. My instincts are telling me to dump her as a friend but I hate the idea of losing a 5 year friendship, but I think it should be done.
What can I say to her to let her know her bullsh*t games are over and I'm not putting up with it? I think I gave her way too many chances.
2007-09-03 17:52:23 · update #1
Just ignore it. Don't let other peoples stupidity and ignorance bug you. If she was this so called friend she would defend you no matter what. Here's what you can do, stop talking to her and when she tries talking to you. Tell her what's up, tell her
"I've known you for 5 years and when they were talking trash about me, you sat there and didn't even defend me. You say you're my best friend? You, sit and lie about almost any and everything. Didn't even talk to them to tell them to stop, because they still talk trash about me! If you were any kind of friend you wouldn't of let them hurt me this way, so I'm done talking to you, Goodbye"
2007-09-03 18:23:22 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How often do you see her? I don't think you owe her much of an explanation, frankly. I'd simply remove myself from her presence (how often do you see her?) and if she comes around or calls and wants to know what's up, then tell her. A true friend wouldn't sit idly by while others are trashing you- her silence equals complicity here. Good luck and believe me, there are way better friends to be had out there!
2007-09-04 09:03:23 · answer #2 · answered by Andy S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is using all of you. Dump her ***.
The bigger question here though is Why are you letting these people talk about you while you are standing right there? Stand up for yourself. They are nobodies!
2007-09-04 00:56:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i suggest just forgetting about her, becuz a true friend would never leave you for "cooler people." If shes just gonna let you get pushed around, then shes not your friend
2007-09-04 00:56:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to strengthen his backbone.
If nothing doing dump him aside and go ahead.
2007-09-04 01:08:52 · answer #5 · answered by Konfuzius 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her exactly how you feel. Then tell her that if she can not stand up for you, then she must not want to be your friend.
2007-09-04 00:57:15 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋