Do you think marriage is overrated?

Question

I am haing a hard time getting over a crush on a married man, that I feel like I am such a horrible person.

I just feel like marriage is a thing of the past. I feel like it is a business transaction, a cure to lonely nights solely used for comfort and financial stability.

If anyone has any insight into why marriage is worth it, I would love to know. I respect his marriage and I would not act on anything, but I don't think marriage is for me.

Answer 1

I certainly hope you didnt act on your crush and try and become this man's lover because you deserve so much better then to lower your own standards to become his occassional sex fling.

As for it being over rated no I dont think it is , I have been married twice and even though it didnt work both time's I dont regret my decision to do it .

Its not just about curing lonely night's or for comfort and if you think this way it make's me wonder if you came from a home where your parents marriage ended emotionally when you were young so you only saw the bad years and wished they'd split just to make your life easier emotionally , I may be wrong but my parents divorced when I was 5 and I was greatful especially with the fight's they used to get into.

Marriage isnt for everyone , so just go day by day and if you find the 1 you'll know , I certainly hope your heart is open to love and if you do find the 1 you wont run and hide just because of past experiences.

Marriage may not last a life time , but once you get over the pain of divorce and over the anger of why you divorced you will remember the good parts and why you married in the 1st place and hopefully find peace through recognition.

Answer 2

Marriage is not over rated or a business transaction and also is not for everyone. Marriage is worth it only if both people want it and are willing to commit to it. People get married with the idea that things will be perfect and trust me I have been married a long time and it is far from perfect but we work through our problems togetter as one and always make sure we never lose each other in the day to day issues.

Answer 3

don't feel horrible for falling for a married man. many of them are quite attractive on so many levels...i know, i have one (my husband) your feelings about marriage being a cure for lonely nights and financial stability make me laugh. i've spent many lonely nights waiting for my husband to return from "the game" with his buddies. (if fact, i am an NFL widow) and more then once, he has spent most of our savings on a new "toy" (who needs a 60 inch TV????) but through it all he is my husband and when everyone else in this cold, hard world is gone, he will be there holding my hand. that is why marriage is worth it.

i wonder if your cynical feelings about the worthlessness of marriage could simply be your wishful thinking. if in fact marriage was so meaningless, then you could have your married man without guilt.

no, dear, i don't think marriage is for you. well, at least not right now. perhaps one day you will meet Mr. Right. but be ready to be lonely and broke sometimes....cause it's for better or worse sweetheart....till death do you part...

Answer 4

Marriage isn't for everyone but it is a sacred thing between two people who are truely committed to each other. It's about having someone there for the good and the bad. Someone to talk about your accomplishments and cry on their shoulder whenever the world has kicked you so many times you can't get back up on your own. It's someone to believe in when there's nothing left to believe. It really doesn't have anything to do with money anymore...at least it shouldn't. Most people can support themselves these days- but about having a world where only the two of you are and noone can touch that.

Answer 5

To many marriage has just become a business transaction, where the vows are nothing more then just a pretty sounding thing but nothing to be taking seriously.
This is why so many divorce over stupid things (like she never had my dinner ready or he never helped clean the house, someone just lost interest, or they weren't who they originally thought they were) Now I'm not saying that divorce is not needed sometimes because if they cheated on you, then unless you can fully forgive them, then it's over.
But on the other hand, there are people like me who do see marriage as more. It means that you've found someone who you can talk to and relate to. Who you don't want out of your life and don't mind waking up next to every single day left in your life. Now to come to this conclusion you obviously have to get to know this person, and respect them in order to work out life's little bumps.

Answer 6

Marriage is hard to deal with. I have dealt with it for almost 10 1/2 years. However, this past Saturday I was told we need to go our separate ways.

Marriage is a business transaction. We are staying "together" because of our assets. It's going to be difficult to sell off our properties and split all of the stuff.

Marriage is worth it if you find the right person, if you intend on having children, and if you intend on working on the marriage as if you would die if it didn't work out.

Answer 7

Marriage is not overrated, but a lot of people marry for all the wrong reasons. A lot of the time lust is mistaken for love. When the lust is gone you have nothing, whereas if you truly married for love, and the latter days of your marriage there is no lust, you still have the love. Does that make sense to you. Besides, why would you want to be with someone who has already shown you that he can't be trusted, because of cheating on his wife.

Answer 8

You feel like that about marriage because you've never been in one and never been in love.

Maybe one day you'll get it, or you could spend you life as a spinster. Your choice.

Answer 9

Maybe hell is for you....idk??