I am now a Junior in college and I'm realizing that I am tired of my friends, well most of them. I have been friends with most of them since high school and I think we have finally grown apart. My roommate last year and friend for 6 years is driving me crazy. I had to deal with a lot of issues with her boyfriend and I was fed up with her at the end of the school year. I saw her tonight for the first time since may and I felt like I had nothing to say to her. I am worried because these are the only close friends that I have and if I give up on the friendships, I have no one. It is very hard for me to get to know people. I am very guarded and dont trust people, not even my friends. Should I try to make new ones or finish college with no one?
2007-09-03 16:48:05 · 11 answers · asked by that one girl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Of course, you should always try to make friends but to maintain your present friends is also very important. Not sure why you are so upset with your friends though. You keep certain distance from her for a bit and think about the friendship once again, then you may come up with some new ideas.
2007-09-03 16:54:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that this is a very delicate challenge. You must keep in mind that some friends are only around for certain seasons of your life, we are all in consistent transitions of growth, maturity, and development. And those friends may have filled in the gap in your earlier years, they just may not fit the bill anymore, and this doesn't take away from them being cool people, it just means that at this time you all have a lack of the same interest. Keep them as friends just not in your fave 5! As your life is upgraded, so will the new friends be, that you will attract. Enjoy life and remember that sincere friends are hard to come buy. Oh yeah, all of us at Yahoo answers are your friend! NO WORRIES!
2007-09-04 00:04:44 · answer #2 · answered by SumMoR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't like them anymore then don't hang out with them just because you have nobody else. I must say I have never really felt like ditching my friends, maybe you just need some time alone or something? Do you feel you have gotten too mature for them now as I can relate to that. I had a child and all of a sudden I had all these new young mothers as friends. So I don't know how to make more, just be friendly? Do a hobby class or something?
2007-09-03 23:53:29 · answer #3 · answered by SmEllY! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep them since you are never able to forget them
So while trying to overcome UR problems with your old pals, try looking for some new friends too.
If you find some new friends and spend some time with them, your old friends miss and definitely appreciate you more. < As you said you guys know each other for a long time, and it seems to me that after a while ppl just take each others for granted>
Whatever you do, just DO NOT DUMP THEM because even if they are worthless ppl, they are the ppl you have a lotta memories with and you will always regret it.
I guess what I am trying to say is to spend some time on your own or away from them so that everyone has some time to MISS the other one ;)
2007-09-04 00:02:46 · answer #4 · answered by Zara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Almost every adult will tell you that they are not friends with the people from highschool anymore or if they are its a very few maybe just one. I think its just part of that transition from teenager to adult. Sometimes its just time to move on and dont ever think that you have noone because you always have youself. I dont think you can get friends by "looking" for them good friends just kind of find eachother. Stop worrying so much and have some fun youre in college!
2007-09-03 23:55:20 · answer #5 · answered by trisha d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Making new friends is always good, but stick to the old ones. I'm dealing with my best friend failing while I'm moving forward (for like almost two years now.) Him seeing me do good is motivating him. But please believe there will be times you just wanna smack them and say no more, or either have nothing else to say. But in the end time will decide who you will be your friend. I just have a really good heart, and haven't got screwed over yet. It can be rewarding. Don't EVER give up on your friends. Love comes and goes, but friends are forever.
2007-09-03 23:55:33 · answer #6 · answered by pnb0307 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are so many people in college you can make friends and you do know how it would be best to find someone else to hang with cause at least you will have some. its best to do this now and not lose face after all life is like that also you have ot move and be liked to beable to deal with life and this iis just one of the matters you must learn and go.
2007-09-07 23:45:58 · answer #7 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we outgrow our friends, it's a fact of life. our interests, passion, and ideas all change, and our friends don't always fit into our new life. keep in touch with her, you might just need a long break from eachother. and if you have that break, maybe you will be more inclined to meet new friends.
even guarded, shy girls make friends...
good luck
2007-09-03 23:54:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you don't really connect to these people like you used to and if you just keep them around because you aren't doing yourself any favors. try to do more social things so you can meet new people that you have things in common with. also figure out if it really is your old friends and not something with how you are feeling now. hope it works out.
2007-09-03 23:52:54 · answer #9 · answered by Roxanne G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say bye bye to them and move on..
there are alot of people out there to be friends with : )
2007-09-03 23:51:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋