2007-09-03 14:50:30 · 34 answers · asked by BELL F 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Did you ask him why not? He might believe that sex is only for producing babies, since he is a pastor, and you guys are not ready for kids yet.
2007-09-03 14:56:42 · answer #1 · answered by terliuke 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can only imagine the hurt and bad feelings you are having. You should have a nice, calm talk with him and try to find out WHY. Tell him to just be frank with you no matter how bad it may sound! No matter what answer he gives you, you should ask that the two of you go to a professional marriage counselor and get to the bottom of this and try to reach a resolution that will be acceptable for a lifetime (and not have him change for a short period of time). You two may have very different ideas of what marriage entails and it should be clear whether or not you are "equally yoked". If not, you need to part as friends. This has gone unresolved for too long. Apparently you love him but if he is not willing to change, you are strong enough to get over him. We all make mistakes in relationships, in our choices and in life in general that is why God says his grace is sufficient. The man in the pulpit and the man in your home can be very different. Pray and ask God to help and direct you.
2007-09-03 16:29:26 · answer #2 · answered by Ann M. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why is my question I do not understand why, I am a christain and as long as you are married what is the problem with sleeping together or him showing you affection. On the serious side though look into the teaching of Dr Gary Smalley "keys to a loving relationship" This man has some awesome teaching on relationship and it is christian based. Good luck
2007-09-03 14:57:50 · answer #3 · answered by ron j 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Either this is about birth control and some "christian sects" who literally only get together for sex when it is time for baby-making... or it is something else.
Is the guy functioning correctly? Can he get wood?
I would check his internet records... see what sites he is visiting. I have a lady friend who married a church deacon who what also the next in line to be pastor. The guy married this friend of mine as "cover" and then he continued to date gay men.
2007-09-03 14:59:55 · answer #4 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't sound like a pastor, pastors know how to treat their wives! He sounds more like he's GAY! I'm sorry for being blunt. You can actually divorce this man on grounds he hasn't consumated the marriage.
2007-09-03 15:03:05 · answer #5 · answered by butterfly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this what you want, if not tell him and if he will not change, leave him. You have every right to have your needs and wants filled so don't let him have that power over you. He is a pastor you said, then he needs to re-read the bible.
2007-09-03 15:02:21 · answer #6 · answered by Annie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you asked him why he doesn't touch you? Could he be gay? I don't think it has to do with he been a pastor. There is something else going on, and you seriously need to find out. He might have a psychological problem.
2007-09-03 16:02:13 · answer #7 · answered by Ricardo R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remind him that in the word of GOD a husband is to be physical with his wife, and the wife is to do the same. If a seperation occurs then they are to reunite so the enemy (satan) cant set up a strong hold in the marriage to tear them apart.
2007-09-03 15:24:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to read the Bible. He obviously isn't a very good pastor if he doesn't know the Scriptures about his obligation to his wife (meaning sexual intimacy).
2007-09-03 21:10:53 · answer #9 · answered by missmuffin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably gay. Go to another church for counselling. They will not be biased like the counsellors in your own church. You feel alone and frustrated. Go for a holiday visiting your relatives for a month and take the kids.
2007-09-03 14:58:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋