My husband has cheated before one girl he kissed one he had sex with and one he let her give him oral sex YES 3 times he has cheated and I stayed with him each time I forgave him all this within 2 and a half years but it has been almost a year and i think he did it again I moved to go to school because he's about to get deployed and I found pictures of him with a girl he had his hands around he waist he says that nothing happened that the pictures were a bad idea but he also didn't have his wedding ring on and didnt even tell me he was hanging out with this girl he says because he knew i would get mad. I'm so confused? I love him so much but I dont want to let him go whats wrong with me?
2007-09-03 17:01:01 · 19 answers · asked by pinkdummy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You have a real situation here. Sounds like you are the only one in this marriage. Why would a man get married only to cheat on his wife and break vows that he made to God and in front of man? I will never understand it. In your case, you have to ask if this marriage is worth saving? Is your husband putting your physical health in danger having sex with other women? Can you still love someone who is so willing to share himself with another woman? Is there any commitment involved where your love is concerned? You and your hubby really need to talk before he goes away. Once and for all you need to think about your life in terms of SINGLE. I don't think I could continue staying with someone who was unfaithful. The Word of God says you have to forgive him, but there is nothing that says you have to stay there.
2007-09-03 17:07:48 · answer #1 · answered by THE SINGER 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like you have lost some confidence on yourself. If you have a strong feeling that he cheated again, most likely he did. Go with your instinct. Cheating on you once was bad enough but to do it over and over.... this guy will not change if you don't leave him. If he truly loves you, he'll try and change but it will take time. You have to give him a hard time. don;t make it easy for him. I have a sister who ended up getting a divorce because her ex kept on cheating on her and she never left him until it was too much. My husband cheated on me once with someone I know and we almost got a divorce. I truly let him know that if he does it again, I was out of here. It takes time and process to work things out. I had to leave him temporarily to teach him a lesson. We attended Marriage Encounter Weekends and truly talked. Now, everyone is so amazed how he's changed so much and how much he loves me. He told me before that when men think they can get away with it, they'll do it again. You need to be strong and listen to your heart as you and you alone would know what is good for you.
2007-09-04 01:45:14 · answer #2 · answered by ods 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wives don't need to have a proof just to know if her man is cheating. Women's instinct is powerful than any other proof. A guy who cheated on his wife more than once. Hmmm, i doubt if he will stick with. Cheated once he will cheats more. You have to end that relationship and don't be a martyr. Because at the end you just the who will get hurt. He doesn't even think about your feelings as well as his kids. You have to love yourself. You can live without him. You still have your kids right.
2007-09-04 02:31:12 · answer #3 · answered by arlene_reigne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can say is WTF!
How could you go as low as to believing your husband? WTF was he taking a picture w/ her? Who gave a shyt if he did or didn't have his ring on? Would that be acceptable for you to do that?
Your putting up w/ to much shyt~! Sounds like as long as your w/ him your gonna continue to do so!
Because he knew you would get mad? How The F*** would he keep a picture around to remind him of this female!
Sorry but as long as you continue to let him...continue its down hill from there!
Have respect for yourself! As long as your married to Mr. Wrong ...how the hell are you gonna find Mr. Right!
Come on now! You got more sense then that! Of course he's gonna say nothing happened! Put 2 and 2 together? Your husband is bad news! Anyone ...hell even online can see that!
Please be strong and move on!
2007-09-04 00:22:24 · answer #4 · answered by Kendra420 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry to say this but if he has cheated on you 3 times and you are still there, then you know the answer, you just dont
wont to deal with what really going, he not going to change
you need to leave him along and find happiness else where
as long as you allow him to disrespect you he will., you have
to love your self before you will get love from someone else.
he not the one for you. but only you can do what is the right
thing for you.
2007-09-04 01:06:30 · answer #5 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know the saying
fool me once shame on you
fool me twice shame on me
to that end it YOUR fault that you are still with him
divorce him
you should have NEVER EVER let it to 3 times
once should have been you one and only one time for a "free pass"
and that's it
you lack self respect or the fear of starting over and finding a new man
to that end you are in an unhealthy relationship
not because you married a cheater
but because you do not love your self enough to leave when you KNOW it's a bad relationship to start
2007-09-04 00:09:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Like most women you are afraid that you can't make it on your own and that no one will ever love you. But guess what? Most women, when they make up their mind that they are fed up with with getting disrepected and treated like crap by their husbands and move on with their lives discover that they are much stronger than they gave themselves credit for being. I hate to sound harsh but your husband is a selfish jackass who thinks only of himself and he doesn't love nor respect you. The question you now have to ask yourself is whether or not you love yourself. He is always going to behave this way because he doesn't respect you. Myself and others can tell you this until we are blue in the face, however, it is totally up to you to face the facts. Once a cheater always a cheater. Once a dog always a dog. You either have to accept the situation for what is and be content with being unhappy or move on with your life and find someone who is going to love you and respect you for the fine woman you are. It is as simple as that. I will keep you in my prayers. Peace and God bless.
2007-09-04 00:15:00 · answer #7 · answered by cave man 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to get counseling and work on your self esteem and belive that you are worth more than your husband has been treating you. I would rather be an alive ex available for someone to come into my life and respect me and my commitment to him than becoming a dead wife that a husband killed me over an STD!! He isn't worth all the emotional stress he is putting in your life and I would find whatever it took for me to get the strength and courage to leave him and move on to something or someone better in my life.
2007-09-04 01:16:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is indeed wrong with you? You have tolerated your cheating husband way too many times. He doesn't love you and has no respect for you...when are you going to realize that? Do you actually need proof that he has cheated for the 4th time?
2007-09-04 00:10:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What do you love sooo much about this guy? hmmm? Do you love it so much that he cheated on your not once, but three separate times? Do you love it soo much that he lies to you about what he does and who he's with. Do you looove it soo much that he doesn't even acknowledge your marriage by NOT wearing his wedding ring? Seriously, how much do you think this jerk really loves you. He doesn't. Just picture how much he's loving you when he's allowing another woman to go down on him. Ooooh, he loooves you sooo much doesn't he? How much proof do you need? If you actually saw him naked on top of another woman, would you be stupid enough to take him back again?
2007-09-04 00:11:49 · answer #10 · answered by Sondra 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋