Have you ever stayed in a relationship longer than you should have?

Question

What was the situation.... just curious...

Answer 1

Yes, My daughter's father..I kept hoping he would change...I prayed things would get better..I tried to calm him down from his extreme and violent behavior...I could no longer turn a blind eye or excuse his behavior for my daughter...{ He battles alcoholism }I stayed for my daughter's sake. I wanted us to be a family. He beat me...But when he beat my daughter ...That did it!...I split and never looked back... I'm grateful to God for all the help along the way. And my family and friends for their love and support. Today..3 years later..Myself and my daughter are doing great!..we both have an inner glow and peace and safety. We never had that with him.

Answer 2

7 years

Answer 3

Ennui. And fear. And insecurity, and lack of confidence, and lack of self esteem. A bad relationship is like an illness....it makes you think you will never feel any better, and there is no hope for recovery. I hesitated leaving someone who treated me with no respect because I came to believe that if someone who was supposed to love me treated me that way, then that must be the way I should be treated. It takes a long time, sometime, do undo the damage a poor relationship inflicts.

Answer 4

Sometimes I think so, (been with my husband for 14 years) but then this is my life and its difficult to change an entire life. I love my family and all of my in laws even if I want to kill my MIL from time to time. But my husband for all his faults is a basically good man. I could do alot worse, and I believe in my vows. For better or for worse, I made my choices 6 years ago when I signed that marraige license. I may complain, but I think that its mostly a habit, and I have my two beautiful boys so, it cant all be bad!!

Answer 5

Ohh yes. The guy was a complete control freak, I literally wasn't aloud to go anywhere without him, when he went to work, he had his family watch me like I was a freakin' child, && then anytime we'd get into an arguement, he'd take my glasses, so I couldn't see, my shoes, cause he thought that'd stop me from goin anywhere,he'd unplug the phones so I couldn't call anyone, one time, he actually cut the phone lines. And even sometimes take the phone to work with him. I got so tired of his shet...The last arguement we ever had, he was punching me & kickin me, he had me pinned on the floor, but somehow I got my legs over him, and kicked him the face, breaking his front teeth...I ran outta there. I shoulda knew to stay away from him after I heard rumors that he lost his virginity to his mother..which turned out to me true...How effed up is that!

Answer 6

4 years wasted.

What was the situation? I guess I really never cared enough to even make the effort to leave. Says a lot about those 4 years, doesn't it?

Answer 7

I did, I thought I could change him by sticking with him for as long as I could. I wanted to be there for him everytime he needed somebody. I was always telling myself, I'm going to treat him like he's my everything so if we ever break up, he's going to miss me badly because he would know that no one will treat him better than I did. 5 years later, I got really tired just being everything and loving him more than he loved me. And I didnt really wanna spend thre rest of my life waiting for him and our relationship not going anywhere. So I decided to break up with him after 5 years. He couldnt handle with me not being around anymore, we would still talk to each other every night and he would cry to me. I told him that he needed to change and that I wasn't going to stick around any longer. He was really depressed when I moved out of town, I just had to get away.

On my birthday, he surprised me. He told me I had to go see him if it was going the be the very last time. I kind of hesitated a little but then i decided oh what the heck. He took me out that night, I didn't know he had something planned for me. We were at the very top of the building looking down at the city light, then all of a sudden he got down in one knee and proposed to me. He really made me cry.

The point is, All of my hard work by sticking with him and loving him more even if he didn't love me as much as I did, was really worth it. It's like I fell inlove with him all over again.

Answer 8

Yes I did. Unfortunately I was in love aand she was the first women to "say" she loved me back. We were together for almost 3 1/2 years. She used me for my money and made me wait for her to call me. Most times she spent more time with her ex then me. I was so in love that I bout her everything and my parents even helped her with college. I proposed to her and she said yes. Then she said she had her ring stolen and I bought her a 2nd one. I think back to all the money and wasted time I had spent. I realize now that I was just desperate I didn't date until I was 18 and I was so happy to be with someone. "Even a user" that I was blinded. She left me for a guy she met at her new job and she ended up pregnant and she uses him now. I moved on after a few years of feeling bad for myself. "Which I shouldn't have because it was my fault." Now I am happy and married and have a child. I found that someone who love me for me.

Answer 9

Yeah!! I stayed with my ex-husband for almost 5 yrs. That was 4 yrs too many. It wasn't long after we had gotten married that his true self came to the surface. He was abusive and controlling (goes hand in hand, right?) I thought I couldn't make it without him BUT LOOK AT ME NOW!!

Answer 10

unfortunately yes. He was abusive and very scarey. He finally left ME when I had a grandchild- he couldn't stand to share my attention with a baby! Thank g-d for my first beautiful grandson who is now 11- I've been single ever since and plan to stay that way.