My husband wants to have sex anytime. I'm not in the mood as much as he is. So he says he feels rejected. What can I do for us to meet in the middle or for me to have a higher sex drive?
2007-09-03 14:49:09 · 12 answers · asked by Kimberly P 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get over it or he's going to start looking elsewhere.
I have 6 kids and my hubby & I have sex every other day at least! I look forward to it. If you're having trouble with getting into it, use some lube or try something new.
There are men on here asking questions ALL THE TIME that say
"My wife doesn't want to have sex and I am thinking about an affair"
Get it together!
Good Luck!
PS- If you keep it fresh, try something new, find something that works for you...gets you going!
Different Positions: Google "Kama sutra" or buy a book
Initiate it more often!
Different rooms in the house
Use a vibrator...with him, in front of him, or on his ba!!s while you're giving him oral
Oils & Lotions
Have you tried mints or halls cough drops with oral sex....One of my FAVORITE games to play!!
I could go on all day...
2007-09-03 14:54:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
Dear Kimberly,
This situation will not last all your life. Enjoy what you can and pretend that you are as highly sexed as he. After a bit, you will find that you are enjoying the encounters just as much as he. Make him feel he is the most wonderful man in the world. After a while, you will find that you are able to enjoy things just as much as he enjoys them. Yes, we women are slower to start than men, but once we start up (even if it isn't our own idea), we are just as capable as a man of enjoying the fun. Be sure to get your own satisfaction most of the time, too. That's the lovely "pay back" that you get for holding up your end of your sexual relationship.
Think about this: if your husband suddenly stopped letting you know that he wants some lovin', wouldn't you worry? I certainly would!! You are a very fortunate woman that you are able to "turn him on" even when you aren't trying. There are many more women out there who would love to be able to do that, but can't.
Marriage is a lifetime of compromise, but if you play your cards right - and with enthusiasm - you won't feel as though you have given anything up at all... and you both will win!!
Good luck, hon!! You can do this.
2007-09-03 15:02:28 · answer #2 · answered by Peanut 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
before you were married did you have sex all the time ? if so ; then what changed ? did you have a child , are you on medication , are you stressed out do to bills, work, a family member who is sick ... find out what is different. if you were not going sex crazy before then he should already know . and he can not change that . sorry to tell you but you have to sit down and talk about it . i don't know how old you are but i do know that a women's sex drive is very high in their 30s. maybe then the shoe will be on the other foot . but there are women who do want to have sex all the time ; it just isn't you right now . you are not the only one out there . you will be o.k.
2007-09-03 15:33:21 · answer #3 · answered by blue knight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you step away from the situation to all "him" to settle matters at home. If you continue to see this gentleman in the future, I strongly suggest you make your intents clear(er) ]
Sex is a natural part of any relationship...and...although each individual is different, not being physically aroused/attractive to your spouse usually means there are underlining issue/problem.
Talk with you doctor or simply sit down with your husband and discuss any problems the two of you maybe going through or have recently gone through. There could be things that he has done that makes you feel less attractive to him or perhaps there are things that you're experiencing in/outside the home which may cause you to feel less desirable...Regardless...COMMUNICATION is the key...Talk it out...Good luck
2007-09-03 15:10:15 · answer #4 · answered by chowboss74 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband has to understand that sometimes you're just not in the mood and no amount of enticing is going to change that. Talk to him about that and let him know that you're not rejecting him, but sex. Don't have sex when you're not in the mood because you'll start to resent sex or view it as something you owe your husband (a wifely duty) instead of something you enjoy together. This will make your sex drive even lower!!
Ways to increase your sex drive though, well if you're taking hormonal contraceptives, talk to your doctor because sometimes they effect your sex drive and you'll want to switch brands and/or methods. Are you spending time thinking about sex? Fantasizing? Masturbating? If not, start! Don't do it for him though, do it for yourself!
2007-09-03 14:55:47 · answer #5 · answered by skunk pie 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Ditto here. But the problem is that our issues usually turn into wars.
I think a good thing to do would be to negotiate timewise. I suppose that sex, like anything else, can be negotiated. Compromises and agreements can be made. I simply can't do that because my guy has his strict schedule (oh.. gee..did I sound sarcastic?)
2007-09-03 14:54:36 · answer #6 · answered by mosaic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is getting his own needs met before yours. That's why it is so quick and he wants itlike a humping dog all the time. If he spent the time pleasing you you would be in bed for two or more hours. Try out on yourself what you like and then write it down for him in an envelope and sendit to his work.
He either does what you want or you can kick him to the curb. Or you can go gay for a while.
2007-09-03 14:56:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2007-09-03 14:55:03 · answer #8 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to get over himself. He can't have it everytime he thinks about it. Then you need to increase your sex drive, or at least fake it every now and then.
Seeing a couples counselor would be good too.
2007-09-03 14:52:59 · answer #9 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Just talk to him and tell him that you have limits (whatever they are). Then talk to him and determine what is adequate for him and not so tiring for you.
2007-09-03 14:54:51 · answer #10 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋