Problems taking the initiative/control or being the dominant one in a relationship?

Question

It feels like gender roles are set in stone, especially when you are a guy. If a person is a guy, therefore they do this, this and this and NEVER DO that, that and that. However, for me, it has never felt natural to take the initiative or be the dominant one in a relationship. I always assumed it was an extreme form of shyness but even when I break from the shyness; it still doesn’t feel natural to take the lead. I don’t know whether I am secretly sub and would rather be the submissive one in a relationship.

Are there any other guys affected by this problem? How have you been able to deal with it?

Answer 1

I am not a guy. But I can tell you about my Husband.

We married young and I would say I was the one that was the dominant one in the relationship. I took care of everything, other than bringing home the money.

As my Husband got older he became more confidant and now he is the dominant one in the relationship.

I think with age and self confidence things will change for you also.

Good Luck, faith