we just started high school and we're both meeting a lot of new people. and i'm cool with her getting alot of new close friends, i'm happy for her. but she isn't talking to me as much anymore, and she isn't as nice to me, and she's moving me down in her top eight on myspace. and i don't know if i sound paranoid or whatever, but i just really don't want to lose my best friend. we've been through alot together, and now it's like none of that even matters. i just don't know what to do. :[
2007-09-03 15:21:23 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Sounds like your friend is trying to be a social climber... looking for status by hanging out with "cool kids". Truth is, people do grow apart. They do outgrow each other.
You were probably there for her when she needed you most, and that was enough.
I would suggest that you join some clubs or other activities at school to make some new friends who have the same interests as you.
At some point, you need to evaluate each relationship and ask, "What does this person bring to the table?" Is this person a mooch? A user? A manipulator? A drama-queen? A time-waster? Or is this person your cheering section? Provide insight? Make you laugh?
As you go down the list of traits and how each thing makes you feel, you will know who you should be spending more time with. That alone will make your life better.
2007-09-03 15:29:34 · answer #1 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Been there before. Entering High School is hard. Sounds like she is trying to connect with a lot of new people and yes, leave you behind. It's normally but it sucks. I think every friendship faces these kind of challenges. I would suggest just being there for when she comes off her roller coaster ride because you are stable for her. It might take a while but hang in there. Don't allow her to be mean to you and if she does walk away.
You may want to meet some new people to. This way your feelings and mind are not thinking about her all the time. Trust me, it will be good for you. Sometimes friends need space when there's big things going on in life. It wouldn't hurt to wave to her once in a while just to let her know you still care. Just reverse the roles until time passes..you will come out smelling like a bed of roses because you are a true friend and friends are hard to find. She should be so lucky and if she's not you will make other friends.
Good luck with school.
2007-09-03 15:42:31 · answer #2 · answered by JW 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man it looks like that's happening to everyone in highschool. Me too. Except my friend was so rude to me I dont WANT her back... anyway: Try to invite her to your house JUST the two of you. Plan some fun things, just talk, do nothing together, as long as your having a good time, she'll -hopefully- see how awsome you are and talk to you more. If it gets worse, maybe talk to her tell her that you're feeling left out. Alot of times people dont even realise that they're pushing someone away.
Best of Luck!
2007-09-03 15:44:21 · answer #3 · answered by Marissa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happened to me when I went into 7th grade, but the other way around. My 6th grade friends were no good at sports and I was, so I started hanging out with the sports kids more, only they were real arseholes. I was being extremely selfish, I just wanted my social status to go up but I neglected my real friends. One day the sport guys decided I was no good, but after a lot of apologies my friends took me back. So, I think the problem lies with your friend, not with you. However, confronting them about it might only make it worse. Unless they realise what they're doing to you, then you might even be better off without her.
2007-09-03 15:30:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know how u feel my best friend is doing that to me to just because her cuzin is living with her for a while and since then shes not tlking to me and when im there with her she just stands there and i know its high school but still we've been friends for a long time just tell her how you feel thats what i did and now we tlk more it helps to tell the person how feel with everything thats going on
2007-09-03 15:29:18 · answer #5 · answered by Mz. Flor 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are some uncommon souls that have authentic valor and infinite braveness. those are the heroes in our collective human adventure that motivate and nourish our own inner hero, the hero of our own delusion that Joseph Campbell speaks of. without them to take place on earth what's ability interior of us, the heroes will fail. This individual you describe merits the respect and affection of each human. Your poem touched me deeply.
2016-10-09 22:01:02 · answer #6 · answered by chen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋